I just don't trust him

Hi all

I'll bet this isn't the first thread like this that you have read and sure it won't be the last - This is really killing me so I just hope a few of you can help me. This is going to be a long one as I'll start from the beginning.

I've been with my boyfriend 10 months and things haven't been easy. On our first date throughout the night I received in excess of 80 withheld number phonecalls on my mobile (silent ones) and it turned out to be his 'ex' but in the morning when he left my house she actually spoke to me telling me she was his current girlfriend, about to buy house together etc etc. I didn't think we would see each other again but then he paid for a weekend away together a couple of weeks later, where the phonecalls continued. She asked for him by name and when I asked who it was she replied 'his girlfriend'. Both times he swore blind they weren't together. She'd sent him a dirty pic of her letting him know what was waiting for him when he got back... Anyway things happened and we 'got together' for real and we started seeing each other regularly. Anyway a few months later he was supposed to come to mine (he lives about 50 miles from me) but I couldn't get hold of him. I tried all day and eventually I got a text saying his mate was in hospital. I said I understood he wouldn't want to be too far away from home at this time so I would come to him and I set off. When I got there I couldn;t get an answer at his house. I tried back door, froont door, nothing... Went round to the garden and shouted up to him ... nothing. As I made my way round the front of the house again I heard the door shut so I ran round to try and catch him and knocked again. When the door opened again there was a girl there. In just a t-shirt. I thought I recognised her from the pic message while me and him were away. I just got in my car and drove home in complete shock. I didn;t hear anything from him for a few days when out of the blue I got a text saying 'The least you could have done was apologise for scaring my SISTER and the kids half to death - they called the police'!!!! WTF So we split up but never lost touch. Once things had calmed down he text me saying he missed me etc etc and we got back together about 4 weeks later.

But since then obviously now I have a MASSIVE insecurity problem. He's never been good with answering his phone but there are so many things that I don;t feel add up. I don;t know if its just major paranoia and any little doubt I have I link back to the time at his and expect there to be something wrong?? Changing phone numbers, finding more pics on his phone, some innocent some not so.... I still havent; met his parents or his family after nearly a year. He always comes to my house, I've never been to his new one he moved into almost 8 MONTHS ago. I just feel so insecure and all this is just mounting up and mounting up. How can I get over this??? I'm so sorry for such a long post. I hope you can help xxx

Reply 1

Crazster

Okay, talk to him. Tell him you want ot meet his family and see his new house, especially his sister. If he is difficult, end it. He has to prove to you he's serious, especially after the phycho ex (most definetly an ex, because otherwise she would of just dumped him for seeing another girl, especially if she knew about it! On the same hand how the heck did she get your number!!!).

Next, ask him why he doesn't answer his phone, and why he deidn't answer his house when you came up! Non-satisfactory answers just dump him, seriously, he needs to prove it to you.

Reply 2

high priestess fnord

very suspicious. tbh i would just dump him and be over with it.

Reply 3

Pandy

Yeah, exactly. Don't waste your time with the wrong person. If you can't trust him, you can't trust him. Stop kidding yourself and wasting both your times.