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I've just realised that I spend all my time fixing/advising other people with their friendship problems but no one actually cares about me. It's like I'm an impartial messenger who plays a counsellor role..but when it comes down to it, I've got no one close and there's no one there for me :frown:

*feels lonely* anyone feel the same?

Reply 1

*starry_eyed_*

14

aww hun

People are forever telling me that there is always someone who cares about you, you just don't know it! I hope thats true! I know what you mean though, my nights are spent discussing my friends' relationship problems and listening to them bitching about life. At the end of the conversation, they'll slip in a quick "you ok?" and then off in the next 5minutes!

If you really are feeling lonely, why not kick up a fuss about it (though not advisable :p:

). Just let your friend sknow when you want to talk about you for a change. They're your friends, its their job to listen! Failing that, I'm always free to talk :smile:

Reply 2

Evil-Tuna

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I'm sure Jesus felt similar

:frown:

Reply 3

UpliftMof0

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StripeyGirl

I've just realised that I spend all my time fixing/advising other people with their friendship problems but no one actually cares about me. It's like I'm an impartial messenger who plays a counsellor role..but when it comes down to it, I've got no one close and there's no one there for me :frown:

*feels lonely* anyone feel the same?

You know I have felt like this and so often still do feel like this a lot of the time. not so much now but it was my basic outlook on life throughout all of my last year at secondary school.

I've always been good at giving advice (or so im told) so people tend to come to me and in some ways i used to enjoy it, but as soon as I began to feel like no-one really cared for me i got quite down and depressed about it.

typical teenage things; trying to get attention to get people to notice me and the like which iddnt really work and made it worse.

I cant think to any specific point at which I realised that I did have friends who were definatly there for me. but another issue I had was the feeling that I had lots of 'friends' but no real good friends, like I saw all these guys and girls with their best mates and I felt left out by that.

I don't know how much this may apply to you or not, but for me personally, it was all about swallowing a bit of my pride and letting the people I trusted know my problems, and realising that you dont need a best friend to have good mates. Im not particularly selfish either so laying all my **** onto them was difficult but well worth it in the end.

Im not sure if this post really goes anywhere but take what youcan from it

Chin up!

Upliftmof0

Reply 4

darryl

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StripeyGirl

I've just realised that I spend all my time fixing/advising other people with their friendship problems but no one actually cares about me. It's like I'm an impartial messenger who plays a counsellor role..but when it comes down to it, I've got no one close and there's no one there for me :frown:

*feels lonely* anyone feel the same?

Yeh, its in some people's nature to wanna help people (I count myself among them)

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Reply 5

Anonymous #1

StripeyGirl

I've just realised that I spend all my time fixing/advising other people with their friendship problems but no one actually cares about me. It's like I'm an impartial messenger who plays a counsellor role..but when it comes down to it, I've got no one close and there's no one there for me :frown:

*feels lonely* anyone feel the same?

That's because people are *******s.

I realise that I have noone to talk to. The sad truth is that I can probably confide more in some of the people on my msn list, many of whom I have never met, than anyone around me.

Reply 6

JitsuCol

1

It's the downside of being the person people turn to when things go wrong. I wish I could say I was in a similar position but I rapidly became a basket case. Things get better though, everyone changes and it'll be fine :smile:

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Reply 7

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StripeyGirl

I've just realised that I spend all my time fixing/advising other people with their friendship problems but no one actually cares about me. It's like I'm an impartial messenger who plays a counsellor role..but when it comes down to it, I've got no one close and there's no one there for me :frown:

*feels lonely* anyone feel the same?

Don't worry love, I'll be close to you if you want.

Reply 8

DoMakeSayThink

15

I felt like this for quite a while. Recently broke up from a nigh on 8 month relationship, though, and so then it was everyone else's turn to listen. I only have maybe 3 people I can confide everything in, and I'm generally a pretty sociable person.

Reply 9

WaW™

3

o i hate it when i feel like that! like you i give advice blah blah blah to others but i dont have anyone trully close. this is mainly my fault as i push people away by not answering phone or txt messages at all! recently in half term i have been revising and my best mate who i thought i was close with who called me everyday incidently has not called and whenever i have he has ignored me! :frown:

but i think this is due to exams and crap! i also said to him we should not talk as much as i will be going to a different university! Now i have come to the conclusion that we are good friends but not best friends. we may send the odd txt or talk on msn but after 6th form we will be nothing but distant sweet memories! :frown:

Oh well its life it sucks and it is damn right depressing! :rolleyes:

Reply 10

theonehitwonder

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wow... you got people to help, I wish I even had that. :frown:

Reply 11

Tariqé

I know how you feel stripeygirl, but the reality is that people do care about you.

Maybe people don't seem to be close to you because you're not sharing your feelings and worrys with them like how they are sharing theirs with you? You seem to be a "rock" to many people, someone who they rely on to help sort out their problems, and because of this you think that you always have to say strong in front of these people...

All im saying is that if you have problems, share it with those who you trust and care for, and you will find that they do care about you! but they wont show a concern if you dont let them know that your not ok!

Take care :smile:

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