I am so antisocial!

Can anybody relate to this?

I'm female, almost 18, and I HATE going out. I don't know what's wrong with me! I just abide doing most social things. I don't really have any friends, I guess that's why, but even if I did, I can't muster up any sort of enjoyment from the thought of leaving the comfort of my own home. The only other places I don't mind going to are the local (mind, LOCAL) cinema, or other people's houses.

The thought of going anywhere properly social ... like I don't know, a party, the pub, a shopping centre, town, a theme park, a restaurant ... anywhere like that where there's lots of people, it just feels me with horror and the utmost boredom! I don't really use facebook, but when I do, and I see all these photos everyone has of themselves and their friends at a party or out somewhere doing something social, it just makes me realise how much I'd HATE to do that.

Why am I so abnormal! I just hate going out, I love spending my time watching dvds, watching TV and surfing the internet. I guess I just prefer my own company? I'm very quiet and introverted as well. I do wish a lot that I had friends to enjoy doing what I do with me, but I'm so abnormal that I guess I'll never find any!

Thoughts? I've literally never come across anyone like myself. Am I alone like this? Being antisocial and being a grumpy home bug?

Can anybody relate to this?

I'm female, almost 18, and I HATE going out. I don't know what's wrong with me! I just abide doing most social things. I don't really have any friends, I guess that's why, but even if I did, I can't muster up any sort of enjoyment from the thought of leaving the comfort of my own home. The only other places I don't mind going to are the local (mind, LOCAL) cinema, or other people's houses.

The thought of going anywhere properly social ... like I don't know, a party, the pub, a shopping centre, town, a theme park, a restaurant ... anywhere like that where there's lots of people, it just feels me with horror and the utmost boredom! I don't really use facebook, but when I do, and I see all these photos everyone has of themselves and their friends at a party or out somewhere doing something social, it just makes me realise how much I'd HATE to do that.

Why am I so abnormal! I just hate going out, I love spending my time watching dvds, watching TV and surfing the internet. I guess I just prefer my own company? I'm very quiet and introverted as well. I do wish a lot that I had friends to enjoy doing what I do with me, but I'm so abnormal that I guess I'll never find any!

Thoughts? I've literally never come across anyone like myself. Am I alone like this? Being antisocial and being a grumpy home bug?

Hello. It could be that you suffer from some form of Agorophobia or something similar. I was diagnosed with Social Phobia in my thirties [proper name Social Phobic Disorder]. I had probably had it since my early teens. It was a psychiatrist who diagnosed me. He explained that because I had had it,or symptoms of it in my teens and I was then in my thirties,that there was nothing that could be done and I would have it for the rest of my life. He explained that this was because in your teens your final personality is not "set" yet, so any problems can still be ironed out. But once you reach full adult maturity the personality you have is set forever, and there is nothing anyone can do to change your personality and temperament. I was a professional dancer at the Moulin Rouge in Paris. A fantastic job, which I loved. But I was the only one who would go straight home after work and not socialise with everyone else. I didn`t want to , and had no interest in forming close friendships with any of the other dancers, just a general friendship with everyone. I am now 45, and ,just as the psychiatrist said, there is no cure. I prefer to stay indoors. Sometimes, if a friend [I only have a few; MY choice], invites me round for a coffee or a chat, I will almost go into a panic at the thought of it, and get myself so worked up,worrying what I will say and talk about to my friend, and worrying that I will not "come across", as being chatty,outgoing and sociable,because I am anything but, so I will in the end, nine times out of ten, make some excuse or other to not meet up with my friend. Then once cancelled, the sense of relief I feel that I won`t have to put myself through such an ordeal is like a huge weight off my shoulders. Luckily,my friend knows all about my condition, and is really understanding.! Hopefully,you won`t have Social Phobia, as it`s an absolute curse. But I suggest speaking to your GP initially,who may then refer you to a behavioural psychologist or psychiatrist. Bear in mind though, that the waiting list to see him/her may be about 18 months. So perhaps you or your family could pay to see one privately for an initial assessment, provided it`s someone your GP recommends. Good luck.

You are definitely not alone. If you spend a lot of time on the internet you should know this . It's definitely not abnormal either, do what YOU like to do and not what you think others want you to do.

I'm the exact same as this (except for the female part), I find that the trivial things in life like going out to parties etc. Just don't interest me and I'd rather be snuggled up at home watching a movie or reading a book.

I can relate 100% to everything said on this thread, you're definitely not alone.

I am the same. I only wish I knew more people like yourself.

Have you tried alcohol?

I was the same as you until alcohol happened.

Can anybody relate to this?

I'm female, almost 18, and I HATE going out. I don't know what's wrong with me! I just abide doing most social things. I don't really have any friends, I guess that's why, but even if I did, I can't muster up any sort of enjoyment from the thought of leaving the comfort of my own home. The only other places I don't mind going to are the local (mind, LOCAL) cinema, or other people's houses.

The thought of going anywhere properly social ... like I don't know, a party, the pub, a shopping centre, town, a theme park, a restaurant ... anywhere like that where there's lots of people, it just feels me with horror and the utmost boredom! I don't really use facebook, but when I do, and I see all these photos everyone has of themselves and their friends at a party or out somewhere doing something social, it just makes me realise how much I'd HATE to do that.

Why am I so abnormal! I just hate going out, I love spending my time watching dvds, watching TV and surfing the internet. I guess I just prefer my own company? I'm very quiet and introverted as well. I do wish a lot that I had friends to enjoy doing what I do with me, but I'm so abnormal that I guess I'll never find any!

Thoughts? I've literally never come across anyone like myself. Am I alone like this? Being antisocial and being a grumpy home bug?

I am the same. I only wish I knew more people like yourself.

This is basically me, even the fact that I wish that I had a lot of friends to share my life with. Except I like to go out and do sports, although I guess the sports I do, I do on my own.

If I ever met you I would probably ask you to marry me, all the things you say you like are also my favourite. You don't by any chance also love watching Ellen and Jimmy Kimmel youtube videos?

Thank god, i thought i was just abnormal! I'm the same, although i have friends who encourage me to go out, i do like going to the cinema's and stuff and get very excited about family holidays but things like going to prom etc. just bore me to death and i'd rather avoid it!
do you ever get bored at home?

Aw haha Sorry no I don't



I'm the only one in my year who ISN'T going to prom! There's no point going as I'd HATE every single second of it.

I don't even like going on holidays though. I'd rather just stay at home

Yeah I do get bored sometimes, but it's not like there's anything else I'd rather be doing. I have no desire to go outside... or be remotely sociable...

I used to get teased a bit at school, people would jokingly as me what I did at the weekend ... everybody sort of guessed that I never did anything. It was obvious that I was a recluse!