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Original post by Xotol
The point is that all feminists have been generalised to this viewpoint. That is the problem.


No, it's the logical conclusion, when you read their arguments.A good example is the fact they focus on violence against WOMEN, when men actually experience it more.
Original post by truffle_girl
The thing is, there's seeing rape as horrendous, and as, therefore, a problem; and there's believing the sensationalistic "1-in-4" claims that feminists make. There's seeing rape as a crime which should be punished very harshly, and there's assuming that 99% of rape accusations are true. Feminists seem to USE rape as a tool to further their agenda, because of the emotive nature of the subject, and it really annoys me.



The thing is, the 'slut marches' are another example of feminism's illogical. Some policeman basically said that women should avoid dressing like sluts, to reduce the chances of rape. That's not saying that it's okay to be raped, if you're wearing revealing clothing; that's merely suggesting that the chances of rape will be lower, if not dressed in such a way. Whether he's right or wrong, it's no different logic to saying "don't leave your car door unlocked, or valuables on display, if you don't want to be a victim of vehicle theft/theft from a vehicle".

Yeah, it was worded VERY clumsily; yes, he used an offensive term, so I'm not condoning the statement 100%, far from it; but it still doesn't mean that he's excusing rape. There's a difference between an explanation, and a justification, after all.

It's the near-100% feministic support for such causes as the 'slut marches', which show just how irrational they are.


I totally agree with you about the inflation of rape statistics. However you don't have to be a feminist to agree it's still a large problem, even though the 1 in 4 and 99% 'statistics' are inaccurate. I suppose I would agree with your second point about feminist using rape to get people angry, although what most annoys me is how they don't offer practical ways of reducing rape incidents (they just blame men or society, or pretend they can stop pornography being available on the internet). My solutions would be:

1) Raise the VAT on alcohol. Hopefully this would reduce people getting drunk and becoming criminals.
2) Use the money rasied from the extra VAT to pay for more CCTV. Although this might not stop rapes happening, I hope it would give more evidence and lead to more convictions.
3) Legalise prostitution. Why become a criminal for sex when you can just pay for it?

Yes, it's unfortunate how that policeman was misunderstood.

I'd have to disagree with your last point though. Although most feminists (and indeed pretty much every normal person) would support the core ideals behind the slut marches, I think far from supporting the marches, the great majority of feminists would be quietly embarrassed.
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Reply 22
Original post by truffle_girl
For such a movement to be justified, it must firstly make an attempt to show evidence for its claims. This 'evidence' must then bear scrutiny, and so feminists must be able to DEFEND the evidence against such scrutiny. They fail to do so. They must then answer claims against discrimination against men; largely, they fail to do so. The logical mind requires solid evidence to be swayed; rather than sensationalistic propaganda.

So, firstly, the illogical.

Secondly, effectively, this then makes them discriminatory against men.

Thirdly, how much does MODERN feminism help women, anyway? Trying to push more women into top jobs/unbroken career spans, when there's no evidence that they want them? Saying that the colour pink is discriminatory, when most women like it?

Decrying all that is feminine, seems rather a dubious form of helping women, to me.


It's campaigning to give women the option of those jobs, where they may not have had them before. I don't see any evidence of them forcing women into employment, or even looking down on women who wish to have children and not have high-flying careers. And there's no evidence that women don't want top jobs? Really? Maybe there haven't been any studies or surveys done to give concrete evidence, but I know lots of women who are working towards or would like successful careers and "top jobs".

And where is the evidence that feminists say that pink is discriminatory? The only recent articles I've seen even remotely related to your point are complaining about certain situations where pink is the only colour available for things like sports equipment, which is annoying if you dislike pink. What exactly are you referring to here?

I haven't seen any evidence of women "decrying femininity", and you haven't provided any. So, you’re being a bit of a hypocrite, really.
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Reply 23
Original post by truffle_girl
You KNOW this, do you? You're inside everyone's head?


I guess not. But don't women enjoy sex as much as men? And what does more sexually valuable even mean?
Reply 24
Because men and women are different! Freedom of choice and equal opportunities is one thing and the ideology that radical feminists believe in is another. The latter I can't be arsed with!
Original post by MangoFreak
I feel like the modern perception of feminism is so low because it's the extremists and the "man-haters" that get the most press. I wouldn't call such people feminists.


Exactly this. True feminism is abiut material, social and political equality for men and women, nothing else!

All the rest of it is just extremism and people who have missed the point. In truth, anyone who believes in equality between the sexes is a feminist.

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Reply 26
Feminism means equal rights for all. Before coming to uni, I didn't think people seriously believed that feminism meant radical women supremacy. Feminism means equal rights whatever gender you are. I thought everyone knew that and was shocked when people misunderstood it.

