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Ataloss

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through.

Is this something new or a long term problem?

been my whole life like this

Either way it sounds like you both need help - your mum to cope with this new problem and try to reduce her drinking and you to have support to help deal with the stress this is putting you through.

You can try and talk to your mum about it - that is the best solution - but if fails to acknowledge a problem/change her behaviour/seek help herself - then you may be forced to take the lead by going for professional help - your GP is the best place to start.

talking wont change a thing, and ive been to my GP he was such a waste of time, such a ****ing idiot.

Do you have any close family - siblings etc..? Have they also noticed your mum's behaviour and would they be able to support you?

yeah i have 2 sisters but they are on holiday

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you're nearly old enough to be able to stand on your own two feet.

Its not your responsibility to look out for your mum and help her hold down a job. She is an adult and knows the implications of drinking. If I were you, i'd wash my hands of the issue and show no sympathy.

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Motherless Child

you're nearly old enough to be able to stand on your own two feet.

Its not your responsibility to look out for your mum and help her hold down a job. She is an adult and knows the implications of drinking. If I were you, i'd wash my hands of the issue and show no sympathy.

i know thats why ive been trying to move out but i dont have a job so its pretty hard, and my dad cant afford to pay rent etc. but if she loses her job shes just gonna **** things up even more than they are now, they wont be able to afford to get the house fixted which means they cant sell the house which means they cant get a divorce

Reply 6

Ataloss

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I'm sure you have fully researched most options and I cannot imagine how difficult the situation must be for you.

I am sorry to hear your GP was no assistance. There are an increasing number of alcohol detox community services becoming available. These are usually accessed via GP/hospital specialists. However, it may be worth contacting them directly to see if they can offer any advice. If you live in the Merseyside area - I will happily PM you the number for the team for this area.

I wish you all the best. Take care.

Reply 7

gossip_girl

i know thats why ive been trying to move out but i dont have a job so its pretty hard, and my dad cant afford to pay rent etc. but if she loses her job shes just gonna **** things up even more than they are now, they wont be able to afford to get the house fixted which means they cant sell the house which means they cant get a divorce

then I think your priority should be to find a job and get out of the situation. I know it's hard to see people you care about go down the wrong path, but they shouldn't be dragging you down too.

You have your own life to live!

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Motherless Child

then I think your priority should be to find a job and get out of the situation. I know it's hard to see people you care about go down the wrong path, but they shouldn't be dragging you down too.

You have your own life to live!

yeah well its a bit hard seen as i ben with her 24/7 this week. the way she acts and is brings me down so its like a big rut i cant get out of cos i see her all the time

Reply 9

gossip_girl

yeah well its a bit hard seen as i ben with her 24/7 this week. the way she acts and is brings me down so its like a big rut i cant get out of cos i see her all the time

you told your mum this?

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Infinity_Kev

look what I managed to make from gossip_girls signature, sorry for off topics

im like some kind of artist I just saw a penis within the text :tsr2:

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Motherless Child

you told your mum this?

probably but not in those words...i tired to kill myself because of her and she hasnt changed. she doesnt care.

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OP

shes also still drunk out of her head so looks like shes losing her job

Reply 13

So maybe its time to walk away? It's not worth the time or the effort if she doesn't care. Maybe once you move away and leave her to it she will realise how much she does care.

Are you planning to go to college next year? What have you done this year?

Reply 14

Motherless Child

you're nearly old enough to be able to stand on your own two feet.

Its not your responsibility to look out for your mum and help her hold down a job. She is an adult and knows the implications of drinking. If I were you, i'd wash my hands of the issue and show no sympathy.

Great idea. Hey - without her mums job they can have lots of fun on the dole.

Reply 15

Go to the pharmacist now - buy some sleeping drugs. Slip it into your mums drink and she'll fall asleep, hence sobering up.

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ElWilson

Go to the pharmacist now - buy some sleeping drugs. Slip it into your mums drink and she'll fall asleep, hence sobering up.

Thats it - encourage a minor to break the law. I'm sure she'll have a ball in prison....

tosser

Reply 17

How is she going to get put in prison? Seriously. Her mum will be oblivious to such an event. Even if she found out - she'll prosecute her!? If she did. Any lawyer could tell the judge that she simply wanted to help for the good of her family and mum.

Reply 18

Also - maybe you could just call work up saying she has a stomach bug.?

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