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Bleh...How do I put this :S

Does anyone have a idea how to get some self esteem and confidence. Hey I know it is a really tall order but I desperatly need some. Is there some wonder solution or I am permanemtly f**ked?

Situation

There is a girl (isnt there always). From what people said she likes me :wink:

, and the feeling is DEFINITLY mutual :biggrin:

. However I am a extremely quiet person. I talk alot and I am confident around my friends, but I get very very shy with girls around. (I went 2 a single sex school from 11-14yrs old).

What can I do to get past this. I am thinking of all implications. Hell I have not said a word in my law class all year!!

I dont want to (but going the right way about it) turn in to a extremely reticient person. I might not see her next year again and it would be such a shame if I didnt have at least one conversation (decent) with her,

thanks all for being so under standing

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Reply 1

Christianity Rules

no reply

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Reply 2

WorkHouse

Speaking as a person who has issues with speaking to guys (in the sense that i become one of them if around them for too long) just go with the flow...

My advice is to firstly and most crucially, establish common ground between you both. only u know what that could be, all things should just flow from there.

If u find it easier than talking to her face to face at first ask her for her MSN address and talk via that until u feel less daunted.

If all else fails, Alcohol gives a false sense of self confidence as well, i reccommend Jack Daniels and Coke... Only joking... You'll be fine! :smile:

Reply 3

Vetinari

There's no instant or easy way to build up confidence, you just have to work at it. It might be just girls you become ultra-shy around, but exercising your confidence in other areas will help. Try little things like talking to people in public (strike up a conversation on the bus with a random person for example). Maybe join a club or something similar that will require you to interact with new people. Just keep taking little steps to slowly edge your way out of your comfort zone, and eventually your shyness will decrease. As you become better at talking to anyone other than good friends then your ability to talk to girls will also improve. :smile: