I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. In the first month, it was quite whirlwind and we weren't sure where it was going so didn't label it for a while. During that time, I'd had my relationship status on Facebook saying "single", but I didn't want to be announcing online "it's complicated" or writing "in a relationship" when I wasn't sure yet, so I decided to just hide my relationship status completely so that no one could see it. Then when we finally agreed to start calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, I just decided to leave my status private as I still wasn't bothered to announce my romantic going-ons to everyone on Facebook.
My boyfriend has a similar idea, except that he has always kept his status saying "single". I've questioned him about it a few times and he says he can't be bothered to change it, and that he doesn't really take Facebook that seriously. He also says that i shouldn't worry about girls looking at his profile and chatting him up as that never happens. Fair enough that I don't really mind us not writing the whole "X is in a relationship with Y" on Facebook, as everyone who needs to know about our relationship already knows from me or him telling them, and random acquaintances on Facebook need not pry. But I just can't help disliking that he's written that he's single when it's untrue and feels a bit dismissive of me. I'd rather he'd just hide his relationship status like I have mine.
Then again, he does have other stuff on his profile that's untrue and just written as a joke, like a fake surname, fake place of birth, fake birthday, fake job and fake university. And he is a good boyfriend to me and treats me well, so maybe I should stop being bothered about something so minor like stuff he puts online, and just take it with a pinch of salt? After all, I guess it's what happens offline in life that's more important? Maybe I have already answered my own question lol, but I felt like writing my thoughts down anyway. Anyone with advice?
Take your own advice here.
Maybe you should stop being so bothered about something so insignificant and minor and concentrate on the relationship itself.
My mate has a baby and a house with his girlfriend. His Facebook still says 'Single'. Some people just do not give a **** about Facebook.
I think for something so insignificant though, which bothers you so much, he should change it.
Maybe he just doesn't give a toss about facebook.
Maybe hes ashamed to admit you are his girlfriend?
Maybe you whining about Facebook makes him ashamed on you. Sounds like you need! Jeremy Kyle!
Why should it matter? It's only a website.
You place far too much importance on Facebook
I don't think it's about being obsessed with Facebook or anything - fact is, lots of people use it and might see her boyfriend's status, and really, it's not that much effort to hide your relationship. It's not even like she's asking him to post that he's in a relationship so no one can really 'pry' anyway.
Honestly, just tell him it bothers you a little and would he mind hiding it. I doubt he'd get upset.
If it really bothers you then tell him that and ask him to either change it or hide it completely.
I don't think my relationship was 'facebook official' until like 5 months in. I kept mine hidden for a while because I wasn't sure what was happening and then I changed it to 'in a relationship' and he kept his hidden for ages. I don't think it matters really but then if he knows how much it bothers you, I'm sure he won't mind changing it for you.