He has a girlfriend but he's all over me!

Ok. Well I've liked this guy for ages. The only problem is he has a girlfriend and they seem pretty solid. However, we went on a weekend trip recently - my family and his family. That's how I met him you see.. Well, ever since he's been saying he misses me, sending me pictures with 'I love you' on them, etc. It's confusing me so much! Help. x

Reply 1

cinder

he's being a bastard to his gf whatever he means. If he's genuinly interested i'd still tell him to take a hike...can you imagine having a boyfriend that did that to other girls?
Tell him to back off.

Reply 2

Segat1

Err, do you really have to ask? Do you really want a guy who would do this to his gf? Run away now. Tell him you don't want to hear from him until he's single - how will you trust him ?

Reply 3

zav

I think he is a bit confused as well.

He is either feeling confused because he thought that him and his gf were really solid and now he likes you

Or

He might just be having a bit of fun and wants to string you on a bit.

Communication, ask him what he really feels and say you like him but won't do anything when he has a gf and say he has to choose. If he leaves this girl for you as he decides he likes you more great if not than he is not worth it.

It is worth noting that he might just swap and change a bit so maybe if he goes out with you he might do the same with somebody else? Go for it and do what you feel is best

Reply 4

FeedTheGoat

Women are silly. Reciprocate man!

Reply 5

rawkingpunkster

if he could to it to his gf he could do it to you next time

Reply 6

username47781

Well he sounds a bit of a love rat to me, i would keep well away unless he dumps his g/f even if he does dump her and makes a move for you as people have said he could do the same to you with another girl, he's not worth it.

tell his girlfriend.

ajaydean

tell his girlfriend.

Agreed

Reply 9

benisright

Haha lame...

You're not planning to marry him, get with him. You dont have any loyalty to his girlfriend and you feel attracted to him. Have fun, get with him, enjoy it. Then cheat on him.

Reply 10

halfoflessthan50p

I think youre all presuming a little bit too much. You dont know (OP might not even know) he has feelings for you.

I tell girls i love them in a playful kinda way all the time and it doesnt mean i have any feelings for them. Last year I was really close to this girl (she was probably my best friend actually) and we'd send stupid little notes to each other saying stuff like "i miss you." haha we even had names for each other :biggrin:

But we both knew it was never anything more than just a close friendship (i never found her that attractive.) I was single then, but if I had had a girlfriend (who trusted me properly) I think I would still have been able to have that friendship. Also ive been quite close to some of my best friend's girlfriends (hes a boy, now btw) and theres never been a problem

Im not sure that applies here but the point im making is: a straight guy thats a little flirty, and affectionate can be close to a girl without neccessarily being interested.

Anyway, OP - what you have to do is confront him about it and see what he says. You already knew that anyway, didnt you?