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Guilty about bf presents
My bf bought me quite a bit while we were going out like jewelry etc and we have now split but I feel guilty wearing it incase he sees, afterall he bought them, should I ask if he wants them back or what? He spent loads.
Reply 1
Hmmmm, tricky situation! Obviously the presents were gifts for you to keep & I'm sure he would want you to keep them. He might possibly get offended if you offer him to have them back as it may seem like you want to forget all the memories. However, what would a boy do with girls jewellery? 
Best thing to do would be to ask him but chose your words carefully. Something along the lines of "I feel bad keeping all the presents you gave me....." & see where it leads from there.
Best thing to do would be to ask him but chose your words carefully. Something along the lines of "I feel bad keeping all the presents you gave me....." & see where it leads from there.
Reply 2
Dramatic Star
Hmmmm, tricky situation! Obviously the presents were gifts for you to keep & I'm sure he would want you to keep them. He might possibly get offended if you offer him to have them back as it may seem like you want to forget all the memories. However, what would a boy do with girls jewellery?
Best thing to do would be to ask him but chose your words carefully. Something along the lines of "I feel bad keeping all the presents you gave me....." & see where it leads from there.
Best thing to do would be to ask him but chose your words carefully. Something along the lines of "I feel bad keeping all the presents you gave me....." & see where it leads from there.
Yeah I might ask, I did buy him things but not as much as he bought me, I keep thinking that he will think that he's wasted a lot of money.
Reply 3
Yeah you need to just ask him how he feels about it. Its a present so he probably won't mind but then again, when one of my mates broke up with his girlfriend and she carried on wearing the necklace he got her, he was a bit like, whoa what is she doing? I guess it depends on the guy.
Don't ask, even if he'd feel weird with you wearing it, he wouldn't want it back. What could he do with it? You can't give it to someone else or wear it himself. Best, IMHO, to not bring it up, but not wear anything too obvious in front of him. Shows him you're being respectful while not bringing up awkward subjects.
Reply 6
I would be insulted too. If you ask him if he wants it back, and he still has feelings for you, he might not see it as you being nice to him, he might just take it the wrong way and think "shes trying to get rid of every memory of us together" -- it happened to me.
Reply 8
Renza
I would be incredibly insulted if my ex-boyfriend gave me back the presents I got him. I'm sure he'd feel the same way. However, that was almost a 2 year relationship. How long did you go out with this guy?
Not long about 5 months, were not really friends anymore but we say hi if we see each other.
Reply 11
He ought to want you to keep them.
But in any case, they are yours, do as you please.
If you think he won't want you to wear them, and you want to respect those feelings then don't wear it.
But in any case, they are yours, do as you please.
If you think he won't want you to wear them, and you want to respect those feelings then don't wear it.
Reply 13
He'd probably be more offended if you got rid of it.
If you're still on good terms, then you could ask him how he feels about it. If you're not . . . then, who cares?
If you're still on good terms, then you could ask him how he feels about it. If you're not . . . then, who cares?
I wouldn't even mention it. He bought them for you as a present, not as a sign to say you were his. They were for you because he thought you would like them.
I do understand where you're coming from, but I would take that as a sign that you didn't even want to be friends with me if I were him.
As other people have suggested, I'd be careful with what I wore around him - nothing TOO blatant, but don't feel like you can never wear them. They're nice to remind you of the good times you had.
I do understand where you're coming from, but I would take that as a sign that you didn't even want to be friends with me if I were him.
As other people have suggested, I'd be careful with what I wore around him - nothing TOO blatant, but don't feel like you can never wear them. They're nice to remind you of the good times you had.
Reply 15
When I broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years, I kept everything and as naff as it sounds, it's all in a box, with cards etc, including things like a necklace I know cost over £100.
I know that seems like a waste but at the minute, while I still see him and things I wouldn't dream of wearing them. But give it another year, or maybe even five and I probably will be able to wear it with fond memories, as it's very pretty.
I didn't even consider giving them back to him, I agree, definately don't do that!
I know that seems like a waste but at the minute, while I still see him and things I wouldn't dream of wearing them. But give it another year, or maybe even five and I probably will be able to wear it with fond memories, as it's very pretty.
I didn't even consider giving them back to him, I agree, definately don't do that!
I know what you mean - my boyfriend gave me a chocolate fountain for Christmas after we'd been going out less than two months...it was about a million times better (not to mention more expensive) than what I got him! We broke up less than two months after that and a week or so ago I mentioned I had it to my current boyfriend, who expressed an interest in it...only, I'd feel terrible about using it, because it's like using something my last boyfriend gave me to have fun with the guy I had afterwards! So now I don't know what to do. I don't want to explain to my current boyfriend that I'd feel bad, because he doesn't know that my last boyfriend gave it to me and I think, if I told him that, he'd feel slightly undermined by the fact that my ex had given me such a great present. I hope this makes sense...
Reply 17
I spent a lot of money on my girlfriend when we were going out. We broke up just over a week ago, and if she came and asked me to take it back I'd be devestated. I buy expensive things because I'd rather buy one decent thing to last a lifetime than lots of stuff that's just gunna break in a year or two, and I'd hope that the presents I give will last, too.
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