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Is "never" really forever?

If someone says to you "i'll never be your friend again" do they really mean it?

Even if they are a really nice person who you never meant to hurt?

I talked to a spirtual authority about it once, and he was sure that in time the "other person" (OP) would forgive me and wouldnt be mad at me forever.

I hope so, because i really need the OP's forgiveness, i need them to tell me im not a bad person, because i cant convince myself that i am a good person, and noone else can, except for the OP.

Its affecting my other relationships, even potential ones - im scared that ill hurt these people because im a bad person.
never is not forever. I've had a lot of friends who told me that they'll never be my friend again...but we talked after about a year or two. It takes time to get over something...and if this person can't forgive you even after a year or two, then that's something to think about. Is this person really a friend? Someone who can't forgive you for an honest mistake?
Reply 2
From personal experience, if they care enough to vow never to be your friend again, then they won't stick to it. I know I've said it a few times and a few exes have too after some really bad break ups. They're hurt and while it could well take years they will get over it, however much they think they won't now.
Reply 3
If they were a good enough friend and they see that you are really sorry and you are a good person, then you will be forgiven. To err is human, to forgive, divine.
i think that poeple change, every day, every week, every year. and their whole perspective on life, and people they meet change. so i dont think that 'never' would be forever. but how old is this friend, i mean its a pretty immature thing to say to someone. dont cry over somebody that wont cry over you.