doesn't have enough time for me

my bf has got exams everyday this week but it seems he still doesnt have any time to even text me. i dnt want to ring him cos i know he will be busy but i really miss him but he said that he does want to see me on friday so im confused :confused:

is he jus using me?

Reply 1

Tariqé

i has the same thing with my ex, we used to meet once a week, then didnt see each other for a month because she was too busy for me, then broke up after that month.

I have two friends who, at the moment, just dont bother to reply to texts anymore. They are busy, but seriously THAT busy?!

he doesnt want to see you on friday? I think you and him, unlike me and my ex, need to have a serious talk about whats gonig on here! Boyfriends shouldnt be saying things like that to their girlfriends!

Hope things work out for the best, :smile:

Reply 2

wendizzle22

1

I'm sure when he doesn't have exams he will have lots of time with you. Exams are important - girlfriends will come and go but people need qualifications as they will always need a job or career. It looks like you have a good boyfriend who is serious about his future.
The best thing to do is let him study then meet at the weekend. He is probably already tempted to text you but is probably stopping himself if he knows that you'll persuade him to meet up, decreasing his revision time.

Everything will be fine when they're done.

Reply 3

apricot

OP

10

no i said that he said that he DOES want to see me on friday

Reply 4

strangebutbeautiful

i think, you maybe just need to look at it a bit closer and dont worry too much :smile:

when im busy revising i turn my phone off so its not a distraction. its fair enough if hes busy for this week, exams are important.

he probably wants to see you on friday as im sure hes missing you just as much!

Reply 5

oxygenbubbles

2

apricot

my bf has got exams everyday this week but it seems he still doesnt have any time to even text me. i dnt want to ring him cos i know he will be busy but i really miss him but he said that he does want to see me on friday so im confused :confused:

is he jus using me?

My bf and I both have exams everyday this week too, in fact we're both doing 4 A-Levels, so have had continuous exams/revision for the past 3 weeks so haven't seen each other for 3 weeks now. So I really wouldn't worry about it, exams obviously come first. If he's said he wants to see you at the weekend, that shows that he's making time for you, even though he's in the middle of his exams. :smile:

Don't feel that you can't ring him at all, maybe just not the night before an exam. You should still be able to text/talk, only not every day during exams. And remember, the exams are almost over now!

Reply 6

xXMessedUpXx

15

i think if its only been since the exam period started you shouldn't feel like he's usin you. Exams are stressful atthe best of times, and some people cope better when they can ustget down to it and concentrate without distractions. Its probably the case thathe is very busy, last year when my bf was doing exams (also had a lot of stress with uni) he never got round to texting me even though he wanted to. Find a day this week whe he doesn't have an exam the next day, ask how its ben going and wish him luck for the others, and try to plan something on friday. that way you both have something to look forward too, and who knows maybe it might boost his morale a bit if he knows that nce theyare over he gets to spend time with his gf :smile:

Reply 7

Vetinari

8

He's just focusing hard. Remember that you are a distraction away from his work - he no doubt enjoys spending time with you, and so because he is attempting to work really hard he has to keep all distractions out of reach for a short while. Clearly the fact that he wants to see you on friday shows that he does want to see you, he just knows that if he is in constant contact with you then he'll get less work done. :smile:

So don't worry about it, and just think about what it'll be like in a couple of weeks. All his exams will be over and all he'll want to do is kick back and relax with you for the rest of the summer. :smile:

Reply 8

Barny

17

Oh my god, he can't see you for a week because of exams, how will your relationship ever survive?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

how long does it take to txt?

Reply 10

Nutter

16

Alright now what's with the Anonymous post? There's no need to be anonymous for such questions/statements, for goodness sake.

Reply 11

Enchanté

14

He proabably wants to do well in his exams, doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, i'm sure when he has finshed you'll spend plenty of time together.

Reply 12

guitar_chick

1

i have solid exams for the next 2 weeks and i dont have too much time for my boyfriend, the only time im gonna see him this week is friday. i dont htink hes being that unreasonable tbh. saying that, wait till after gcses to make your decision, i'd be devastated if i was dumped in the middle of my exams because i didnt have enough spare time.

