when to change

well my bf just left me and im upset and wanna change my room my fasion style and just a hoel new me when shoud i do it thought? now or should i wait a few weeks till i finnish college???

Reply 1

Vampyrcorn

You want to change everything about yourself because your boyfriend left you?

Umm okay.

Wait a few weeks, then you'll have calmed down and may not want to. And it'll give you more time to decide exactly what you want to change so you change yourself the best way possible.

What sort of thing were you thinking about?

Reply 2

Audacious

well i would say to wait a while, and let yourself start to get over the break-up and move on. I have a mate, who when she broke up with her boyf, started dating someone else immediatly and shanged everything. I think that change is good, but wait for a while before changeing everything, as otherwise you may, as my mate did, end up wearing colours and styles that you as yourself dont nessacerily like but suit your mood of being upset.

My mate has made comments of going back to wearing colour(she wears mainly blue(dark), Dark Green and black,generally low, down colours right now) as she feels that at times she is ok till she gets dressed and the colours remind her of the breakup and rebound relationship and how low she felt, and starts feeling low again.

Reply 3

1013

It's normal to want to make yourself over when you break up with someone. I think everyone get's the urge to get a new hairstyle, go on a diet, get new clothes etc etc. That kind of stuff is ok but don't change anything too fundamental!

Reply 4

bluenoxid

random_dude_66

well my bf just left me and im upset and wanna change my room my fasion style and just a hoel new me when shoud i do it thought? now or should i wait a few weeks till i finnish college???

Finish your exams first.

Reply 5

Tariqé

it sounds as though you think he left you because of who you are. Well, i guess who you are does have some bearing on it, because if he thought you were absolutely perfect, he wouldnt have left you. But thats only his opinion! Theres nothing wrong with you, so please dont go about changing yourself because you feel inadequate, or whatever. Change because you want to, and not because its a rebound action from breaking up.

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