bored with bf?

Right, well I've been with my bf for just over two years. the last few months, haven't been so good. we don’t' seem to be in that girlf/boyf stage anymore (if that makes sense) like we'll go to the pics, and I'll see other couples out holding hands and looking all loved up, and then there's my bf walking in front of me, without even looking at me. Little things she does really annoy me too, I mean, we’ll go out, and he’ll find anything/something to moan at!! It’s as if he can no longer have a good with me anymore. I mean don't get me wrong, when we 1st got together, all was great. we were loved up, and like every other hand-holding couple (lol) Lately it just seems like the romance has gone out of our relationship. it seems things have gotten to conformable if that makes sense. I don’t know what to do, I love him, but I don’t think I love him in the same way anymore?

I’m sorry, I’m just going on here. If something who reads this can relate to what I’m saying, or offer any advice. Then please, I’d love to hear some.

Thanks

Reply 1

dh00001

16

sorry its time to break up.
you need to talk to one another and you migh, MIGHT, be able to sort things out but it would seem the ball is in his court

Reply 2

Talya

16

Sounds like you two need to sit down and have an honest conversation about what you want. It's all about whether you want to, or feel you could, work things out :smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Sounds like he's not getting his carbs, and hasn't got energy. Maybe make him some pasta (high in carbohydrates) that might boost his glucose levels, so that he can be Mr joyful again.

Reply 4

The Mudman

10

Anonymous

Sounds like he's not getting his carbs, and hasn't got energy. Maybe make him some pasta (high in carbohydrates) that might boost his glucose levels, so that he can be Mr joyful again.

Whether you're serious or taking the mick, that's the funniest post I've read all night! A shame you're anon, or I'd rep you!

Reply 5

darryl

13

The Mudman

Whether you're serious or taking the mick, that's the funniest post I've read all night! A shame you're anon, or I'd rep you!

Reply 6

xavier2k3

1

Sit him down and tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. From there you'l know what's next to do.

regards
--marty

Reply 7

gyrase

3

The Mudman

Whether you're serious or taking the mick, that's the funniest post I've read all night! A shame you're anon, or I'd rep you!

I was actually waiting for the anon 1 to react to my post, but meh, tis' was my post. :biggrin:

Reply 8

JitsuCol

1

Anonymous

I’m sorry, I’m just going on here. If something who reads this can relate to what I’m saying, or offer any advice. Then please, I’d love to hear some.Thanks

You didn't wind on at all. I think it's not uncommon, but as said, you need to talk about it. Maybe try something different when you go out? It could be that you simply spend too much time together and need to give each other space to be with friends.

I can't imagine ditching things after such a relationship, but I hope things take a turn for the better :smile:

Reply 9

zain88

1

why do some people think the solution to every relationship problem is to dump them? when you get married, you are not going to be loved up 24/7, it will wear away and it will be up to the both of you to keep that spark alive.

similarly, but not exactly, the initial loved up/mystery stage of bf/gf relationships wears away. you both should talk about whether you think its worth the effort (ie if there is still something there) and then work at it to see if things can get better. i mean you can try new things together, instead of going to the cinema go somewhere else, do things where you both have to work together, play a game of badminton or something, whatever. it will make both of you see new qualities in each other.

Reply 10

pumpkin7

13

listen. the only way you are going to sort this out is if you talk to your boyfriend and find out what is going through his head. if you aren't thinking along the same lines, then there isn't much point being together. however, don't end everything without talking first. this may solve all your problems because you have just had a breakdown of communications, or it could make you see that you shouldn't be together.
zain is right in saying that the loved up stage of having a partner can sometimes fade, and just needs that special night to relight the flame between you. other times, it sticks around. it just depends on you and your boyfriend. she is also right in telling you to try different things. it can get very repetitive doing the same old things week in, week out. try taking a short trip together down to london or something. it's always good to spend some quality time with your partner.
another suggestion would be that if you are seeing too much of your boyfriend, to take a short break, or cut down on the amount of time you spend with him. it can be hard spending so much time with someone, but it does work.
all i can say is that communication is the key. me and my boyfriend are always talking about our relationship, though sometimes he can annoy me like i'm sure i annoy him sometimes. it happens to most couple. his 'thing' at the moment is talking about other girls boobs, though a few months ago it was constantly talking about stuff he was doing with his best friend.. and before that it was how stupid he could be.. just in general.

you have to strike a happy medium in a relationship. if something isn't right, you have to talk about it with your partner. it is the only way.

Reply 11

flora

7

I know what you mean. The relationship i was in at college went stale around the 2 year mark, with the spark gone and nothing much to say to each other. But he was my best friend and i was too scared to end it/confront it, so let things drag on and get even worse for about another 6 months until i really fell out of love with him and things could never be worked out :frown:

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Moral of the story: think about how you feel deep down. If you really love your bf and want to rescue things then do not let frustrations like this build up to the point where it's irreparable- talk to him openly, see if he's feeling the same way and try to work things out- do different things when you go out together, or take a break from each other and see how you feel. If you don't think that things can improve and know you don't want to stay with him for the forseeable future then end it and move on- it's a brave decision and it'll be hard at first but better for you both in the long run.

For me i think i always knew that i wasn't ever going to be content with that relationship- i knew i wanted something more (and have now found it btw! :smile:

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Reply 12

tempusername

hey that's horrible (all you people up there saying "it's time to break up")

put some effort in you two jeez. like.. stun him one day by suddenly going full on with a burst of passion. you're both beginning to conform to a new "less passion" implicit rule, so you've got to break it, and swiftly is always bestly.

but umm.. yes. put some effort in, and, you know what? you wont regret it after you kick off the romance again... and you WILL regret it if you break up.. well.. someone will.

Reply 13

anjurdsg

11

Anonymous

Right, well I've been with my bf for just over two years. the last few months, haven't been so good. we don’t' seem to be in that girlf/boyf stage anymore (if that makes sense) like we'll go to the pics, and I'll see other couples out holding hands and looking all loved up, and then there's my bf walking in front of me, without even looking at me. Little things she does really annoy me too, I mean, we’ll go out, and he’ll find anything/something to moan at!! It’s as if he can no longer have a good with me anymore. I mean don't get me wrong, when we 1st got together, all was great. we were loved up, and like every other hand-holding couple (lol) Lately it just seems like the romance has gone out of our relationship. it seems things have gotten to conformable if that makes sense. I don’t know what to do, I love him, but I don’t think I love him in the same way anymore?

I’m sorry, I’m just going on here. If something who reads this can relate to what I’m saying, or offer any advice. Then please, I’d love to hear some.

Thanks

i've had relationships that went sour the same way... and from my experience, there was no turning back ... i had hit a dead end ... even when she tried everything, like "seducing" etc...and sex and all was great ... but that "feeling" was gone ... even we tried talking to each other about it...

but boredom is boredom...

we had to end it, finally...

think over it... my whole point is that there is no turning back

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks all. I'm going to have a talk to him about it tonight

Reply 15

pendragon

13

If the outcome and aftermath of this talk dont improve the situation then I would say it is breakup time.

bored with bf?

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