Edit: Also, people always say 'I agree with feminism when it's about equal rights but I don't agree with radical feminism'. Well obviously. I don't understand why people always have to clarify that.
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Reply 27
Original post by Rybee
Male view: I am SO agreeable to female equality, and equality in all forms. Sex/Race/Sexual Orientation... but I hate 'feminism'

I genuinely don't think that it stands for equality at all. It stands for women wanting to belittle men and be better than them.

Equal Rights: Sure.
Feminism: Not a chance.


YOU COULD NOT BE MORE RIGHT OMG. Some misconstrued types of feminism are so far from equality it's ridiculous. wow you literally have exactly the same view as me, except whenever i voice my opinion so many (feminist!) girls attack me accusing me of all sorts.... :mad:

I'm a girl, and I think women should be treated equally with regards to men. Equal pay, equal access to jobs, equal treatment etc. But, women are not better than men. Some women need to accept that men are going to be better at some things,and women better at others. Each gender has it's own strengths and weaknesses, mostly physically but also mentally. SOME feminists really don't get that. (not all, i'm sure...but some).
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Original post by bottled
Most girls I know could care less about it.


Original post by Philbert
It's campaigning to give women the option of those jobs, where they may not have had them before.


But, given that women DO now have the option of these jobs.......? We're talking about feminism in 2013, not 1913.

I don't see any evidence of them forcing women into employment, or even looking down on women who wish to have children and not have high-flying careers.


There are numerous feminists calling for quotas. At any rate, in the absence of evidence that women aren't being forced to be full-time mothers, complaining bitterly about wage gaps and women doing this, is tantamount to putting pressure on women to have high-flying careers. They imply that raising kids is inferior to working. If not, then what's the problem?

And there's no evidence that women don't want top jobs? Really? Maybe there haven't been any studies or surveys done to give concrete evidence, but I know lots of women who are working towards or would like successful careers and "top jobs".


There is no evidence that more women want them, THAN HAVE ALREADY GOT THEM, as compared to men who don't. There's no evidence that there's a 50:50 split in men and women who want them. Of course many women want top jobs; and many have them.

And where is the evidence that feminists say that pink is discriminatory? The only recent articles I've seen even remotely related to your point are complaining about certain situations where pink is the only colour available for things like sports equipment, which is annoying if you dislike pink. What exactly are you referring to here?


A feminist right here said that it was wrong that pink had been made a girl's colour, and that it was bad because 'soft' things were coloured pink. Numerous other feminists have, too.

I could show you links, but what are you saying? That noone should use their experience with feminists, to talk about 'feminists'? If you're so bothered, then call yourself something different.

This thread mentions 'feminism'. Are you saying that noone is meant to take 'feminism' to mean anything other than the dictionary definition? Why is it that you get to talk on behalf of 'feminism', any more than the feminists we describe?
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Original post by Delphinus

I'm a girl, and I think women should be treated equally with regards to men. Equal pay, equal access to jobs, equal treatment etc. But, women are not better than men. Some women need to accept that men are going to be better at some things,and women better at others. Each gender has it's own strengths and weaknesses, mostly physically but also mentally. SOME feminists really don't get that. (not all, i'm sure...but some).


This is why I feel the phenomenon of women usually being the ones to raise the children, and men focusing solely on their careers, is natural. It's just a reflection of natural strengths and desires, and the wage gap reflects this.

Feminism claims to be for 'equality', but they don't really seem to believe that men and women are equally as good or bad, given that they insist that domestic violence is 95% male-perpetrated, and that 95% of rape accusations are true.

Actions talk louder than words.
Reply 31
Back in the day when women were more literally oppressed, yes I agree with feminism in that essence.

BUT I do NOT agree with modern day feminism in which women use that as an excuse to downgrade men .

there's a big difference between equality and justice and both sexes should have the equal respect in what they do.
So, where is the evidence of feminists also supporting men's rights. Perhaps I'll start a charity "for white people", then? Does that sound good? But, hey, it won't matter, because that's just focusing on one issue, not ignoring the other?

be it this post of your posts to me in the 'last of us' thread, your reasoning is very flawed and what is worse is that you dont seem to notice it... do not let bias impact your rational thinking.. evidence that goes against your views=/= worthless/insignificant evidence... im still waiting for all the evidence you claim to have... when posting this evidence of yours, please remember what i said before... simply giving examples of idiot feminists does not prove that feminism itself is the same... having a lot of sources of these idiots also does not prove anything about feminism being bad


I'm also waiting for all the evidence YOU claim to have. At any rate, seeing as you're basically saying that having a lot of sources of idiots doesn't prove anything, anyway, what's the point in me showing it you?

