(Original post by GR3YFOXXX)
Does your partner see other people?
What are your ground rules?
If you met someone in a bar could you kiss them/ sleep with them?
If I met someone in a bar and kissed/slept with them, then that's more moving onto one night stand territory, which isn't ok for some polyamorous people as it's considered risky behaviour.
My partner is currently not seeing anyone. I am technically not seeing anyone right now, but I have been talking to someone in the area and potentially have a first date with them this weekend. (coffee, in the afternoon, for a couple of hours) All poly relationships are different, but most first dates go something like that. No pressure, just meet for a chat. My partner will have my dates name, phone number, name of coffee shop where we are and time I will be home. This means he feels secure that I'm being honest and he knows when to expect me home.
We have quite a few ground rules, and rules can change and evolve over time, but some of them are....
*Primary partner ALWAYS comes first and has veto over anything they find uncomfortable.
*No taking time away from the primary for someone else. ie I wouldn't cancel a date with my primary partner to see someone else. It's disrespectful.
*Always tell the truth, don't hold back on feelings, always communicate.
*No casual sex, always safe sex and partners tested.