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Girl Problem no. 1 million

There is this girl i know and really like, she is a friend of a friend of a friend. She knows i exist but we have never really talked much. Problem is that everytime i see her she is around her group of friends and so i find it difficult to approach her (pathetic i know :redface:, i am not too confident) and she is fairly shy herself so she wouldn't ever approach me.

Recently i have been thinking about sending her a private message via a (different) forum that we are both members of. Would this be percieved badly? I really don't want to scare her or anything, I just really don't want to miss this opportunity and worry that i will just bottle it everytime i see her on a night out (Like i did a few nights ago :redface:). I understand that the better idea is to talk to her in person but i just wondered if this was a feasable alternative, i have been thinking about this for days now and still haven't come to a decision.

All (constructive) advice is greatly appreciated, thanks :smile: .
Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. :smile:

Just send her a message saying "hey, I've seen you around. How are you" or something like that which will prompt a conversation. Alternatively, if your feeling even braver, pick up the confidence and speak to her when you next see her.

You'll kick yourself if you don't take the chance.
Reply 2
But don't go with

"I've seen you around. I find you very attractive. Would you go to bed with me?"

The above poster has it spot on.
Reply 3
haha. No i wasn't planning on opening like that, am fairly sure that would scare her
Reply 4
It would also show you liked rubbish music :p:
Reply 5
kizer
"I've seen you around. I find you very attractive. Would you go to bed with me?"


*cue mad trumpet solo* ah love that tune! gotta find it!

and go for it mate, personally i'd try to speak to the girl next time you're out, though you could get a conversation going on the net, seems a little strange tho
Reply 6
Geez just send a message. If she doesn't get back to you in the way expected, it is not going to end the world is it? People are not as important the naive human species thinks.
Reply 7
Anonymous
There is this girl i know and really like, she is a friend of a friend of a friend. She knows i exist but we have never really talked much. Problem is that everytime i see her she is around her group of friends and so i find it difficult to approach her (pathetic i know :redface:, i am not too confident) and she is fairly shy herself so she wouldn't ever approach me.

Recently i have been thinking about sending her a private message via a (different) forum that we are both members of. Would this be percieved badly? I really don't want to scare her or anything, I just really don't want to miss this opportunity and worry that i will just bottle it everytime i see her on a night out (Like i did a few nights ago :redface:). I understand that the better idea is to talk to her in person but i just wondered if this was a feasable alternative, i have been thinking about this for days now and still haven't come to a decision.

All (constructive) advice is greatly appreciated, thanks :smile: .



why dont you just get your tell the friend to speak to the friend to speak to her?
Reply 8
El Scotto

why dont you just get your tell the friend to speak to the friend to speak to her?


Because it's not primary school? :p:
Reply 9
Ethereal
Because it's not primary school? :p:



his alternative is the eqivilent to passing notes tho... lol
I'd just go talk to her when I had the opportunity if I were you, but if you're not up to that then sending her that PM on the other forum would work too. You could get to know her better from there and just build on it. It has to be better than blanking her entirely, right?