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I feel threatened by the idea of my girlfriend getting a vibrator.

Anon due to knowing a few members here outside of TSR.

Recently, my girlfriend has expressed her interest in getting a bullet vibrator and the first time she brought it up, I offered to get her one for her birthday, figured we could use it whilst we were having sex and that it would be all good...

Now, I'm quite the overthinker, and I get very anxious about alot of things, and the more I think about the idea of my girlfriend getting a vibrator, the worse I feel. For some reason, I'm scared that it will replace me, that she'll prefer that to anything I can offer, and that she'll choose that instead of me.

I tried speaking to her about it, and she said not to worry, she just won't get one, but she's been going on about it for a long time and I could see the disappointment in her eyes. Now on top of the original jealousy of the vibrator itself, I know feel guilty and selfish for her not being able to get one.

Does anyone have any advice? Or support O_o?
Thanks everyone.

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There is no comparison between a plastic toy and a real person, you're not being replaced. Be glad that the girl is comfortable with her sexuality and wanting to have a little metime funtime. You'll push her away being insecure over something so trivial.
Original post by Double Agent
There is no comparison between a plastic toy and a real person, you're not being replaced. Be glad that the girl is comfortable with her sexuality and wanting to have a little metime funtime. You'll push her away being insecure over something so trivial.

**** letting her use it only on her own, use it together.

Edit: By this I mean why are you feeling insecure about this, go use it together. I'm not saying she shouldn't be allowed to use it on her own ffsss.
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Reply 3
Original post by nopenopenope
**** letting her use it only on her own, use it together.


Excuse the pun.
dont feel intimidated by it, use it on her!!!!! tease her with it, play it on her nips,up the backs of her legs and the small of her back!!
Reply 5
See, I'm only 17, and she's my first ever girlfriend. I'm not the best at sex, since I'm still pretty new to it all, and I worry that because I'm so bad, she'll instead use the vibrator and won't want me instead...

My issue is that I feel I won't be able to compete with it.
Original post by heavenlyphoto
dont feel intimidated by it, use it on her!!!!! tease her with it, play it on her nips,up the backs of her legs and the small of her back!!

I don't think you're allowed to give tips on how to use it brah.
Original post by nopenopenope
**** letting her use it only on her own, use it together.


Why not on her own?


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whip out your basalisk and challenge the vibrator to a duel
Original post by michellehall
Why not on her own?


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I'm trying to say that OP and his gf could use it together for better results :sexface:...
Reply 10
Truth is if she's expressed interest in getting one then maybe you aren't satisfying her in the first place...
Original post by james1211
Truth is if she's expressed interest in getting one then maybe you aren't satisfying her in the first place...

babbys first gf
Original post by Double Agent
There is no comparison between a plastic toy and a real person.



Agree. A vibrator doesn't talk back nearly as much.
Reply 13
do u ever masturbate?
vibrators are the same thing for many women its difficult to use their hands and get any feeling thats why they use a vibrator using it wont replace u the same way if u ever masturbate it dotn replace her
if ur really worried try make sure u do foreplay as vibrators cant do that
let her get a vibe, if shes ****ing that shes not ****ing someone else!! i bought my mrs her vibe!!
Original post by nopenopenope
I'm trying to say that OP and his gf could use it together for better results :sexface:...


I agree but I don't think use by herself should be outlawed:rolleyes:
Reply 16
Why don't you just get her a mould-a-penis? It's still a dildo but atleast it resembles your penis!

Or as others have suggested, use it together. It's not as good as the real thing anyway.
Original post by michellehall
I agree but I don't think use by herself should be outlawed:rolleyes:


y r u mad tho m8?

Implying I said she can't use it on her own.
Implying when I said "**** using it on her own" I meant she's not allowed

When I said that I was implying that he should be excited about the potential of adding something to their sex life.
Reply 18
I don't know if anyone saw my post earlier, but I'm 17, she's my first, and we've only been having sex for a little while so I realize that I'm not the best, and I worry that the vibrator will satisfy her more than I will and that she'll choose that over me.

Having said that, I'm now thinking that if we use whilst we're having sex, on her clit or whatever, it could make it better and thus she'll still be satisfied by me, with aid of the vibrator... Opinions?
Original post by eliza.anne
Why don't you just get her a mould-a-penis? It's still a dildo but atleast it resembles your penis!


That just seems kind of freaky tbh..

But yeah let her get one, it's an aid to masturbation, or you could use it on her if you want. Let's put it this way, do you ever look at porn? Does your girlfriend think the person in the porno will replace her? Just like you fapping, using a vibrator and having relations with a real person is completely different, you won't be replaced.