Hey first relationship post here!
Me and my gf (me 18 her 19) have been together for 1 year and 4 months. She goes to university and Im going to the same uni as her in october too (top uni!), we are madly in love, and before i get the whole "why would you go to uni because of a girl?" i didnt, i actually wanted to go there before i met her and it is a top uni.
Anyway problem is, clubbing!! As its my final year in year 13, lots of 18th birthday parties have come and gone and I have declined 95% because of my insecure gf. She starts to cry and say stuff like "you wanna go to a club without me? why would you? youre taken? you have no eyes for others you say?" but truth is, i just wanna go to have a good time with my boys and i have told her that countless times! its even resulted to me going to club behind her back once!!! i didnt want to but it was my best friends bday and she said our relationship would be over if i went coz its choosing between her and a club??!!! ridiculous right?
Now i am madly in love with her dont get me wrong, never cheated, during her freshers she went wild and got drunk but didnt do me wrong, she used to go clubbing in the first 4 months of uni, but even myself (who is paranoid too) got sick of it after a while because she went clubbing a lot with her uni friends yet she would get pissy about it with me? so i told her to be on equal terms with me and just not go anymore and coz shes doing law, she decided to stop from january and ain't been clubbing since. Her exams have finished now, and her mates are inviting her out to a whole weeks of "refreshers" coz exams are over and she wants to go and says "girls have a different mindset when going to clubbing, we go to dance with teh girls not to pull blablabla" so this results to me getting pissed off!
I have no problem whatsoever with her going out clubs with her uni girls and having a good time BUT I get so angry when I want to go with my friends (i have been clubbing once in my life before meeting her, and once while being with her but she didnt know), she becomes a pain in the backside and results to "you say you love me, you say you only have eyes for me, why would u wanna go clubbing? youve got a girlfreind? blablabla" !!!! its driving me insane!!
any advice on how to sort this would be great, im going holiday soon with my friends and shes being a pain about the nightlife, its not a clubbing destination (Egypt) but even then, its a holiday i wanna chill with my friends right? Times when she argues with me, i just feel like "maybe i should just leave her, if shes making me choose between her and going to a club". I love her so much, regardless of issues like this she is amazing! i dread to lose her guys, but at the same time, when she says "if you go clubbing, we are over!" i just feel like my life is being controlled. I may indeed be whipped but its only because i feel like i have a great girlfriend and i dont need anyone else.
Thank you