He's too shy and I'm too stubborn!!

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I found out someone really likes me but he is too shy to talk to me and after texting him a few times he seems to be really holding back. I'm too stubborn to ask him out myself and also fear rejection so don't know what to do. Should I keep texting him and just asking him to meet up when me and my friends go out and hope for the best or should I ask him directly?

Reply 1

Alamothih

lol its not me is it? im shy to the extreme aswell

Ask himt o meet you with your mates get him included and then he will be a bit easier, though dont shove him infront of ally our mates and go He likes me. I wuda melted if that happens.

And yeah if you want to ask him ask him, otherwise build his confidence with him.

Thats coming from a shy representative :biggrin:

Reply 2

Zoe_Holl

1

I'd continue asking him to come out with you and your friends - but maybe ask him to bring a few of his friends too so he isnt too nervous. If that doesnt work, then i think you should ask him.

Reply 3

Wonderboy Blue

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If he's shy why not meet up just the two of you? Might be easier for him than meeting you and all your friends.

Reply 4

Alamothih

yup ask him, if u want him, u might risk losing it over his self-conciousness. Trust me let at least one pass that way she was stubborn im shy, gone chance. And it is a shame for both of you.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

NOOO. wait. If he wants you that badly he will ask you. Dont worry.

Reply 6

Vetinari

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Anonymous

NOOO. wait. If he wants you that badly he will ask you. Dont worry.

I wouldn't hold your breath. Shy people don't easily overcome their shyness when they find a girl they like - they just become even more shy! Your best bet is just to try and help him *overcome* his shyness, like others have suggested.

Perhaps you could prompt him to arrange something. Like ask him if he wants to go see some particular movie, and then get *him* to book some tickets online or something, and get him to invite some of his mates. That way he will feel more confident because he has more control and so isn't entirely out of his comfort zone, and you'll get to spend more time with him. :smile:

Reply 7

JitsuCol

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See post above, sounds good :smile:

Edit: (Maybe even minus those mates..!)

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Yes, all attempts by the woman beyond flirting kind of destroy the romance before it has begun. Sit tight. Its his mate's job to kick him up the bum.

Reply 9

Alamothih

if hes as shy as i, i wudnt let my mates know to kick me up the bum, and then thy may not even cos they know im shy.

Reply 10

Mr @

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Vetinari

I wouldn't hold your breath. Shy people don't easily overcome their shyness when they find a girl they like - they just become even more shy! Your best bet is just to try and help him *overcome* his shyness, like others have suggested.

Perhaps you could prompt him to arrange something. Like ask him if he wants to go see some particular movie, and then get *him* to book some tickets online or something, and get him to invite some of his mates. That way he will feel more confident because he has more control and so isn't entirely out of his comfort zone, and you'll get to spend more time with him. :smile:

minus the mates, that sounds right.i think making him invite mates will put him in an arkward situation

Reply 11

Vetinari

8

Well she doesn't have to demand he invites them, but perhaps just lightly hint that he might have a friend or two who might like to go with them. If he is sweating at the thought of being alone with her and having to confront his shyness so suddenly then he can invite a friend or two and the whole day will be more enjoyable for everyone. If just putting the control in his hands is enough then he wont invite them and it'll all work out perfectly :biggrin:

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

errr yeah I'm in a similar situation but the other way round :frown:

He's too shy and I'm too stubborn!!

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