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Hi,

So it's been a while since i've been on TSR, last time i was here i started to realise it was quite a judgemental place and I might be a little old for it. But I want to write this down and i can't think of anywhere else.

I started drinking heavily (four times a week) when i got to university four years ago. I'm talking about a bottle of vodka per session (or 8+ pints, whose counting when it has got to that stage). Now i don't drink because i am depressed or sad about my life. I always drink with my friends, never by myself. I enjoy socialising far far more when i am drinking, it makes time pass quicker, conversation flows better and I am more relaxed and eager to talk to new people.

I think my problem is that normally when i start drinking, i won't stop till i am completely wasted. It is a nasty habit, always trying to get another glass of wine or another beer. I've been hospitalised three times for drinking on nights out. I know this isn't good for me and i am running the risk of becoming an alcoholic as i get older and seriously ****ing up my health.

I've been thinking about cutting down my alcohol consumption along the following lines. Rarely drinking in my flat. Only drinking when i am out with friends at night (about twice a week) and limiting myself to either a bottle of wine/ 5 pints/ half a bottle of vodka. I think i could get into the habit of setting that as a limit.

Please don't tell me to quit altogether: that isn't happening. It would be basically admitting to everyone i know and will ever know that I used to be an alcoholic. I haven't reached that level yet. And please refrain from calling me stupid: i'm not. I just like a drink.
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Hi,

So it's been a while since i've been on TSR, last time i was here i started to realise it was quite a judgemental place and I might be a little old for it. But I want to write this down and i can't think of anywhere else.

I started drinking heavily (four times a week) when i got to university four years ago. I'm talking about a bottle of vodka per session (or 8+ pints, whose counting when it has got to that stage). Now i don't drink because i am depressed or sad about my life. I always drink with my friends, never by myself. I enjoy socialising far far more when i am drinking, it makes time pass quicker, conversation flows better and I am more relaxed and eager to talk to new people.

I think my problem is that normally when i start drinking, i won't stop till i am completely wasted. It is a nasty habit, always trying to get another glass of wine or another beer. I've been hospitalised three times for drinking on nights out. I know this isn't good for me and i am running the risk of becoming an alcoholic as i get older and seriously ****ing up my health.

I've been thinking about cutting down my alcohol consumption along the following lines. Rarely drinking in my flat. Only drinking when i am out with friends at night (about twice a week) and limiting myself to either a bottle of wine/ 5 pints/ half a bottle of vodka. I think i could get into the habit of setting that as a limit.

Please don't tell me to quit altogether: that isn't happening. It would be basically admitting to everyone i know and will ever know that I used to be an alcoholic. I haven't reached that level yet. And please refrain from calling me stupid: i'm not. I just like a drink.

ridiculous you admit to having a problem yet dont want to solve it - just waste your life away by drinking and stay in denial about your problem
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ridiculous you admit to having a problem yet dont want to solve it - just waste your life away by drinking and stay in denial about your problem
Did you read the penultimate paragraph?
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I'm not really sure i can help directly but at least you acknowledge it's an issue you need to combat. Take it at a pace that suits you, going totally dry isn't necessary if you cut back to a normal amount and stick to it.
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Hi,

So it's been a while since i've been on TSR, last time i was here i started to realise it was quite a judgemental place and I might be a little old for it. But I want to write this down and i can't think of anywhere else.

I started drinking heavily (four times a week) when i got to university four years ago. I'm talking about a bottle of vodka per session (or 8+ pints, whose counting when it has got to that stage). Now i don't drink because i am depressed or sad about my life. I always drink with my friends, never by myself. I enjoy socialising far far more when i am drinking, it makes time pass quicker, conversation flows better and I am more relaxed and eager to talk to new people.

I think my problem is that normally when i start drinking, i won't stop till i am completely wasted. It is a nasty habit, always trying to get another glass of wine or another beer. I've been hospitalised three times for drinking on nights out. I know this isn't good for me and i am running the risk of becoming an alcoholic as i get older and seriously ****ing up my health.

I've been thinking about cutting down my alcohol consumption along the following lines. Rarely drinking in my flat. Only drinking when i am out with friends at night (about twice a week) and limiting myself to either a bottle of wine/ 5 pints/ half a bottle of vodka. I think i could get into the habit of setting that as a limit.

