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How do you know you're in love?

I was just thinking about this. I'm 16 and have no clue what love is (romantic love I mean).

The main reason I'm curious is because I'd secretly liked this guy for 5 years since Year 6 but since last year I made myself stop liking him by denying because I realised it was going too deep. Even though I think it has helped, I still think about him and get all nervous and tingly around him.

Is this love? Five years is a long time to be a crush... but I don't know. He was also my first crush and I've never liked any guy like that afterwards. I know it's pathetic but I just can't stop thinking about him! We're not even that great friends.

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Are you male or female?

You don't have to ask, you just know. You won't know until you are in love either, you might think you are sometimes but you might get proven wrong.

ask him out

white_haired_wizard

Peachy_Keen_Jennibean

You don't have to ask, you just know. You won't know until you are in love either, you might think you are sometimes but you might get proven wrong.

Hmmm, i'm not so sure - perspectives of situations like this can be so clouded. It can often be seen when other people (close friends/family et cetera), who are isolated from the two involved, make better, less cloudy judgements. Akin to one knowing one self/personality, i believe a perspective on personality is more valid when it's someone elses perspective of/on you, rather than your very own kind. I had this case two years ago - at the time it felt like love, but in hindsight and 'looking back', it was a monumental crush...and 'only' that.

OP

I'm a girl lol. And I don't know about just 'knowing you're in love when you are'. I don't think that happens everytime, I know this friend who's clearly in love with another guy but she never realised it until he moved away.

I'm too shy to ask him out. I doubt he even likes me. I just want to figure out my own feelings. And it's like White Haired Wizard said, I'm really hoping it's just a crush. Or even infatuation that spanned over 5 years.

Thanks for the replies :smile:

:smile:

If you don't know him then it isn't really as strong as what generally gets called love. Its probably just a crush, so go along with it and enjoy the obsession. :wink:

:wink:

I don't think there is such a thing as in love. I would hope the feelings I have for a special lady I will spend the rest of my life wouldn't be the kind that can be pinned down by words and that any scrote can feel.

Love is a comforter, like God or chocolate. My opinon.

If you like someone though, ask them out.

you know when you're in love when all the feelings, like the blurry vision you get when you're walking together, hand in hand, or when just looking into their eyes make you smile, etc. when you realise that these great feelings you get are also shared by the one you 'love'.

that realisation that you both make each others lives a hundred times the better :smile:

:smile:

white_haired_wizard

uz_master

you know when you're in love when all the feelings, like the blurry vision you get when you're walking together, hand in hand, or when just looking into their eyes make you smile, etc. when you realise that these great feelings you get are also shared by the one you 'love'.

that realisation that you both make each others lives a hundred times the better :smile:

:smile:

The OP isn't in your particular situation, that is, of actually being in a relationship!

OP

I still don't know how I feel but thanks for the advice. I think I'm just going to stick with self-denial, sounds weird because I know I'm in denial but it is getting better, ie. forcing myself not to think. I know the obvious thing to do is just to ask him out but I'm just old-fashioned like that and my pride is too big (and stupid).

Vetinari: I do know him quite well and we used to be really close friends. It's only later that we drifted apart but we kinda became friends again.

tingly sensation in your toes and fingers, love is all around you, and so the feeling grows

(adapted from wet wet wet)

white_haired_wizard

Cuddles

tingly sensation in your toes and fingers, love is all around you, and so the feeling grows

(adapted from wet wet wet)

wow, is that so cuddles. Amazing, really.

i think when its love you just know. If your doubting it its probably not there /(yet).

white_haired_wizard

wow, is that so cuddles. Amazing, really.

amazing isn't a term i would use for wet wet wet, but, if you are that way inclined, who am i to judge? :p:

:p:

white_haired_wizard

Cuddles

amazing isn't a term i would use for wet wet wet, but, if you are that way inclined, who am i to judge? :p:

:p:

quite the first-prize biatch aren't we cuddles....why, if you were a woman, i'd happily let you molest and condescend me all day (and night) long :redface:

:redface:

white_haired_wizard

quite the first-prize biatch aren't we cuddles....why, if you were a woman, i'd happily let you molest and condescend me all day (and night) long :redface:

:redface:

:eek:

Well, I'm in some shock about this revelation.

... i would be happy to :redface:

:redface:

:p:

white_haired_wizard

Cuddles

:eek:

Well, I'm in some shock about this revelation.

... i would be happy to, if i were :redface:

:redface:

:p:

SIMPLE: I love being treated like a piece of ****, something to be trodden on, like a doormat :cool:

:cool:

I kid(ding), but the domineering woman is a fine prospect indeed :biggrin:

:biggrin:

white_haired_wizard

SIMPLE: I love being treated like a piece of ****, something to be trodden on, like a doormat :cool:

:cool:

I kid(ding), but the domineering woman is a fine prospect indeed :biggrin:

:biggrin:

:rolleyes:

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