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Stupid, stupid me! (cheating)

The other night I went to see my ex, after she had an argument with her boyfriend and she needed someone to talk to her.

Well, things were ok at first, we had the usual hug when we saw each other and walk, and chat. Then we went back to hers...

Well, that's where the trouble started. We were sat outside having a chat and she leant over to kiss me. Naturally I pulled away, but then she kissed me again, and I kissed her back. We kept kissing for quite a while, went inside and got close on the sofa. We went back outside to cool off, and then we ended up kissing again, and it led upstairs.

Now, the problem is: We both have partners, but she said she loves me, and would like to try and get things back together after the exams. How do I tell the current girlfriend what happened, and how do I tell the ex how I feel (still mad about her)?

I really don't want to hurt anyone, but I know the damage has already been done.

:frown: I'm screwed
Reply 1
Do you want her or not? I assume you broke up with her for a reason?
Reply 2
I do want her yes. Things seemed to feel so right when I was with her, even when we weren't doing anything, just sat watching TV.

I broke up with her after she "forgot" about me one day and ended up with someone else, but she hasn't done it to anyone else since, or before.
Reply 3
Anonymous
I do want her yes. Things seemed to feel so right when I was with her, even when we weren't doing anything, just sat watching TV.

I broke up with her after she "forgot" about me one day and ended up with someone else, but she hasn't done it to anyone else since, or before.


umm, she has done it since... to her current partner... with you
Reply 4
hasn't done it since or before? what do you think happened between you two if she had a partner? it's the same thing!
Reply 5
Frankly, damage is done now. Get prepared because you are going to leave a trail of emotional devastation in your wake.

So since that is going to happen anyway, you may as well get back together again? There is no happy ending to this story either way.
Reply 6
petri dish
hasn't done it since or before? what do you think happened between you two if she had a partner? it's the same thing!

Very true, yes, but this is the first time since.

Isn't it possible that she was just doing what was natural (or what she perceived to be) though?
Reply 7
Bit like Sonia and Naomi from EastEnders. lol I think its all good, if you like her go for it :wink:
Reply 8
Anonymous
The other night I went to see my ex, after she had an argument with her boyfriend and she needed someone to talk to her.

Well, things were ok at first, we had the usual hug when we saw each other and walk, and chat. Then we went back to hers...

Well, that's where the trouble started. We were sat outside having a chat and she leant over to kiss me. Naturally I pulled away, but then she kissed me again, and I kissed her back. We kept kissing for quite a while, went inside and got close on the sofa. We went back outside to cool off, and then we ended up kissing again, and it led upstairs.

Now, the problem is: We both have partners, but she said she loves me, and would like to try and get things back together after the exams. How do I tell the current girlfriend what happened, and how do I tell the ex how I feel (still mad about her)?

I really don't want to hurt anyone, but I know the damage has already been done.

:frown: I'm screwed




ex's are ex's for a reason. She was obviously feeling angry at he boyfriend so wanted to get back at him and make herself better by getting some affection of you. It wont go anywhere. If she ever says anything, just deny it point blank and tell your current girlfriend that shes just jealous and trying to split you up.
Reply 9
But I don't want this ex to be an ex.

I know the damage is done, and I know there is a situation now which will cause destruction regarding one of the girls, but I really don't know what to do :frown:
Anonymous
But I don't want this ex to be an ex.

I know the damage is done, and I know there is a situation now which will cause destruction regarding one of the girls, but I really don't know what to do :frown:



you may not want that, but shes still the ex for a reason, which were her reasons. Now whilst shes pissy with her newboyfriend shes gone with you to make herself feel better... shes not trustworthy enough. whats going to happen if you get with her then it gets rocky again like how you split up before? the first thing shes going to be doing is getting some attention from elsewhere to make herself feel better. You'll blatently be used and end up without her again. Wouldnt trust her mate.

also unless ur planning on splitting with ur current girl, dont bother telling her. I'm sure she'd give you the benefit of the doubt if your ex ever tells her.

Your ex sounds like shes the dominent one in your relationship and letting a woman think shes fully in control will only lead to trouble. especially if she was the one who ended it with you in the first place. if you did get back with her you'd have to do the treat em mean bit to keep her on her toes and make sure you're the one in charge of the relationship. you'll have to figger out if you can be bothered with all that.
Reply 11
if you are still mad about your ex why are you with another girl? that's despicable and if that's the way you treat girls you don't deserve to have either of these girls. Is it not blatantly obvious to you that your ex was looking for sympathy? break up with your gf immediately because she doesn't deserve to be with a cheater who is still mad about his ex.
I wouldn't be suprised if you lose both girls, i can't believe you dumped her just because she forgot about you, and look what your doing to your current girlfriend, least if your gonna do anything with your ex, break up with your current and she has to break up with her's.

Not sure how old you are but you sound like your not mature enough for a relationship.
I say we should get the whole aftermath filmed and go get ourselves some popcorn.
Reply 14
yes how old are you? my bf's exs who keep trying to get him back despite he's with me now and i will be devastated if he goes back to an ex. think about who you really like
El Scotto
letting a woman think shes fully in control will only lead to trouble.


perhaps just a little chauvinistic?
or a lot?
this guy has also cheated; frankly they seem to deserve each other. Presuming his girlfriend and her boyfriend havent cheated they certainly dont deserve to be treated in that way.