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Stressed about uni - do i want to go?

akutenshi2001

Hi, I have got in to 2 unis far from my home and I am having seconds throughts. When i applied, I had no close friends and few links to home. Now however, I have a hectic social life, loads of mates, lots of voluntary commitments and I love my life here now.

But now i am having second thoughts about leaving. I dont know if i should just get it together and go, take a gap year, or apply next year to a local Uni. thing is that would upset my mum tho...

Also, I have been unable to visit the unis, have not apllied for a grant yet, or accomadation. I just cant really work up the enthusiasm to do so...

i am really stressed over this, and worried about what to do.

I dont want to leave, but its hardly wise to plan my life around my social life...

please help... :frown:

Reply 1

Tariqé

your life recently has been the opposite of mine.... had a hectic life, volunteer work etc and now i have no friends!

i think you should take a gap year, that way you can enjoy your time where you are now, visit the world a bit, and get your head cleard up about what you want from your life.

maybe talking to your parents would be a good thing to do too. i know most of us hate sharing personal things with our parents, but theyve been through our whole life so far with us, so i think they have a better idea than most people about what would be best for you :smile:

Reply 2

Chumbaniya

If you're able to get involved in lots of things and have a busy social life at home, there's no reason why you shouldn't do similar things at university. You'll be away from your friends at home, but you'll meet loads of new people at university. I'd say go for it - you'd regret it if you didn't.

Reply 3

JitsuCol

Take the dive and go for it. Strangely I came to a Uni on the opposite side of this country for exactly that.

Build again, meet random new people, have a great time even if it seems scary in the first week :smile:

Reply 4

creak

I have exactly the same problem, my first choice Uni is so far away I'll probably only be home for holidays and possibly the rare long weekend, but my second choice is only about half an hour, forty minutes drive. I almost feel demotivated so I don't get into my firm choice, as I want to be closer to home where I won't have to leave a lot of friends (on gap year) and a social life I have only just started to really enjoy.

All the same, you will meet loads of great new people at University, and time spent away will only make seeing your old friends when you come back so much more enjoyable.

At least if you get all the paperwork and revision done to get into the Universities, you have that option open. I'd go for it if you can, in at the deep end etc, but if you really feel you don't want to move away at least in the end you have the choice of which you want to do.

Reply 5

xXMessedUpXx

You can still have a hectic social life, loads of mates and vouluntary commitments if you go to uni. Out of the friends you have now, are any of them going to uni? Personally i found it easier to leave as i knew my friends were too. Uni doesn't have to be a bad thing, i know since being here i've made 2 very god friends for life. Yes it can be stressful at times but you have to throw yourself into it, and you'll meet people. Could you still do the voluntary stuff at home during holidays maybe? or at weekends?

Evidently to getthe offer from 2 unis you musthave worked hard to get where you are :smile:

In a way not to go would be wasting that, however if you are really unsure, then maybe you could defer till nextyear and have a gap year to get your priorities straight and sort things out, so when you have the chance of uni again, you feel ready for it and no so stressed. I agree with Creak about being away then coming back-it makes you enoy your time with friends from back home even more. Have a long hard think, is leaving your friends/social life behind the real reason? Are you maybe scared of leaving home? Unsure about your course?