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Really confusing Ex...
A few months ago my ex and I really started to get on well again after splitting nearly a year before. (By get on well, i do mean in a Friendship sense). He's got a girlfriend of about a year (he got with her about a month after the two of us split) and he's always seemed sickly devoted to her - he's just like that (one of the reasons why cynical me dumped him was because he was too nice)...
Now a few weeks ago he confided in a mutual friend that he's getting bored in his current relationship and has started to have feelings for my good self. As his girlfriend is extremely possesive i couldn't really talk to him that often face to face so communicated mainly through this (reliable) mutual friend. However, me being the person i am couldn't just do this so i decided to text him, he called a while later and after a good old half hour heart to heart, decided that he shouldn't make any rash decisions and he should just think long and hard about things, what he really wants blah blah blah.
Lately i've started to get really attrated to him again and I'm really getting to the point now where i just want to know whether or not it's me he wants or his girlfriend. I don't want to pressurise him as its an important year for all involved but i really just need to know... Should I say something, tell him i want a straight answer? I just need impartial advice really (All my friends are biased really).
Now a few weeks ago he confided in a mutual friend that he's getting bored in his current relationship and has started to have feelings for my good self. As his girlfriend is extremely possesive i couldn't really talk to him that often face to face so communicated mainly through this (reliable) mutual friend. However, me being the person i am couldn't just do this so i decided to text him, he called a while later and after a good old half hour heart to heart, decided that he shouldn't make any rash decisions and he should just think long and hard about things, what he really wants blah blah blah.
Lately i've started to get really attrated to him again and I'm really getting to the point now where i just want to know whether or not it's me he wants or his girlfriend. I don't want to pressurise him as its an important year for all involved but i really just need to know... Should I say something, tell him i want a straight answer? I just need impartial advice really (All my friends are biased really).
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Reply 1
Come on, It's not like u guys to be speechless lol...
Reply 3
Why do you wantr him back??? I know how this one goes, youll get back together on saturday. And next Saturday you'll be bored of MrNiceGuy and realise why you dumped him. Besides maybe he doesnt want a gf right now there's no time with the World cup coming up.
Reply 5
Fair points all of you... It's nice to hear something impartial.
World cup? He's a triathlete... U may have a point though. I might not want a boyfriend while thats on! lol
I suppose what i've learned is that you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone... Cheers.
World cup? He's a triathlete... U may have a point though. I might not want a boyfriend while thats on! lol
I suppose what i've learned is that you don't know what you've got 'til it's gone... Cheers.
Reply 6
If things aren't working with his current gf you should wait and see if he ends it with her first.
You might like him a lot right now, but remember why you dumped him the first time round. Who's to say those problems won't arise a second time?
You might like him a lot right now, but remember why you dumped him the first time round. Who's to say those problems won't arise a second time?
Reply 7
falling_stars
If things aren't working with his current gf you should wait and see if he ends it with her first.
You might like him a lot right now, but remember why you dumped him the first time round. Who's to say those problems won't arise a second time?
You might like him a lot right now, but remember why you dumped him the first time round. Who's to say those problems won't arise a second time?
Cheers, I know you're right, even though i know what he's said i still feel i have no right to go wading in with my size nines asking for a straight answer...
The "too nice" thing wasn't the reason - i was going through some issues back then (now resolved) that he really didn't deserve to get dragged into, that was the main thing...
Reply 8
Anyone else got any advice or comments? it really is quiet for 
Reply 9
I wouldn't, you dumped for a reason. You are only attracted to him now because there aren't any other guys in the picture to devote your attention to. Variety is the spice of life, and taking him back - your just gonna get bored again or whatever it was that made you two split in the first place. And your ex doesn't sound that hot for you anyway, talking about what he really wants etc...
Reply 10
Jack0
And your ex doesn't sound that hot for you anyway, talking about what he really wants etc...
I actually think the majority of girls would definitely take him and wouldnt find him boring, but thats my opinion.
Too many arrogant bastard guys, not enough nice guys
Reply 11
Jack0
I wouldn't, you dumped for a reason. You are only attracted to him now because there aren't any other guys in the picture to devote your attention to. Variety is the spice of life, and taking him back - your just gonna get bored again or whatever it was that made you two split in the first place. And your ex doesn't sound that hot for you anyway, talking about what he really wants etc...
"Variety is the Spice of life" i like it, i'm going on holiday in three weeks time, maybe being perpetually annialated for a week will help put things into perspective... I like drunken clarity lol......
It was me who said he should think long and hard about what he really wants, as i didn't want to get all the hassle if it was just a whim of his, his replying comment being "o.k, if you see me being affectionate towards her, don't think i mean it"... What's a girl supposed to think?
Reply 12
Anonymous
his replying comment being "o.k, if you see me being affectionate towards her, don't think i mean it"... What's a girl supposed to think?
Meaning he wants to keep his girlfriend sweet whilst he pursues his interest in you. I really don't think it's worth getting involved - think of it from his gfs point of view as well, why be harsh on her - she probably doesn't deserve to be dumped for her bfs ex?
Reply 13
He shouldn't be saying those things to you when he's with his current gf - you should let things peter out between them before you make any sort of move.
You've probably got a lot of questions you want answered, but asking him now when he's with someone isn't a great idea.
You've probably got a lot of questions you want answered, but asking him now when he's with someone isn't a great idea.
Reply 14
Jack0
Meaning he wants to keep his girlfriend sweet whilst he pursues his interest in you. I really don't think it's worth getting involved - think of it from his gfs point of view as well, why be harsh on her - she probably doesn't deserve to be dumped for her bfs ex?
I like you're interpretation lol... you're probobly right however thats not really the type of person he is, but still he's a man - apples and tree's and all that...
She doesn't deserve that type of treatment - (even though she was instrumental in my best mate's split from her significant ex). I wouldn't like it...
Reply 15
falling_stars
He shouldn't be saying those things to you when he's with his current gf - you should let things peter out between them before you make any sort of move.
You've probably got a lot of questions you want answered, but asking him now when he's with someone isn't a great idea.
You've probably got a lot of questions you want answered, but asking him now when he's with someone isn't a great idea.
I did feel a bit like a bastard when he said that. And i though as much his current g/f is a scheming bint, i wouldn't like that...
I do have a lot of questions that need answering and i know i've got to respect his situation, but this really horrible part of me thinks - he created this whole ****ed up situation, don't i at least deserve some answers? I know that isn't fair at all but...
Reply 16
, anyone else have their 2 cents to add?
Reply 18
WorkHouse
Sounds like a bastard!
Not so. He hasn't started seeing the OP again while also continuing with his scheming current girlfriend, so he's obviously not that bad. But yeah I reckon you should stay clear for a while OP, just until he has dumped his girlfriend (if he does). But I think mabye you should get some straight answers from him, just make sure he knows your not pressurising him into it. Also recall why you dumped him in the first place. You did say ther main reason was some personal issues that you didn't want hium getting dragged into. However those are now resolved so, they shouldn't be a problem this time round.
Reply 19
Sorry to drag this whole hthing up again but there's been a development. his g/f found out we've been texting each other and they had a huge argument. he told her we're just friends and her reply was she doesn't want him to so much as look at me never mind speak to me. Him being controlled by her to that degree (unjustifiably) annoys the hell out of me. she goes away soon and we're gonna meet to discuss things... however, this is the dilemma - i've been reliably informed that she's thinking of breaking up with him to get with another guy, my mate thinks he has a right to know but i'm not so sure because the fallout form all of this could b huge - however, i don't think he deserves to b made a fool of...
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