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This sounds incredibly stupid...
...but I don't know how to amend what I've done.
Basically, some times ago, I really liked this person, who's also a girl. I thought it was lust, and wanted to get it off my chest because it was driving me insane. I couldn't tell my close friends about what I felt about this girl because a), they are a bit homophobic and b) they really dislike this person. So, I did something pretty stupid (it seemed like a good idea then) - I anonymously told this girl that I'm in love with her .
Anyway, I think now, it's pretty clear that she knows who it was. My lust for her has faded now, which is good. But, I'm afraid I've lost her friendship, which is pretty important to me. I don't know what to do. I haven't seen her or spoke to her for a month - study leave.
Any sensible advice?
Basically, some times ago, I really liked this person, who's also a girl. I thought it was lust, and wanted to get it off my chest because it was driving me insane. I couldn't tell my close friends about what I felt about this girl because a), they are a bit homophobic and b) they really dislike this person. So, I did something pretty stupid (it seemed like a good idea then) - I anonymously told this girl that I'm in love with her .
Anyway, I think now, it's pretty clear that she knows who it was. My lust for her has faded now, which is good. But, I'm afraid I've lost her friendship, which is pretty important to me. I don't know what to do. I haven't seen her or spoke to her for a month - study leave.
Any sensible advice?
How do you know she knows it was you? If she no actual proof and you haven't told anyone?! I'd just make an effort to stay her friend, if she has something to say to you about it she will. You might well just be being paranoid "thinking" she knows it's you....it's happened to my plenty of times with blokes.
Just stay cool about it and say nothing.
Just stay cool about it and say nothing.
yeh, i was kinda in the same situation at school, i think it made things more awkward for me than her.
if she definitely knows, just tell her you no longer feel that way, and see what happens. you could try and act like it was no big deal in the first place.
if you just think she knows, perhaps just blabber on about some other person you fancy the pants off, that way she's less likely to be bothered, and if she doesnt know now, hopefully she wont find out.
if she definitely knows, just tell her you no longer feel that way, and see what happens. you could try and act like it was no big deal in the first place.
if you just think she knows, perhaps just blabber on about some other person you fancy the pants off, that way she's less likely to be bothered, and if she doesnt know now, hopefully she wont find out.
I don't think she has proof. But I think she is convinced it was me.
That's what I've been doing before study leave and will try to be doing if i see her in school.
The thing is, I don't think she would want to speak to me again. And, I don't want that to happen. I don't know how I should approach her now.
Just stay cool about it and say nothing.
That's what I've been doing before study leave and will try to be doing if i see her in school.
The thing is, I don't think she would want to speak to me again. And, I don't want that to happen. I don't know how I should approach her now.
I did that once.... I just provided myself with a false alibi for the time in question - "did you send me that valentines day card?" "what me? No, I was on holiday". As it was a British stamp on the card, I was safe.
I dont know how you told her, but maybe you could spin a few fibs? Or just tell her (if she brings it up) that you dont feel like that anymore.
EDIT - if you start being uncomfortable and awkward around her, she is going to KNOW. What about just asking her out for some drinks with mates after exams? Send her a txt, asking how things are going.... act normal and prentend like you have no idea what she is fussing about.
I dont know how you told her, but maybe you could spin a few fibs? Or just tell her (if she brings it up) that you dont feel like that anymore.
EDIT - if you start being uncomfortable and awkward around her, she is going to KNOW. What about just asking her out for some drinks with mates after exams? Send her a txt, asking how things are going.... act normal and prentend like you have no idea what she is fussing about.
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How do you know she knows it was you? If she no actual proof and you haven't told anyone?! I'd just make an effort to stay her friend, if she has something to say to you about it she will. You might well just be being paranoid "thinking" she knows it's you....it's happened to my plenty of times with blokes.
Just stay cool about it and say nothing.
Just stay cool about it and say nothing.
I agree good advice!!
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...but I don't know how to amend what I've done.
Basically, some times ago, I really liked this person, who's also a girl. I thought it was lust, and wanted to get it off my chest because it was driving me insane. I couldn't tell my close friends about what I felt about this girl because a), they are a bit homophobic and b) they really dislike this person. So, I did something pretty stupid (it seemed like a good idea then) - I anonymously told this girl that I'm in love with her .
