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Is it every acceptable to dump someone by text?

hey all,

I was wondering what the rest of you fellow TSR memebers thought on the subject of dumping someone by text. Especially when its perfectly possible for them to dump you face to face (obviously dumping by text from another country is less harsh, although a phone call would be better in anycase!)

My last gf dumped me by text and, from that moment, i knew we couldnt "be friends" - she had shattered my trust in her. Plus i felt absolutely worthless, like i wasnt important enough for her to spare the time to say this to my face.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Next time (if it happens!) that someone dumps me by text, I wont be as sympathetic and understanding as i was the last time - next time ill be mad with them!

Reply 1

Itchynscratchy

10

Its absolutely spineless, if she thought that little of you then your well rid

Reply 2

Glory

1

its the cowards way out, if someone is capable of that they aint worth your time or thoughts. But least she dumped you, took me 6 weeks of seperation to realise my ex was never going to dump me or see me again or even respond to my messages.

Reply 3

halfoflessthan50p

12

My initial reaction is to say yes, thats pathetic. If she gave a damn about you she would try and explain it to your face and do it in a way that would hurt you as little as possible.

But im making a lot of assumptions here. Is it possible shes too upset (or angry) to speak to you? Maybe she wants to be with her friends at the moment and she'll come and sort things out with you once shes got everything sorted out with herself. Maybe just give it some time?

Reply 4

halfoflessthan50p

12

(assumptions, presumptions? :biggrin:

i should learn to write properly)

Reply 5

supernova2

11

Its a cowardly thing, but maybe she just cares about you too much so shes scared to do it face to face. A paradox maybe but ome peopel think illogically.

Reply 6

jd27

Noone knows how to break up well. If she had broken up with you in person, then there would be something else you'd be upset about - she should have done it two weeks earlier/later, she shouldn't have phrased it like that, she shouldn't have been sympathetic, she should have been sympathetic etc. People who don't feel they can criticise someone's decision will always fall back on the way that decision was conveyed to them - be grateful she gave you something particularly rude to focus your attention on, so that you had a legitimate reason to bitch, be angry and get it out of your system.

Reply 7

pink_lucie

14

i did hahahahahahahahaha and i was in tescos at the time! hahahahahahahaha

but what made it worse was that he was in my class at college....but droped out cos he got bullied :rofl:

*gets neged by loads of people*

Reply 8

Zlatan

1

Sounds like a plan, just remember to keep it short and sweet. I mean, you don't want to spend more than 10p now do ya?

If that fails, and she wants to meet you to talk, start the conversation off with, "you look different, have you brushed your teeth?"

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

Hmm. Alternatively maybe you were such a complete prick to her that she was mad at you. Maybe you should ask. You're not instantly the victim because you didn't get a 'fair' dumping - you may, in fact, have been the cause.

Reply 10

*~vicki~*

2

I'd say no, i really dont think that a text is an appropriate way to dump someone.
I know it must be hard, and it takes guts to dump someone face to face, but can u imagine getting a text on your phone 'sry i dnt like u nemore, ur dumped' it would just be so spineless of the person. mind you if someone dumps you by text, you are probably well out of it if they are that kind of individual, with no regard for anyone elses feelings.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

why do people make such a big deal out of it?

"dump", is a bit of a harsh word to describe it, esp. if you're doing it because you know your not good enough for your partner; i wouldnt call that "dumping".

Reply 12

Happy_Rocker

1

Definately No Text.. no phone.. no email.. no msn no letter no messenger pigeon no smoke signals.....face to face i think is the only respectable way of doing it, shows that you once cared.(obviosly if distance is an issue....)

I have been dumped by all of the above and it wasn't nice...none of them!!

Reply 13

halfoflessthan50p

12

...especially the smoke signals

It hurts your feelings AND your clothes smell of smoke afterwards

Reply 14

Teebs

16

Happy_Rocker

Definately No Text.. no phone.. no email.. no msn no letter no messenger pigeon no smoke signals.....face to face i think is the only respectable way of doing it, shows that you once cared.(obviosly if distance is an issue....)

I have been dumped by all of the above and it wasn't nice...none of them!!

To be fair, if you're in a long distance relationship, phone is reasonable.

Reply 15

Happy_Rocker

1

Teebs

To be fair, if you're in a long distance relationship, phone is reasonable.

Thats why i said 'obviously if distance was an issue....' I thought people would realise i meant that if distance was an issue then it'd be okay :wink:

Reply 16

hugatree

11

Teebs

To be fair, if you're in a long distance relationship, phone is reasonable.

I was gonna say.

It was long distance for us (like diff. countries) and I broke up with my bf through text cos I was furious and he wouldn't come on MSN so.. after a week we started emailing and explaining (I emailed to say why I broke up via sms). We're still great friends. :smile:

So yes, it's acceptable, depending on the situation.

Reply 17

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

hey all,

I was wondering what the rest of you fellow TSR memebers thought on the subject of dumping someone by text. Especially when its perfectly possible for them to dump you face to face (obviously dumping by text from another country is less harsh, although a phone call would be better in anycase!)

My last gf dumped me by text and, from that moment, i knew we couldnt "be friends" - she had shattered my trust in her. Plus i felt absolutely worthless, like i wasnt important enough for her to spare the time to say this to my face.

Does anyone else feel the same way? Next time (if it happens!) that someone dumps me by text, I wont be as sympathetic and understanding as i was the last time - next time ill be mad with them!

If I ever got dumped by text, I'd arrange to meet the girl somewhere "to chat" and fully stand her up for revenge. then when she rings wondering where I am, I'll keep making excuses and say that I'm running late to see how long I can leave her there for.

then she'd get a text of my mind. lol

Reply 18

filastini

14

No clearly not. That's bitchy and no one deserves it.

Well, the people who you think deserve it know they're dumped anyway :smile:

Reply 19

34253

2

Phones4U sacked like 400 employees by text :smile:

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Is it every acceptable to dump someone by text?

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