was i wrong to be texting my friends whilst with my boyfriend?

i was at my boyfriends house and me, him and his dad were watching Game of Thrones.

His Dad was asleep in the armchair.

My boyfriend was on the same sofa but not really near me.

My boyfriend was already in a massive mood about something (no idea what, id got the silent treatment the whole time since being there and ended up just talking with his Dad).

Anyway, my boyfriend and his Dad are huge fans of game of thrones, i have NEVER watched it, i know nothing about it, i wasnt interested in it, i was bored. My boyfriend was busy watching it so obviously i was just bored. So I got my phone out and started texting my friends (silently) just asking how they were etc.

He was fuming....giving me absolute death stares, telling me to get off my phone etc. I was trying to explain i was bored, its not like he was hugging me or talking to me, he was watching the programme, and i have no interest in it so i thought id just sit and text. But still he was angry i was on the phone when were ''socialising'', even though the whole time, his Dad was asleep, and my boyfriend wasnt even near me or talking to me!!.

Was i in the wrong? Or was i being really rude?

Reply 1

Mr Advice

15

Original post by Anonymous

i was at my boyfriends house and me, him and his dad were watching Game of Thrones.

His Dad was asleep in the armchair.

My boyfriend was on the same sofa but not really near me.

My boyfriend was already in a massive mood about something (no idea what, id got the silent treatment the whole time since being there and ended up just talking with his Dad).

Anyway, my boyfriend and his Dad are huge fans of game of thrones, i have NEVER watched it, i know nothing about it, i wasnt interested in it, i was bored. My boyfriend was busy watching it so obviously i was just bored. So I got my phone out and started texting my friends (silently) just asking how they were etc.

He was fuming....giving me absolute death stares, telling me to get off my phone etc. I was trying to explain i was bored, its not like he was hugging me or talking to me, he was watching the programme, and i have no interest in it so i thought id just sit and text. But still he was angry i was on the phone when were ''socialising'', even though the whole time, his Dad was asleep, and my boyfriend wasnt even near me or talking to me!!.

Was i in the wrong? Or was i being really rude?

No. Your boyfriend needs to calm down a little.

Reply 2

killthebatman

You're not in the wrong here, you were bored and it's not like you were on a date or being intimate. He's being childish here. If you'd never seen Game of Thrones before (btw what's wrong with you, it's awesome) then he can't expect you to be entranced with it. I'm sure if you made him watch whatever it is that you'd like he would soon divert to using his phone or whatever. Tell him to grow up :smile:

Or maybe try and get him to talk about what's really bothering him, instead of being a grump and taking out his problem on you. He probably wasn't even angry about you using your phone, he's just deflecting his feelings from whatever annoyed him before onto you.

Reply 3

paddlesnap

14

He sounds like a prat, to be honest - you're not in the wrong here.

Reply 4

Al-Mudaari

Texting makes noises, which could be why he was annoyed.

Were you using touch screen phone?

Reply 5

beckydood

You should have just asked him straight up what the issue/s were and deal with it in a mature manner, if he starts arguing or just staring at you and not being mature about it, then just carry on texting

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by killthebatman

You're not in the wrong here, you were bored and it's not like you were on a date or being intimate. He's being childish here. If you'd never seen Game of Thrones before (btw what's wrong with you, it's awesome) then he can't expect you to be entranced with it. I'm sure if you made him watch whatever it is that you'd like he would soon divert to using his phone or whatever. Tell him to grow up :smile:

Or maybe try and get him to talk about what's really bothering him, instead of being a grump and taking out his problem on you. He probably wasn't even angry about you using your phone, he's just deflecting his feelings from whatever annoyed him before onto you.

Well at one point, his dad woke up and saw my boyfriend asking me what my problem was and why was i texting when i was with him. It was embarrassing!

And my phone is silent, doesnt make any noises whatsover, not even clicking noises.

Reply 7

Treeroy

18

You were in the right. Your boyfriend was in a mood, that's all. There's nothing wrong with doing things when you're bored and your bf is busy.