Anyway, I think now, it's pretty clear that she knows who it was. My lust for her has faded now, which is good. But, I'm afraid I've lost her friendship, which is pretty important to me. I don't know what to do. I haven't seen her or spoke to her for a month - study leave.
Any sensible advice?
Basically, some times ago, I really liked this person, who's also a girl. I thought it was lust, and wanted to get it off my chest because it was driving me insane. I couldn't tell my close friends about what I felt about this girl because a), they are a bit homophobic and b) they really dislike this person. So, I did something pretty stupid (it seemed like a good idea then) - I anonymously told this girl that I'm in love with her .
Anyway, I think now, it's pretty clear that she knows who it was. My lust for her has faded now, which is good. But, I'm afraid I've lost her friendship, which is pretty important to me. I don't know what to do. I haven't seen her or spoke to her for a month - study leave.
Any sensible advice?
I also really like someone who's also a girl (incidentally my housemate, which makes everything *so* much harder), and can't tell quite what it is - a crush, if I'm gay, if I actually love her... I've told a couple of close friends about it but I've been careless with leaving my MSN conversations open and the girl might have read them. I can't tell but she has been behaving oddly. Mind you, she is a bit moody sometimes anyway. I wish I knew if she knew. I wish she liked me back, but that's never going to happen!
Sorry, I realise this is no help whatsoever, I just wanted to get it off my chest too and empathise a bit...
Ok. so here's my plan - if she ever brings it up in any conversation, I will claim that i've never heard such thing in my life and deny such accusation, and hopefully, she'll believe me...
and if she ignores me, or being uncomfortable around me, I'll act like I don't know what is up with her and say, "Hey, how's it going?" like nothing has happened.
you reckon that'll work out?
and if she ignores me, or being uncomfortable around me, I'll act like I don't know what is up with her and say, "Hey, how's it going?" like nothing has happened.
you reckon that'll work out?
Unless you said something that would give it away that it was you, i guarntee that even if she has a hunch that it is you, she we will also have a lot of doubt about whether it was you, and even if shes sure it was you, you could always play it off as a joke.
Ok. Some updates on this for you all: -
Since I last posted on this thread, I have confused her by contradicting myself in the anonymous emails I sent her. But, I think she's kind of convinced it was me all along. By the way I'm acting around her now, I think in a way she is starting to doubt her own judgement.
This is what I'm trying to do. And, I don't think I'm paranoid.
I feel this is quite true. She seemed to look very akward when I speak to her. But, I didn't feel akward at all.
But, when she was convinced it was another friend who have been trying to pull a joke on her, she was really horrible to her, like ignoring her in her face even when she's speaking to her and there were no one around. And, now, she doesn't seem to react the same way to me. I was wondering, if she thinks I am still "in love" with her and is trying not to hurt my feelings or is there more to it than that?
Since I last posted on this thread, I have confused her by contradicting myself in the anonymous emails I sent her. But, I think she's kind of convinced it was me all along. By the way I'm acting around her now, I think in a way she is starting to doubt her own judgement.
I'd just make an effort to stay her friend, if she has something to say to you about it she will. You might well just be being paranoid "thinking" she knows it's you....
This is what I'm trying to do. And, I don't think I'm paranoid.
i think it made things more awkward for me than her.
I feel this is quite true. She seemed to look very akward when I speak to her. But, I didn't feel akward at all.
But, when she was convinced it was another friend who have been trying to pull a joke on her, she was really horrible to her, like ignoring her in her face even when she's speaking to her and there were no one around. And, now, she doesn't seem to react the same way to me. I was wondering, if she thinks I am still "in love" with her and is trying not to hurt my feelings or is there more to it than that?
in this exceptional situation i'd approve lying, tell her is wasnt you. end of story. 
if she then tells you something just say it isnt true. say all you want is her friendship. (be sure u no longer like her, because if not it could get worse in a future)
if she then tells you something just say it isnt true. say all you want is her friendship. (be sure u no longer like her, because if not it could get worse in a future)
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