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Wanting to say yes in fear of never finding anyone as good (matching preference) watch

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    Hi,
    When someone asks you out, do you ever think to say yes just because they meet one of your very important criteria (yet fail to meet your other preferences) e.g. if you were attracted to a particular ethnicity, feeling you might never get asked out by another one of that ethnicity (as inter-racial is rarer than same race pairings) so settling for one who matches that "racial" preference yet isn't suitable/attractive in many other ways.

    Do u ever do that? Sometimes I'd think: what if I never get another guy of my preferred ethnicity/a personality attribute e.g. funny or something, ask me out.

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    I'd never settle for fear of not finding what I really want, its a one way ticket to unhappyville.
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    I have done it and wouldn't recommend it. My most recent girlfriend unusually made the first move on me, and while I did like her, I think I was more led to say yes due to being flattered by the attention and since it had been a while since I'd been in a relationship before that - I didn't really like her as much as she liked me. Ultimately this came to show and we broke up. So yes - I'd say don't compromise/take the easy way out as it won't really work that well as a relationship; however there is something to be said for not dismissing someone out of hand because they don't meet your perfection checklist, plenty of couples get together in spite of there being the odd little thing about each other that they don't really like. And to be honest, it makes sense this way, because if everyone was always holding out for Prince Charming nobody would ever get together.

    So basically, don't settle where you can see it probably won't work, but also don't rule someone out just because they don't fit your 'criteria'.
 
 
 
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