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I cant tell my parents about uni

Ive decided i dont want to go back to uni next year because i cant stand studying and i just cant tell them! They are going to hate me so much and i just cant make myself tell them .. i keep saying i will tell my mum in the day time and then when it comes round to it i think actually, it will be better to tell my dad and it just keeps going round and round. Ive got an exam tomorrow and saturday and i have no intention what so ever on going but when i do get round to telling them and say i missed my exams its going to be even worse! Argh i dont know what to do :frown:

Reply 1

allymcb2

8

Go to your exams and stay in uni!!

Reply 2

XavierTroy

1

Maybe you should try and confront the reasons you don't like Uni rather than quiting so easily. Atleast go to your exams... and try. If you do badly you'll always have an excuse, and if you do better than you think maybe you'll reassess your position. You sound like you've made up your mind, but it is obvious the reason you are scared to tell your parents is because you know it probably isn't the right thing to do.

It does however sound like you know you want to do this, but without knowing the full set of reasons for this I don't think anyone can advise you. Don't take your degree lightly, remember the benefits before jumping to rash decisions.

Reply 3

robert1987

Whatever you do, go to the exams. If you pass and then leave, you can take an early exit award, which is equivalent to an HNC (I think).

As for telling your parents, whilst it's a bit of a cliche and might not be much help, it is your future, and your parents will almost certainly support you in your choice. Remember you are at University to get your own qualification, not for your parents' sake. I would say tell them as soon as possible and also speak to your personal tutor; he should have better advice on how to tell your parents and job options etc.

Reply 4

puppy

Uni is three short years of your life- surely you can deal with that? You'll regret leaving and it'll be hard to go back.

Reply 5

lirael2

1

allymcb2

Go to your exams and stay in uni!!

That eould be the best choice but its not what she wants she has to decide for herself. You know yourself more then anybody and if do notwant to go to universcity and the job you want does not need it then dont go. But if the job you do want involves a degree then you realy should stay at uni. Just make sure you are there for the right reaqsons not just because of your parents cause your the one living your life you need to be happy. Though is realy 3-5 years of your life realy that much when you consider how much better your job will probaly be.

Reply 6

..anna..

1

might aswell do the exams, tell them your going on a gap year and maybe do it as a gap year, you may change your mind and if not you can tell them then.. or take another gap year!!!

Reply 7

Dragon24

17

I wouldn't be too hasty so soon. Maybe your stressed out at the moment as you have exams. Everyone finishes around this time for the summer. I mean we don't go back till late September/early October! Chill out over the summer and think things over before your make a decision too early to regret. The break will do you good and you may become in a better frame of mind.

Reply 8

robert1987

allymcb2

Go to your exams and stay in uni!!

Maybe the course he's taking at university might not get him the job he wants or he's more interested in a job that doesn't require a degree.

I am about to drop out of a mechanical engineering degree and look for work/training as a technician, simply because I cannot stand the maths in my course. And I don't want to do a job where I'll end up sitting behind a computer using the impossible maths learned in my course to design stuff, even if being a technician pays less well.

University is not for everyone and some people will be happier working rather than studying, and not going to university/dropping out of university does not equal being a waster.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

lirael2

That eould be the best choice but its not what she wants she has to decide for herself. You know yourself more then anybody and if do notwant to go to universcity and the job you want does not need it then dont go. But if the job you do want involves a degree then you realy should stay at uni. Just make sure you are there for the right reaqsons not just because of your parents cause your the one living your life you need to be happy. Though is realy 3-5 years of your life realy that much when you consider how much better your job will probaly be.

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there no point me going to my exams, i didnt do 5 assessments over easter either and to pass the year i would have to get well over 70% and theres no chance considering...

1) i did **** all in the lectures
2) havent done any revision

i dont even know why i am at uni ... i feel as if im doing it more for my parents (they never went uni and no one in our/their family has for ages). i dont know what i want to do in life so its not like i need the degree for a specific job, its just 3 years of wasted time that i could be earning money in!

Reply 10

Mellanie

1

You are a time aster - 3 damn years, and now you finally think you have built up the courage to quit. Well done, but now its too late to quit without hurting your parents, and even yourself! You could have quit earlier but noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Dammit.

Reply 11

gianthead

12

don't tell them you didn't take the exams/take the exams and fail
get yourself a full-time job over the summer, then tell them in september you want to stay in your job
ignore the rows they try to start and eventually they'll have to shut up

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Malathi

You are a time aster - 3 damn years, and now you finally think you have built up the courage to quit. Well done, but now its too late to quit without hurting your parents, and even yourself! You could have quit earlier but noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Dammit.

ermm no, im coming to the end of my 1st year, im just saying that if i was to carry on (like people suggested) then i would see it as 3 years of wasted time.

I cant tell my parents about uni

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