Original post by killthebatman

If you'd never seen Game of Thrones before (btw what's wrong with you, it's awesome)

Some of us don't have Sky, as much as we'd like to watch it... :frown:

Reply 8

killthebatman

Original post by Anonymous

Well at one point, his dad woke up and saw my boyfriend asking me what my problem was and why was i texting when i was with him. It was embarrassing!

And my phone is silent, doesnt make any noises whatsover, not even clicking noises.

Just be honest with him, tell him you weren't interested in Game of Thrones and that you're sorry he felt like you were ignoring him or whatever but you kind of felt like that too, being that he was paying more attention to the TV than you (double standards!).

Original post by Treeroy

Some of us don't have Sky, as much as we'd like to watch it... :frown:

Lol I don't have Sky either, there are ways to watch TV shows without an actual TV :P

Reply 9

Scott129

13

I can't believe he watches Game Of Thrones with his Dad...it's basically porn!

I honestly think I'd die of embarrassment.

Reply 10

Treeroy

18

Original post by killthebatman

Lol I don't have Sky either, there are ways to watch TV shows without an actual TV :P

If you mean the boxset - fair enough. I just don't like watching episodic shows when they're not spaced out like they are when they're first played.

And if you mean pirating... well, I don't agree with the notion of stealing. (Bizarre beliefs that I have.)

Reply 11

ChocoCoatedLemons

17

Wait a mo'.

So, he was ignoring you so he could watch Game of Thrones, and was telling you off for ignoring him by texting? :eyeball:

Yeah, 'cause that makes perfect sense. Tell him to grow the **** up.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Original post by Anonymous

Well at one point, his dad woke up and saw my boyfriend asking me what my problem was and why was i texting when i was with him. It was embarrassing!

And my phone is silent, doesnt make any noises whatsover, not even clicking noises.

You seriously need to leave your boyfriend, he is clearly a control freak.

Reply 13

killthebatman

Original post by Treeroy

If you mean the boxset - fair enough. I just don't like watching episodic shows when they're not spaced out like they are when they're first played.

And if you mean pirating... well, I don't agree with the notion of stealing. (Bizarre beliefs that I have.)

You could watch one episode a week if you bought the DVD! You could even do it on Sundays at 9pm if that would make you feel better haha.

Reply 14

Treeroy

18

Original post by killthebatman

You could watch one episode a week if you bought the DVD! You could even do it on Sundays at 9pm if that would make you feel better haha.

True, true!

I did manage to do that with The Walking Dead, but then, there were only 5 episodes so it was a bit easier.

Reply 15

moalem.abassi

Original post by Anonymous

So I got my phone out and started texting my friends (silently) just asking how they were etc.

He was fuming....giving me absolute death stares, telling me to get off my phone etc. I was trying to explain i was bored, its not like he was hugging me or talking to me, he was watching the programme, and i have no interest in it so i thought id just sit and text. But still he was angry i was on the phone when were ''socialising'', even though the whole time, his Dad was asleep, and my boyfriend wasnt even near me or talking to me!!.

It would be interesting to see how your boyfriend narrates the story, and then compare both versions.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 16

VaVe

8

First off giving some one the silent treatment it's just being in a mood it's treating them with contempt. Not only does it make you feel like you've done something wrong it means you can't fix it and so it's basically punishing you.
You weren't in the wrong at all, even if you loved game of thrones you're still allowed to text your friends, it doesn't stop him watching it.

Reply 17

lizlaz350

16

In this situation, I don't think you were wrong to be on your phone because he was ignoring you.

But maybe you ignore him to be on your phone a lot even when he's not ignoring you so he's ended up resenting it?
My boyfriend is constantly on his phone and it really annoys me that he ignores me to sit there looking at it so it's got to the stage that even if he just gets it out while I'm doing something else or just to glance at it, I resent it.

Or maybe he was hoping you'd ask him what was wrong and try and sort things out instead of just letting him stew. Which is a silly way of him trying to deal with his problems but it could be it.