when's the right time?

Anonymous #1

When is the right time to tell your gf/bf that you love them? And should it be the guy or girl that says it first?

Reply 1

..anna..

when ever you realise you do love them!!!
And it doesnt matter who says it first

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Just i know it's not love yet because we have only been together for a month but during that month we have dun stuff that couples sometimes do over 6 months! I really feel for my boyfriend and i have told him that and he feels the same way. I'm 18 and he's my first boyfriend so all these feelings i have are really confusing me so i don't know when i will be able to call it love

Reply 3

..anna..

well if its not love yet, dont say it!
Just cos youve done stuff doesnt mean that you have to say i love you.
:biggrin:

Reply 4

grace

my ex didn't tell me he loved me until after 7 months and i didn't say it back until a good while after that (even though i still wasn't sure; thinking back i think i really didn't and just felt kind of pressured into it). my current bf told me after one month and i said it back straight away! i knew i loved him after i'd only known him for about three days. odd. so it just depends really, there's no specific length of time, although i'd be hesitant about saying it and err on the side of caution because love is a big deal and people seem to use the word too flippantly these days.

personally, i'd rather wait for the guy to say it to me, but i'm a traditional, non-feminist kind of girl so don't listen to me....

Reply 5

high priestess fnord

hehe i told my bf about 3 months in and he told me he might beleive me if i said it again after the post sex bias had worn off XD

Reply 6

strawberry

I told my ex-boyfriend I loved him five months after we met online....then we met the following summer, got together...and I told him I was in love with him two weeks later. We did a lot of things that a couple of longer standing would've already done...but we never pressured each other into saying those three words. Besides, it takes me a while to fall in love with someone.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

we make jokes about it but he has never looked serious at me and said 'i love you' jus 'i really like you' but then again he shows his love in different ways, he doesn't have to say the words he does it through his actions but i guess it won't mean anything until he does say it

Reply 8

cinder

the right time is when you feel it
My boyfriend told me in the first week, I didn't think he was serious and laughed at him...he wasn't happy. I didn't return his sentiments at all, I certainly didn't feel it so even after he did I didn't.
Three years later and I'm taking it seriously now.