Toxic friend

I have a problem with a friend. We are both 22; fell out over a year ago as she was being a cow. She got in touch with me a couple of months ago and I thought put the past behind (so I thought). Trouble is she is too in your face now, not considerate towards others and still wants everyone to do what she wants and go where she wants.

I have noticed the last couple of times we have emailed she never asks how I am or how my (important) exam went and goes on about this guy all the time who she is besotted with her who is 20 years senior, used her and said bye. But she thinks he is in love with her when the signs are obvious he doesn’t as he has told her many times he is not interested and has a partner.

I came back off holiday a few days ago, read my emails and saw she never asked about me and how my holiday was and blabbered about this guy who its going nowhere with. I got really upset as I had such a nice holiday and came back to this email and realised true friends wouldn’t behave like this.

What do you think I should do? I have before not mentioned him in emails and been blunt about the situation but it hasn’t worked. Or do you think she is a toxic friend who is just out to use? (probably cos I got a car and she wants to go to her places).

Reply 1

dh00001

she sounds very self centered. tell her exactly what you just said and she'll get the message. does sound quite alot like shes sponging off you for whatever reason.

anyway how was your holiday :p:

Reply 2

Electric

Amazing how many people view these problems but don't have the decency to help.

The girl sounds like a user and wants her own way. You have three options ignore her for a while, tell her the problem or make new friends.

Afraid some people are too dumb enough to see the signs when they are rejected and their friends usually suffer.