Unfinished

I just got back from the States where I've been for six months and had to break-up with my boyfriend. >.< We agreed that it was unrealistic to try and stay together - he's going to Yale, I'm going to St Andrews, but it doesn't stop me missing him like crazy. The worst bit about it is that we were 'unfinished', that the relationship was great, we'd both just gotten into saying 'I love you', we were good together and good for each other and he helped me through anorexia, panic over uni, parental issues and virginity. We weren't done. The impression I got from us was that we could've stayed together a very long time, and he pretty much said, if I was going to uni anywhere in the US, we'd stay together. >.< It sucks.

Trying to get over it is gonna be hard - having talked to him on the phone, he doesn't make things easier by telling me how much he misses me, loves me, how good it is to hear me - but I can't cut him out because he was my best friend long before he was my boyfriend and he still IS that friend.

I'm looking for suggestions for how to deal with this, because my home-town is pretty dead culturally - having been in Princeton pretty constantly for six months, I'm used to an atmosphere of incredible intelligent conversation and enthusiasm for debate and discussion - and the few friends I had before I left are still at university for a month or so. There's not much to do here as a distraction and I don't want to lose the energy and the confidence I found out in America.

And I also want to get over the heartbreak because - how do you go about falling out of love?

Reply 1

Talya

Are you planning to go back to the US after Uni? If you are, maybe it's over now, but could start again in the future :smile:

I'm not sure you can fall out of love on purpose :frown:

Reply 2

Emmalina

If its meant to be it will happen... Look at it like that!

Reply 3

rosieposy87

All i can say is- you poor thing!! I can't even begin to imagine how hard that must be. The only thing i can really suggest is keeping as busy as possible- getting a job, doing an evening class- just fix up as much as you can!

Reply 4

1013

Just throw yourself into life at your new uni - there are bound to be loads of distractions. Keep in touch with this guy. The pain of not seeing him will lessen with time and you'll still hjave the friendship. If you are both in the same situation when you finish uni, then you can go back there.

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