(Anon because my boyfriend has an account and knows my username)
Hi, I'd appreciate some advice here as I'm getting really down about the impending LDR for me and my boyfriend.
We've been together a year and a half now, we attended the same 6th Form so we have been used to seeing each other nearly everyday (except weekends when I work)
When we go to Uni in Sept. we'll both be 18 and want to make it work. We're planning regular Skype calls and visiting each other once or twice a month but we've never been apart more than a week and a half (when he went on holiday in our first 2 months of dating).
So really I guess I'm after advice on how to make it work.
And we have just over a month before we part for Uni.. do we get used to not seeing each other or spend as much time with each other as possible?
Anyone have any tips on how to feel closer to your partner whilst you're way from each other?
What do people do to get through the lowest points of their LDR? You know, when you're all alone in the middle of the night and you can't sleep for missing your boyfriend/girlfriend? How do you feel better in this situation? I'm sure we've all been there! Love this thread so much, hope it becomes as popular as the last one was, it's a fantastic support usually
My relationship is causing me to dread going back to uni already and i'm not even going back for another month and a half. In an ideal world we'd have a concrete plan of when we're going to see each other and how long for for the whole of the year. But my boyfriend's not a big planner, his work shifts are a nightmare and I don't like to nag at him. It's also easier for him to travel down to visit me at university (he still lives with his parents, he has more money than me and when I come down to visit him there's no guarantee that he won't be working the whole weekend) but I feel awful asking him to use up so many of his work holidays on visiting me.
I'm in an LDR which is unlabeled currently. I hadn't seen my "boyfriend" in over 3 months when I finally got to see him. I did something terrible and unlocked his phone. His whatsapp came up and I found a conversation between him and a girl who he used to have feelings for and who was also a good friend of mine until we fell out a year ago.
In the conversation, he had told her how upset he was the two of them didn't get together. He spoke to her about me. He said he was only with me because he was scared no one else would love him or date him. He said we were just a bit of fun.
I was heartbroken.. I still am. But he was distraught when he had realised what he'd done and is incredibly sorry. He said he can't handle the distance. He's been in a messed up mental state because of it and wasn't thinking straight. The distance has really affected him badly. He's 100% determined to earn my trust back and make things work. He promises never to hurt me again.
I want to move on from this but I feel I can't. This happened a few weeks ago but I still cry everyday. I'm so paranoid. I don't trust him much. I'm going insane. I want to forgive him but I know I haven't yet. I'm so unhappy and I'm scared I can't get past this..
How do you begin to forgive someone who's hurt you so badly? How do I deal with the difficulties of trust when I barely see him? Any ideas would be appreciated. I'm desperate..