It's hilarious, how you're saying that you can't make conclusions, based on even "a lot of sources", yet you expect me to be swayed, when you barely give ANY. Why do people have to be swayed by you insisting that feminism isn't about anything other than equality, but not by their numerous experiences to the contrary?
Lol!!!!! You tell me to stop with generalisations about feminism........and then go on to make your own generalisation about it.

BRILLIANT.....
Original post by AparnaX
I guess not. But don't women enjoy sex as much as men? And what does more sexually valuable even mean?


I'd say that's very debatable, given the fact that women can have men pay vast sums of money to have sex with them, but rarely vice versa. Prostitution is called 'the oldest profession', after all. By "sexually valuable", I presume he meant that young women were the most sexually-desirable group of people, overall, in terms of the amount of sexual desire aimed at them. Maybe he'll answer the question himself, though.
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Original post by Iron Lady
I agree with equal rights, opportunities and the ability to do as you please, providing it doesn't happen anyone, irrespective of gender or any other characteristic/demographic.

However, I dislike the feminists with the holier than thou attitudes who want to ban Page 3 or 'lad magazines'. They're clearly not in favour of letting women choose their own professions.

Equal choices/opportunities? Yeah... As long as you match my ideals. :sigh:


And our favourite PM never needed such rules to get to the top, she got there because she was the best.
Reply 36
I'm not sure about that. Women are not a minority like ethnic minorities. Men and women both have issues to solve in the West. To prevent "radfems" or misogynists hijacking movements, surely it would be wiser to have one movement (e.g. egalitarianism) whereby men and women work together to address each problems of each sex?

the reason why you cant use an example of feminists being stupid is because that does not represent feminist ideology...feminism has decent people in it, and feminism has fools in it... but the fools dont represent what feminism is about... and thats not a generalisation
I think you'll find very few people have a problem with ideological feminism. But the problem we anti-feminists have is with the movement.

Whether you like it or not, the feminism movement is filled with illogical theories and sexist claims against men.

Surely such a group cannot be helping the West get to gender equality?

Why not have gender egalitarianism replace feminism in the West?
Reply 37
Original post by drake10
Thanks for sharing! I welcome opposing view points. :smile:

Most of those issues surely result from the fact that young women are far more sexually valuable than men? So - feminists want to fight biology and nature? I agree that rape is terrible but the other problems aren't the end of the world, and ironically feminists are against things which would actually reduce the incidence of rape. (e.g lowering male sex drive through porn and prostitutes)


"Fight biology and nature."

No it's not, socially constructed gender roles people use to control women and guilt trip them about their sexuality and then bringing up some "hurdur evolution" crap to try and validate it. "I agree rape is terrible but" - no, rape is horrendous, rape is disgusting, and as a man, something you don't have to fear anywhere near as much as a woman does on a daily basis. It's degrading and violating, as is the other kinds of sexual harassment women get everyday and shouldn't have to put up with "because it's not the end of the world." We should do NOTHING to reduce incidences of rape, it should be men just not raping for christ's sake. You're not animals.

Original post by Dan1607
That is bull****. If feminism was just about equality then there would be no need for the term, because equality for all comes under the term of liberalism.


I can't believe some people are actually serious in this thread.

It's fighting for women's rights so there WILL be equality. Men have already had all the rights, all the dominance, all the say in what goes on and what happens to women for hundreds of years. Women have been viewed as commodities and not even their own person up until about less than a hundred years ago, feminism is about fighting for their rights to be equal to those of men. Why on earth would the focus be on equality for men when they've already had the say in everything?
Reply 38
Original post by IlexBlue

I can't believe some people are actually serious in this thread.

It's fighting for women's rights so there WILL be equality. Men have already had all the rights, all the dominance, all the say in what goes on and what happens to women for hundreds of years. Women have been viewed as commodities and not even their own person up until about less than a hundred years ago, feminism is about fighting for their rights to be equal to those of men. Why on earth would the focus be on equality for men when they've already had the say in everything?

If men have all the rights, why don't they have the right to male abortion?

Why are women not allowed to legally rape?

Why is male circumcision still legal in many countries?

And are you trying to say women face more discrimination in the West than men?
Original post by IlexBlue

It's fighting for women's rights so there WILL be equality. Men have already had all the rights, all the dominance, all the say in what goes on and what happens to women for hundreds of years. Women have been viewed as commodities and not even their own person up until about less than a hundred years ago, feminism is about fighting for their rights to be equal to those of men. Why on earth would the focus be on equality for men when they've already had the say in everything?


First off, what happened in the past is irrelevant; that you feel the need to talk about the past is rather revealing, some would say. Secondly, you do nothing to actually substantiate the claim; which is the general problem, with feminism.

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