Terrible night

Hi to all, recently i've been interested in this girl and took her to a party which went really well i mean for the two of us.... However in a sort of 'after party' in the pub one of my best friends got really drunk and starting calling my friend a 'whore, etc'. So at first, i was like he mate, your not helping ...... knowing that sometimes he is always a little bit eccentric!!! But in the end, he didn't stop, attacking her as a 'virgin' and so forth ( he just kept on ranting). In the end i decided that I would put an end to it, and after defeating him in a debate (despite the fact he was still drunk) managed to seperate the two parties. I could really tell that she was happy that I had 'defended her honour'........

anyway later on in the night/early hours of the morning, the drunken raven c**t managed to get to her again. This time i was not there, and other people who were, laughing at the situation which did not help. In the end, she got slapped like 3 times, which I missed as I was talking to a couple of other people. Complimentary drinks were thrown at both parties, and she was near tears. I feel so awful, since i really underestimated the situation and really wasn't there when she needed it. Damn, it now she isn't talking to anyone, what should i do?

Reply 1

Talya

16

LOL What?

Sorry, why didn't she just leave? What a silly girl.

talk to her.

Yeah, I agree - talk to her. Tell her you're sorry for your mates behaviour. You could even see if he'd consider apologising to her; he sounds like he was being a total weapon.

Reply 4

Renza

11

Oh dear. It's not nice when you're a violent drunk.

When I first got drunk I got seriously drunk (as in, if I drunk anymore I'd get alcohol poisoning) Aparently I tried to punch my friend and slapped one of them. They had to pin me down. :eek:

Needless to say i have never drunk a drop since. I'm such a pacifist, quiet and non-confrontational person in normal everyday life.

Speak to your friend about this and see what they remember and ask them if they can be honest and if they really do have something against this girl.

Sounds like your friend should stop getting drunk. There's an awful drinking culture in Britain. It shouldn't be such a big deal and people really shouldn't get drunk (or get drunk so often).

After some time I think you should consider getting your friend to apologise and possibly give her a card to say sorry or something like that. Maybe you should get the girl some flowers too to apologise on the friend's behalf.
Reassure her that any comments he made like the virgin one do not change your perception of her (I really don't understand why young people make such a big deal about being virgins - I've never had that pressure - It's always been of my own free will whether I do or not).

I wouldn't put too much emphasis on what may be insecurities though. Depending on what type of person she is you might now want to bring up the issue at all.

But show her you're concerned and feel awful for not being there.

I suggest you try and get her number and ask her if you can come round to hers. Bring some comfort food or something eg, tell her over the phone that you have some amazing hot chocolate or something like that.

Or if it's too soon for that then just speak to her over the phone or if she denies you going round to talk to her say that you are available to speak to whenever she needs it.

Emphasise to the highest degree how much the other folk were complete arses.

Reply 5

WorkHouse

12

I know your mates behaviour towards your girl is completely out of order, however i can't help thinking that there may be something behind it, i don't know what....

Obviously i'm not that particular friend - however, i (nor any sane or even slightly "eccentric" person) wouldn't start a scene in a pub, have a debate with one of my mates over it and then after being seperated return to slap the girl unless i had just cause....

It seems you really like this girl, but talk to your mate - SOBER - and ask him (or her, not sure if u specified a gender) what his motivation was....

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for your comments. The thing is, she just seems to be ignoring my txts...+my friend can't even remember slapping her so now i'm really at odds. Its like, I really wish people could control their drinking habits sometimes

Reply 7

Renza

11

Anonymous

Thanks for your comments. The thing is, she just seems to be ignoring my txts...+my friend can't even remember slapping her so now i'm really at odds. Its like, I really wish people could control their drinking habits sometimes

Hopefully your friend should learn from this experience.

I know I did. I don't know your friend but drink can completely change a person personality wise.

Give it time with the girl. Maybe you could go round to her house?

Reply 8

Country Lad Rob

IGNORING YOUR TEXTS??? why are you texting her in the first place talk to her in PERSON.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

already onto it. When I finally get to talk to her, it be really interesting to hear what she has to say. Especially when she really had an embarassing nite

Reply 10

WorkHouse

12

Anonymous

already onto it. When I finally get to talk to her, it be really interesting to hear what she has to say. Especially when she really had an embarassing nite

Have you talked to your mate over why he did it?

Reply 11

Steph!

13

Country Lad Rob

IGNORING YOUR TEXTS??? why are you texting her in the first place talk to her in PERSON.

:dito: CALL HER at the very least!!

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Not yet, but I spoke to another friend who was there that did, and he says he can't remember a thing. Personally I think he wil come out with some sort of crap, like that wasn't me it was the drink, but are you gonna use that excuse everytime you hit someone.

Reply 13

WorkHouse

12

Anonymous

Not yet, but I spoke to another friend who was there that did, and he says he can't remember a thing. Personally I think he wil come out with some sort of crap, like that wasn't me it was the drink, but are you gonna use that excuse everytime you hit someone.

From what i've read, it seems it was HIM... Tell him the drink was irrelevant, and that there's obviously some other reason why... Sorry if i'm completely out of order, its just my 2p worth. :redface:

Reply 14

simeon125

10

Just wanna say TSR members, I've sorted everything out. Had a great chat with her and she's completely fine. and she has made up with my best mate who has appriopately apolgised. She stole his jacket, while he wasn't looking -something of which i wasn't aware, anyway now she's given it back and my friend has promised to control his drinking habits. He doesn't really remember anything, but I can tell he is sorry.

Reply 15

simeon125

10

Yes i know i posted as myself, whats the point in posting as anon.?

Reply 16

WorkHouse

12

simeon125

Just wanna say TSR members, I've sorted everything out. Had a great chat with her and she's completely fine. and she has made up with my best mate who has appriopately apolgised. She stole his jacket, while he wasn't looking -something of which i wasn't aware, anyway now she's given it back and my friend has promised to control his drinking habits. He doesn't really remember anything, but I can tell he is sorry.

Thats great mate, Best of luck with u and this girl :smile:

Reply 17

WokSz

17

talk to her - she needs someone in times like this. And I do agree with Talya, she should have left. But that's the past now. Just speak to her and try and comfort her :smile:

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Reply 18

Byronic

Anonymous

Hi to all, recently i've been interested in this girl and took her to a party which went really well i mean for the two of us.... However in a sort of 'after party' in the pub one of my best friends got really drunk and starting calling my friend a 'whore, etc'. So at first, i was like he mate, your not helping ...... knowing that sometimes he is always a little bit eccentric!!! But in the end, he didn't stop, attacking her as a 'virgin' and so forth ( he just kept on ranting). In the end i decided that I would put an end to it, and after defeating him in a debate (despite the fact he was still drunk) managed to seperate the two parties. I could really tell that she was happy that I had 'defended her honour'........

anyway later on in the night/early hours of the morning, the drunken raven c**t managed to get to her again. This time i was not there, and other people who were, laughing at the situation which did not help. In the end, she got slapped like 3 times, which I missed as I was talking to a couple of other people. Complimentary drinks were thrown at both parties, and she was near tears. I feel so awful, since i really underestimated the situation and really wasn't there when she needed it. Damn, it now she isn't talking to anyone, what should i do?

Hunt the guy down and elbow him upside the head.

Terrible night

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