Got a bf, but there is this guy at work....

Ok, i know, another thread about bf problems!!

Anyway, i've been going with my bf for nearly a year and a half. We have always been really close, and thought we were the ones for each other. The first 6 months or so when we first started going out, everything was perfect, until my mum turned round and said her piece - she didn't like him etc etc. Anyways, since then, me and my bf have been meeting secretly; like at college or at work and whatever. Then gradually, as time has gone on, we have been meeting from 4 times a week to only once a week now, cause of my mum. I have also strangly realised, that in the past 4/5 months, i've been starting to fancy other boys, whereas at the beggining or our relationship, i wouldn't (ok, maybe i looked at the odd guy but i wasn't fancying them, hoping to get their number, like i am now). I recently met a guy who works where i work, and only met him for the first time as i was working overtime there and had never seen him before. Anyway, i like him and i think he likes me too. I'm stuck in a situation of what to do. I must admit, that all this fiasco with my mum has made me bored of my bf, due to the fact that i can't see him. I don't know whether to get to know this guy where i work, or just stick with my boyfriend (who i hardly ever see). What do you guys think i should do?

Reply 1

Aimee050589

I've recently had a big dilema with a boyfriend while liking a guy from work. Never had the problems with my mum tho. Did in the beginning but she gave up.
I was with my bf for a year and a half. But then I met this guy at work and liked him a lot. He liked me too and told me he'd wait till I was back off holiday to finish with my bf [he was cumin wiv us].
But then the guy at work kissed me and i didn't push him away.
So i decided last week that things were over and finished with him. Now I'm seeing the guy from work and I'm happier than I have been in ages.
My advice to you is finish with your bf and start things with the guy from work if it's what you want. After all, if you have feelings for this other guy, and want his number etc, then you can't love you bf as much as you may have thought.
So do what you feel is right, I'm so glad I finished with my boyfriend, even thought it was upsetting for me cos he was so upset, especially when he found out about the guy from work. But I'm glad I did it.
Hope it goes ok for you. Let me know how it goes.
Aimee.x

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Hi Aimee

I read your thread about u being in the same situation as me. I'm glad things have worked out well for you.
Thanks a lot for reply. I do sometimes imagine to myself that i leave my bf for someone else, and it makes me sad to think i'd do this, as my bf has done a lot for me, and i don't want to chuck it back in his face. I think i'm going to let it carry on for a while longer, and get to know this guy from work a bit more, cause he may not even be what i expect in the end. I'll let you know how everything goes. Thanks hun xx

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Hi Aimee

I read your thread about u being in the same situation as me. I'm glad things have worked out well for you.
Thanks a lot for reply. I do sometimes imagine to myself that i leave my bf for someone else, and it makes me sad to think i'd do this, as my bf has done a lot for me, and i don't want to chuck it back in his face (even though i'm sat here saying i want someone else :rolleyes:

). I think i'm going to let it carry on for a while longer, and get to know this guy from work a bit more, cause he may not even be what i expect in the end. I'll let you know how everything goes. Thanks hun xx

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Sorry, edited my message and its come up twice!!

Reply 5

JadedHippy

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I think you need to sort everything out with your mum first to be honest. I mean you are at college and work, you don't really need to be in the mindset that you need your mother to approve of all your partners. Feels very 1950's ish lol =P

Jaded

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Anonymous #1

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JadedHippy

I think you need to sort everything out with your mum first to be honest. I mean you are at college and work, you don't really need to be in the mindset that you need your mother to approve of all your partners. Feels very 1950's ish lol =P
Jaded

true! very true!! :p:

Reply 7

Aimee050589

Aaw JadedHippy, how great you are at the advice.
Thanks for the advice on my boyfriend problem. You helped out loads!

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