I hate being around people prettier than me

I'm really confused about this. No matter how nice a person is, if they're prettier than me, I just can't stand being around them. It wrecks my self esteem and I end up having a crap time - constantly comparing myself to them and feeling utterly inadequate and ugly.
I really want tips on how to get over this. E.g, this girl who's coming to my birthday party is a model and I know I'll just spend the night feeling unworthy and insecure. Obviously, I'm going to meet a lot of people in life who are prettier/funnier/brainer etc, but it's only the pretty thing that really bugs me for some reason. Please help, how can I get over this?

Reply 1

Clarence

Try and see the good points in yourself. Everybody feels like this occasionally.

Reply 2

bedbug

Stop comparing yourself to them. No matter how beautiful someone is, there's bound to be someone more beautiful. If everyone was like you then the world would be completely insecure.

Forget how people look on the outside when you're talking to them, it will just drive you crazy. You wouldn't want people less attractive than you to hate talking to you would you? There's no reason to discriminate against those more or less attractive than you.

There's nothing anyone can really do to make this better - you just need to decide that you're either going to try and change how you see people (and what you consider to be more important - looks or personality) or you can continue as you are driving yourself mad.

Reply 3

keenya2006

Well looks will fade eventually. If I see a girl prettier than me in the room I first think, well, that's just my opinion, to someone else she could be totally ugly. And if im in public somewhere chances are im not looking a hot mess, so some guy or girl is probably looking at me saying te same thing 'o she's pretty'...and just tell the pretty bitch ' hey i think you look hott'. I do it all the time :smile:

and most of the time they look like 'wow are u serious. are u a lesbian' :p:

but it's totally cool. and find different ways to draw attention to yourself...like me...i can shake some ass ok :rolleyes:

Reply 4

cutcopy

How shallow. I go to the same club every week with my mates, the same lads who usually pull attractive lasses week after week. I hardly ever do, why should I be in competition with the people around me? I'm more about having a good time in my own way, be it just getting hammered and dancing, or just talking to people off the dance floor. I would go mad if I worried about how I compared to people around me all the time.

Reply 5

Ting-Ting

They're probably comparing themselves to you in the same way...its a vicious cycle! Just see all your good points and ignore the comparison....everybody beautiful in different ways.

Reply 6

1013

Everyone has their insecurities which they then project onto other people. I don't have perfect skin, so whenever I see someone who does, I'll compare myself to her - not in a jealous way, I just can't help it. I used to have this friend who everyone though was the most beautiful girl ever. When my then-boyf met her, I asked him what he thought and he hadn't even realised that she was supposed to be the pretty one! He thought she was 'ok' - so it's all totally subjective. Pick the best bit about yourself and concentrate on those.

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