Feel bad for not helping someone who fell off their skateboard Watch

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So as I was walking home from university yesterday, there was this guy on a skateboard which passed me on the sidewalk. When he was 10 meters in front, he fell off, but at the same time I was about to cross the street. I saw him fall off, and he made eye contact with me for a second when he got back up.

Now, I continued crossing the street instead of helping him, and I felt really bad about it . I saw (while I was on the other side of the street) that he was hurt and took a while before he picked up his skateboard and carried on walking (quite slowly I might add).

When I think back to it, I should have gone back and helped. But, it's not in my personality to approach strangers, I get nervous when meeting new people.

Would anyone else have helped? Am I a bad person for just ignoring him?
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to be honest hes a skater, its probably happened a million times and his pride was probably hurt more than anything - unless he was clearly badly hurt (bleeding, wrong facing limbs, broken bones etc...) then I would call an ambulance an try to help
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was he skating too fast? if he was skating recklessly then he deserved it, otherwise, i guess it would be understandable why you feel slightly guilty. still, as the above poster has said, he's probably done it many times.
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When some of us fall, we don't need help. We just need a few minutes to sort ourselves out and then we can get up.
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I wouldn't worry about it too much.

I'm similar to you, I don't like getting involved in other people's situations and I would have probably tried to walk away without getting involved, but I probably would have asked him if he was alright if I had made eye contact with him.

The fact you have created a thread about this because you are so worried about it is a likely indicator that you are not a bad person.
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If he got back up ok he's probablly alright besides as someone else said hes probably use too it,

That being said, you shouldnt feel too bad about yourself, atleast you cared enough to feel guilty about it after, in the end of the day that says more about you than say if you just walked on by and didn't think anything off it and just forgot,

So dw, I'm sure he's alright, and if you're really that worried you could always phone a local hospital, though im almost certain that'd be unessescary

all the best!
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(Original post by Jack995)
was he skating too fast? if he was skating recklessly then he deserved it, otherwise, i guess it would be understandable why you feel slightly guilty. still, as the above poster has said, he's probably done it many times.
What has 'deserving it' got to do with anything?
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Thanks for the feedback guys, good to know that I didn't seem like a jerk for walking away. I've never been good in situations like these. I guess I sort of did want to help, but was too scared to.
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What has 'deserving it' got to do with anything?
well, if he was skateboarding recklessly, he is clearly asking for an accident, as do people who drive recklessly.
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well, if he was skateboarding recklessly, he is clearly asking for an accident, as do people who drive recklessly.
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so he deserved it as a consequence for his actions. wake up mate!
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so he deserved it as a consequence for his actions. wake up mate!
Nice to know you'd leave people lying on the pavement because you think 'they deserved it'.

Nice going, m8.
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so he deserved it as a consequence for his actions. wake up mate!
Let's just hope you don't fall and nobody helps you up then!

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Why do we fall sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up. - Alfred in Batman Begins.

Don't worry about it, we all wish we'd acted differently in certain situations, all you can do is act differently next time.
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Personally I would have stopped to ask whether he was okay. But if you feel guilty about it this time, just make sure you stop and check next time. It shouldn't be a nerve-racking thing to show compassion to somebody who might need your help.
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I wouldn't have helped him either. In fact, I would have walked away as quickly as possible to remove myself from the situation. Social awkwardness
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(Original post by simplylldxo)
Let's just hope you don't fall and nobody helps you up then!

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What? That makes no sense what you just said. Re-read what you just said there honey.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bystander_effect
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That's nothing compared to this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Wang_Yue

****ing disgusting. Hope every single one of them rots in hell. Heartless *******s.
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