I'm in a tricky situation,
I met a great guy at university, but he graduated last year before we really got to know one another. We started talking on Skype every night and really hit it off. We met up again for a weekend a few months after this and it was great- we got on like a house on fire and...yeah. .thing's sort of happened. Trouble is he lives in London and I live 200 miles north.
After the first visit I asked him where he thought we were going, he told me that he had hang ups about the distance but really liked me, but he was a more of a wait and see how it goes sort of guy, and before he could commit to anything he needed to get employed and be more sure of where his life was heading. He also said that he wouldn't be sleeping around- so I guess he was trying to reassure me?
I felt a little sad and stopped talking to him as much, as I didn't want to be mooning after something I couldn't have. However, we began talking regularly again 4 months ago and he came to visit me again and we were really close. He was very touchy feely, cuddly and affectionate which is not really his personality, he's sort of shy and standoffish generally, but kept asking if he could come and see me again, told me some deep personal things and kept telling me he really liked me. He got home and told me that night that I was the best thing in his life and he looked forward to speaking to me every day so much.
Since getting home he has not really been overly affectionate. He seems to shy away from it at the moment, even sort of ignoring any complements I give him...but he still makes sure he talks to me several times a day (text/ fb etc) and for many hours at night. Sometimes he talks generally about how he finds women attractive and gives the impression that he'd go after someone down there if he got the chance... but I think that's all talk as I'm only the 2nd person he has done anything with!
so yes, am I wasting my time with this? he's basically already told me he doesn't like the distance etc and that's not going to change for at least another 2 years (for me anyway). I love his personality and I think he's beautiful...its very rare that I find anyone Im attracted to, and he says the same thing, I just don't know if I should be investing so much time and feeling into something that more than likely wont come to anything in the long run.