sister going to meet guy she met on internet....

What will you be doing over the Easter break? >>

b+b across the road!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know it's difficult, but if your sister has made an assessment about this guy and has decided he is genuine then you have to accept that. If I were you I would go with her as she has asked you (even though I can completely understand why you wouldn't want to), because then at least if he is a 40 yr old perve she's not left alone.

Yes you're right a 19 yr old can be a "perve" as well, but then again he could be perfectly fine too. There has been a lot of hype about paedophiles, perves etc on the internet, and although I don't want to undermine that idea (because there are definitely dangers on the internet), I also believe that the risk is relatively low if you're sensible about it. And from what you've said, your sis is being quite reasonable about it. So it's really a decision for your sister.

Btw I completely understand how you're feeling cos my 15 year old bro did the same!! I was actually not too bothered by it, but obvious had sisterly concern!

Has she spoken to him on the phone?

Hope it all goes well :smile:

Reply 3

kitty_koo

mellow-yellow

Has she spoken to him on the phone?

Hope it all goes well :smile:

i think she's spoken to him on the phone twice

Reply 4

mellow-yellow

mouse89

i think she's spoken to him on the phone twice

I'd try not to worry.. give her the benefit of the doubt.

Let me know how it goes!

Reply 5

Dr. Blazed

What would telling your mum do apart from really pissing your sister off ? Go with her, make sure your older brother knows when and where you're going, and if the bloke turns out to be a bit odd, stay with her. Easy.

Reply 6

Angelil

Tricky one this.
I can't completely speak against it because I met my boyfriend on the internet. After a month and a half of talking online we figured out we had chemistry and got it together. He told me he loved me after a week and that he wanted us to live together after two weeks. Sounds mad, yes, but the feeling was entirely mutual. We met for the first time when I flew to meet him at CDG airport in Paris, where he was studying at the time. That was in Feb 2005 and we've been together ever since, so I can't knock meeting people off the internet completely.

However, as I did, your sister should take necessary precautions. I'd be worried about her too. It's good that she's asked you to come with her but maybe once she asks you to leave you could hide somewhere where you could still see them? I know it seems underhand but at least you'd know she's OK.
Sorry I don't know how else to help. Hope it all works out.

Reply 7

benisright

Go to the B+B and explain the situation.

Basically ask if there is a "so and so" staying and if he is indeed 19.

Reply 8

floss

i met a guy off the internet after claiming i was a year (well 2 months) older than i was. i did tell teh truth before we met up but it did kinda make it awkward. i hadn't told any of my friends that i was meeting him but it's really good that she's told you. if he'd turned out to be a psycho, i was just glad i was somewhere i knew because he wasn't that local xx

Reply 9

Ethereal

benisright

Go to the B+B and explain the situation.

Basically ask if there is a "so and so" staying and if he is indeed 19.

As the OP is not a police officer with warrant, the B&B shouldn't tell her who is booked in there.

Reply 10

Pandy

She's 19. She is legal (in both senses of the word) and she can do what she wants. Let her be.

I'm sure she knows the guy well enough. I appreciate you're just trying to look out for her, but at 19 it really is her own business who she sees/doesn't see.

She'll be fine, you're just playing the role of the worried sister (nice to see you care though.).

Relax :biggrin:

Reply 11

la fille danse

Do you worry this much every time your sister goes out to a club, where she has the possibility of meeting both forty year olds, perverts, and forty year old perverts?

Reply 12

apricot

im 18 and i met my current bf off the net cos we found out we lived so close. we met where there were lots of ppl about so everything was fine...gd luck 2 her cos im happy i did it

Reply 13

bedbug

I've met people from the internet before. It's not something you'd do randomly so I'm sure she's done her research. Sure, he could be someone else and she should be careful about that, but if she's agreed to meet him then surely she believes he's a nice guy. There's not much you can do really, but I'd recommend going with her as she's asked.

Reply 14

xavier2k3

Yeh, pretty much as squirly (nice ava) says it, and he is stopping across the road after all!

regards
--marty

Reply 15

Caribou

I don't think many rapists groom girls that old??

Reply 16

Misogynist

The whole internet perves thing is overhyped. You're on the internet right now does that make you a perve?

Reply 17

dogtag9

the biggest advice ill give you even though ive never met anyone off the internet is stay with your sister as long as she wants.only leave when you this the guy is genuine from looks ,behaviour( you will probly know from first sight if hes genuine). telling someone else will not give her privacy. all the best and make sure you are around just in case she needs you. if i was your older brother, i will go with her because he is older and obviously stronger as a man.it might be intimidating for the bloke but he should understand that this is a first meeting and subsequent ones will be private.all the best

sweasy

Reply 18

Marie05

mouse89

ok,this will probably turn into a very long thread,but i apologise in advance.
my sister,who is 19 (and im 16), met a guy on a WW2 re-enactors forum that she goes on, he is "apparently" 19 years old, and theyve been emailing, texting,talking on msn every day for about a month and now they're gonna meet up.
but the thing is my sister had practically told him where we live (he's gonna stay in a B&B just across the road from out house this weekend) and he knows its near our house
my sister is convinced he's genuine,and she acts likes she's in love with him or something,despite the fact she hasnt met him!
and also,its only me and my brother (who's 23) who know about the guy coming down to stay at the weekend and my sister hasnt even told my mum about the guy she's been talking to for a month. my brother said if my sister doesnt tell my mum about everything thats been going on before sunday i have to tell her,but my sister will hate me if i do.
and one more thing, when they meet on sunday my sister wants me to be there with her for the "initial meeting" then she'll tell me to get lost so they can be together but im not ok with this, she doesnt know for sure if he's not a 40 yr old perve and if he is really 19 he could still be a pervert, and i dont know what to do!HELP!!

There are some decent genuine people online, but your sister will just need to be careful about where and when she'll be meeting him and to let you know at least where she will be at all times..

I first spoke to DaintyDuck here on TSR and okay yes she's a straight girl, its not like she was intending to stalk me or anything, but when we met at a summer school, we had such a good time, we speak pretty much every day and are now best friends even though she lives in leicester and i live in london! :smile:

love u DaintyDuck! :hugs:

On the other hand, I once met a student at UCL and he freaked me out because he came across very different to how i expected him to be and started flirting A LOT, but since we were in the middle of London, it wasnt that risky so i just left for home and never spoke to him again! :p: