Nothing has changed

I have come home from Uni after my first year and my parents are treating me like I am still the 18 year who relied on them for practically everything. Worse of all is that my mother and I who have had long distance problems this year is paying more attention to the dog than me.

One of the worse things in my family is that my parents forever interrupt me even if it is clear I am speaking. I just lost my nerve with them because I was trying to get my mother to tell me where the wires for her computer were - I am doing some upgrades and installing new stuff. But instead of just telling me where they are, she just talked to the dog she was trying to force fed (she is quite ill) which is fair enough but when she stopped because the dog had had enough - she sat down and switch her soaps on.

I asked again and got ignored. Her first words to me were that I was looking fat which I didn't like at all. I tried to ask again and was discussing my plans for her computer when my dad got up and threw a load of paper at me and asked me if they were the ones I was looking for last night. I had already explained last night that the student loan finance forms they had to fill in would have to go back via post as I couldn't gain access to the online account. I went into detail about this last night and was annoyed when my mother started discussing me now completing the forms online despite me saying I wouldn't be able to.

I tried again to ask about the wires but I got shhhh!ed by my mum who was watching her soaps. Two seconds later, my dad starts talking and that's fine, my mum doesn't tell him to be quiet. My dad asks what my plans are for tomorrow and two seconds later before I can answer; my mum asks what I am going to do about taking my car to the garage. I try to explain and my dad interrupts the second I try to explain to my mum my plans.

By now I was really starting to get annoyed so I keep calm and am just about to ask about the wires again (an hour after originally asking), the second I open my mouth, my mum grabs my tummy and starts up with her calling me I am fat again.

I lost it. I came home after being stuck on the train for 2 hours and decide to get started on my mum's computer while she watches tv but neither of my parents will let me try to fit into this family. We had a full blown argument (with windows open and neighbours outside in their garden having a BBQ) and in amongst this my parents says they knew I would be like this when I came home because I had applied for a summer job in a different area which hurt because it is what I want to do this summer. Anyway, I came upstairs and started to write this, when my mother came to the stairs and shouted up that the food she made for me was on the stairs and that thanks to me the dog was now throwing up the food she had spent ages getting down.

All I am trying to do is get on with the jobs my parents have asked me to do around the house before I leave if I get this job but they are making it impossible. I understand that my dog is sick and allowed my mum to sort her out before questioning her. I can't seem to do anything right here and just want to leave and go back to Uni.

I am so sorry for ranting but they are driving me insane just like before I went to Uni and I can't put up with a summer like that - I had to go to a Uni far away to get away from them, my mum in particularly. Now I am back and nothing has changed.

Reply 1

bluenoxid

13

Right then, now youve calmed down, rolls the reclining chair into middle of room

Now I understand that you may feel a little pissed off at being ignored. Things need doing and are urgent. Theyve got used to dealing with you over the phone and internet. You send them question or demand, they fulfil it and send their love 24 hours later. Unfortunately you are here now and they havent snapped out of it. Youve had this "fun" time at uni and suddenly come back to them, whilst theyve been doing the same grind day in day out. I would wait a few days, and let things calm down. I know it will be frustrating at times, but remember that they have got used to being on their own and youve just popped out of the blue.

And when your Dad talks during your Mums soaps, do you really think that she is listening? :biggrin:

Reply 2

~Sam~

15

Oh I know the feeling :smile:

. I've just been really bored and miserable this last week being back at home. My mum just shouts at me instead of talking to me like an adult most the time, and there's just nothing to do here. So glad I'm going to America for the summer, I really would go crazy if I was stuck here for three months! If I were you I'd just try and stick it out for a while, things will be much better once you start your job and you're not all under each others feet all day.

Reply 3

Shreerac1

10

Make them feel bad about not being very good parents. Go out, stay at a friend's house for a period of time, say a week, and see if they notice you've gone. Ignore them. When they notice calmly point out that you feel they have been ignoring you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

~Sam~

Oh I know the feeling :smile:

. I've just been really bored and miserable this last week being back at home. My mum just shouts at me instead of talking to me like an adult most the time, and there's just nothing to do here. So glad I'm going to America for the summer, I really would go crazy if I was stuck here for three months! If I were you I'd just try and stick it out for a while, things will be much better once you start your job and you're not all under each others feet all day.

yeah but if i get this job i have to live in so will be leaving home like two weeks after arriving

Reply 5

white_haired_wizard

16

you're clearly going wrong if you don't have a 52 week rent contract/accomodation at university :smile:

If i didn't, why i wouldn't be able to spend all day on TSR, watch a tremendous amount of tennis and football on tv ALL PIGGIN DAY! You have to prioritize in life, and think ahead. Think long-termism. If i was back home right now, i'd be getting **** from all sides :cool:

Reply 6

~Sam~

15

Anonymous

yeah but if i get this job i have to live in so will be leaving home like two weeks after arriving

Surely that's a good thing? I mean you've just posted about how much you hate being back at home... :confused:

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