break up.. :(

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs because things were really awkward between us and it wasnt working out. There were loads of reasons and it was inevitable it would happen sometime. He also recently moved 3 hours away and we only see eachother every 2 months or so, and it was difficult to cope with.
I told him I still really like him and I want us to stay friends (we were best friends before we got together) but hes being so cold towards me.
I feel so upset in the way hes acting now as I never thought he would be this way.
Hes refusing to talk to me properly, texting one word answers and not answering the phone. Hes also deleted me from his myspace friends list. Am I the only one who thinks hes being immature? I just feel so disappointed that hes acting like this, as it sort of shows he doesnt care about me that much if hes not even willing to be friends. Shall I just leave it? I feel so down, its not as if it was easy for me and his behaviour is making it worse :frown:

Reply 1

Stub

Ride it. Eventually you'll be happy again and you won't care.

Reply 2

x.Utopian.Dream.x

The reason why he's being like this is most likely because he still has feelings for you. Just give him time! xx

Reply 3

dh00001

16

hes not bein unreasonable. he's hurt and maybe acting all happy and normal isn't going to help. give him time

Reply 4

Chase Me

8

He cheated on you.

So leave him and get over it, one day you'll thank yourself and believe it or not, him too.

Reply 5

Alewhey

Anonymous

Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs because things were really awkward between us and it wasnt working out. There were loads of reasons and it was inevitable it would happen sometime. He also recently moved 3 hours away and we only see eachother every 2 months or so, and it was difficult to cope with.
I told him I still really like him and I want us to stay friends (we were best friends before we got together) but hes being so cold towards me.
I feel so upset in the way hes acting now as I never thought he would be this way.
Hes refusing to talk to me properly, texting one word answers and not answering the phone. Hes also deleted me from his myspace friends list. Am I the only one who thinks hes being immature? I just feel so disappointed that hes acting like this, as it sort of shows he doesnt care about me that much if hes not even willing to be friends. Shall I just leave it? I feel so down, its not as if it was easy for me and his behaviour is making it worse :frown:

What on earth did you expect?? If you break up with someone you really have to be prepared to never see them again, and you certainly can't expect them to be nice to you. To suggest that he doesn't care about you is absurd, he is showing textbook behaviour of someone who has been badly hurt and is doing the sensible thing of attempting to distance himself from it all.

Time is, however, the great healer and at some point he will stop being angry at you, but after that it is not your place to assume that he will still want to be friends. And if not, you can't complain.

I find this bit particuarly objectionable:

"I feel so down, its not as if it was easy for me and his behaviour is making it worse :frown:

"

I've been trying to think of another way to say this but there is none- Boo-hoo for you. You aren't the victim here. At the risk of sounding glib, you made your bed, now sleep in it.

Reply 6

silverbolt

19

Alewhey

I've been trying to think of another way to say this but there is none- Boo-hoo for you. You aren't the victim here. At the risk of sounding glib, you made your bed, now sleep in it.

actually he's got a good point when a couple break up for whatever reason after a long term relationship the dumpee is obvioulsy going to be upset and not really going to feel particuarly nice towards you.
He will get over it

Reply 7

pendragon

13

OP it is possible that he is actually very upset about losing you, and cannot cope with having you as a friend. Often the only way to get through being really devasted by a breakup is to think of all the reasons you are better of without the other person, which is not conducive to you both staying friends. He could just be nasty, but it also could be because he is unable to be just friends with you yet, if indeed he will ever be.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I had a boyfriend of two months, and dumped him for many many reasons and we are still cold to one another 4 months later. Its up to the individual whether they want to stay friends, and even if they want to it might tske time. I doubt that my ex and I will ever be friends again, however Im on good terms with my first boyfriend of a year and three months, mainly because I didn't see him for severn months. I have to live in the same halls of residance as my other ex so the bitter feelings didn't have the time to disapate.

break up.. :(

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