Reply 13

Leigh

15

I guess you're right to be a little down, especially if you're used to seeing each other all the time usually. Exams are stressful, especially the ones at this age.
No need to worry, unless it carries on after exams, but it doesn't sound like it should. I'm all tied up with exams and work at the moment so don't have as much time as I did a few weeks ago for my girlfriend, but if he's like I am, he will miss you, but will know exams must come first right now and he hopes you understand and are behind him.

Why not call him tonight when you/him usually go to bed. Don't ask for much of his time, just call to say goodnight and wish him luck or something. He won't be working just before bed, so you shouldn't be in the way, and if it's only short won't stop him getting the sleep he needs.

Reply 14

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\_Nenna_/

To be fair it was the same with me, i had the exams and my boyfriend had none, he respected the fact exams were important, and knew i didnt have time for lengthy txt/phone calls. He text me every night around 11pm to say gd night and gd luck for my exam the nxt day etc. So maybe you should text him and show ur support? Rather than expecting him to text you.

Reply 15

keenya2006

well the least he could do is text you once though, i mean come on. I would want my man to miss me at least that much...and if after exams his distance persist...you gotta kick his ass to the curb
I know you got exams
But Im still your girlfriend,boo
I cant believe you are trippin
What are A-levels to me and you?
If want to get some later ontonight
I suggest you pick up the phone and atleast wish me goodnight
I dont have time to play games with stupid ass boys
I'd have more fun alone with some lube and a few toys
So all im sayin is just pick up the phone
or this is the last time you will hear me bitch and moan

Reply 16

Ron Stoppable

14

Get over yourself, woman.

He is only socially-valuable to you when he's chasing goals; Wayne Rooney's girlfriend doesn't moan when he goes to score a goal now - does she?

Reply 17

lucky 13

i would dump everything just to see my boo...

( i have done it, and still passed my exams) :biggrin:

and the funny thing is that i havent even studied sometimes...and still passed

just believe in yourself, tell yourself that no matter what, you still gonna pass the exam...

Reply 18

Renza

11

apricot

my bf has got exams everyday this week but it seems he still doesnt have any time to even text me. i dnt want to ring him cos i know he will be busy but i really miss him but he said that he does want to see me on friday so im confused :confused:

is he jus using me?

Girlfriends/Boyfriends are an awful distraction during exam time with you often spending more time than you mean to with them if you decide to meet up for say an hour or half hour. He could be afraid that if he texts you he'll get distracted by that too.

I had to do this to my last boyfriend last year (and definitely not a factor in us breaking up because we broke up a couple of months ago due to other reasons) but thankfully he understood. I can't remember if I texted him or not - not as much as usual anyway. Anyway, I promised to make it up to him in the summer and I think I did. We had a great summer with T in the Park and lots of other stuff.

Go easy on the guy and don't judge him until the exams are over. Maybe he feels he'd get distracted by his phone altogether and doesn't check it and send messages in case he has messages from other people too.

I remember last year being rather obsessive with exams (except English lol and don't even go there with philosophy). You just gotta remember that it's really only a short period of time in which you don't see him. You may be important to him but this one month helps decide his future whilst the other 10-11 months can be used to socialise.

My current bf has actually been in Canada for 11 days - I should have no excuse to not revise for sociology. Shame I haven't lol. I have my uni place. I don't need my grades. :rolleyes:

Plus I sorta let him distract me around the sitting of my Advanced Highers - not good idea. :rolleyes:

In all, I think you should wait until after his exams before you decide he is using you.

Reply 19

Marie05

1

apricot

my bf has got exams everyday this week but it seems he still doesnt have any time to even text me. i dnt want to ring him cos i know he will be busy but i really miss him but he said that he does want to see me on friday so im confused :confused:

is he jus using me?

I cant help but think you're a bit selfish/inconsiderate. It's only a week or so, when he'll be wanting as few distractions as possible. Is that such a big problem? For example, I personally find texting such a pain in the backside when i'm busy especially revising! I understand texting is quick and easy, but its still a distraction. If i had a boyfriend who is in the middle of his exams, i'd do my very best to help/support him during this time and this usually just involves leaving him alone.

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