Please don't tell me to quit altogether: that isn't happening. It would be basically admitting to everyone i know and will ever know that I used to be an alcoholic. I haven't reached that level yet. And please refrain from calling me stupid: i'm not. I just like a drink.
I'm not really sure what advice is left to give, you've answered your own question really. Just cut it down a bit.
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Whether or not you're an alcoholic, you recognise you have a problem and you really need to take steps to help yourself before it gets any worse. No one needs to know that you sought help, and no one need know what your action plan is.
Most people in your situation find it very difficult just to cut back, but if you're willing to try with that, then that's a start. However, you should still go and talk to a professional (even if it's your doctor) who can put you on the right path.
Instead of being ridiculed, you should be congratulated for having spoken (or written) about your problem; now it's time to do what you know needs to be done. And you can.
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I'm not really sure what advice is left to give, you've answered your own question really. Just cut it down a bit.
yeah it's just good writing stuff down
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The first step in getting over a problem is accepting you have one. Try limiting the amount you drink and if it still causes you problems go teetotal for a while. There is no reason to quit something all together that you enjoy but if you are having problems with the amount you are drinking then it will difficult to scale it back or resist the urge for another pint on a night out. Best of luck with it all.
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I wouldn't say you're an alcoholic but defo cut down as it sounds like you have a bit of dependence. I never think alcohol is crucial to my enjoyment of social situations. Tbh I bet your friends would have noticed and wondered 'why does he drink so much?' Cut it down to 14 units (half a 70cl bottle) of vodka each night out and see how you are. If you find yourself needing more then I think you have a problem more than you realise. The last line of your post stood out to me 'I just like a drink..' - self-justification and defensiveness are signs of addiction that you may not even realise you have, especially when said pre-emptively.
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I think the amount your drinking in one session is your problem. Drink less.

And easier way to do this is only take a limited amount of money and no cards when your on the lash and you won't be able to get so drunk. Save money to.

You don't need to stop your drinking just control it.
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I was the same with drinking to get drunk, kind of seems pointless if your not.

My advice is: cut out spirits and wine, just drink beer/larger, it's weaker and takes longer to drink.

Maybe start off the night with a few shandys instead of full strength beer too, you could do this without you mates knowing.

Give your liver a rest... Few more days between night outs.


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Make sure you tell someone IRL your plans. You'll be more likely to follow through with them that way.
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Make sure you tell someone IRL your plans. You'll be more likely to follow through with them that way.


This, tell your friends, limit the amount of money you take out and buy only for yourself, not in rounds. (explaining to your friends is important here.)
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I think you're taking a sensible approach to it, you realise you have a problem and want to act on it; but you also seem clever enough to realise going cold turkey is probably the worst thing you can do.
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I think you're taking a sensible approach to it, you realise you have a problem and want to act on it; but you also seem clever enough to realise going cold turkey is probably the worst thing you can do.
Why? It doesn't sound like he has an (physical) addiction.
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Hi,

So it's been a while since i've been on TSR, last time i was here i started to realise it was quite a judgemental place and I might be a little old for it. But I want to write this down and i can't think of anywhere else.

I started drinking heavily (four times a week) when i got to university four years ago. I'm talking about a bottle of vodka per session (or 8+ pints, whose counting when it has got to that stage). Now i don't drink because i am depressed or sad about my life. I always drink with my friends, never by myself. I enjoy socialising far far more when i am drinking, it makes time pass quicker, conversation flows better and I am more relaxed and eager to talk to new people.

I think my problem is that normally when i start drinking, i won't stop till i am completely wasted. It is a nasty habit, always trying to get another glass of wine or another beer. I've been hospitalised three times for drinking on nights out. I know this isn't good for me and i am running the risk of becoming an alcoholic as i get older and seriously ****ing up my health.

I've been thinking about cutting down my alcohol consumption along the following lines. Rarely drinking in my flat. Only drinking when i am out with friends at night (about twice a week) and limiting myself to either a bottle of wine/ 5 pints/ half a bottle of vodka. I think i could get into the habit of setting that as a limit.

Please don't tell me to quit altogether: that isn't happening. It would be basically admitting to everyone i know and will ever know that I used to be an alcoholic. I haven't reached that level yet. And please refrain from calling me stupid: i'm not. I just like a drink.
I've went to AA sessions in the past and I do think they helped me immensely to cut down on drinking. I still drink a lot but not every night which I was doing. I don't think I was an alcoholic but I had a severe drink problem and I do think they helped me. I also regret that we still live in a society where people are still scared to come out about any problems they have. There is absolutely no shame in getting help about you're problems.
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Hi,

So it's been a while since i've been on TSR, last time i was here i started to realise it was quite a judgemental place and I might be a little old for it. But I want to write this down and i can't think of anywhere else.

I started drinking heavily (four times a week) when i got to university four years ago. I'm talking about a bottle of vodka per session (or 8+ pints, whose counting when it has got to that stage). Now i don't drink because i am depressed or sad about my life. I always drink with my friends, never by myself. I enjoy socialising far far more when i am drinking, it makes time pass quicker, conversation flows better and I am more relaxed and eager to talk to new people.

I think my problem is that normally when i start drinking, i won't stop till i am completely wasted. It is a nasty habit, always trying to get another glass of wine or another beer. I've been hospitalised three times for drinking on nights out. I know this isn't good for me and i am running the risk of becoming an alcoholic as i get older and seriously ****ing up my health.

I've been thinking about cutting down my alcohol consumption along the following lines. Rarely drinking in my flat. Only drinking when i am out with friends at night (about twice a week) and limiting myself to either a bottle of wine/ 5 pints/ half a bottle of vodka. I think i could get into the habit of setting that as a limit.

Please don't tell me to quit altogether: that isn't happening. It would be basically admitting to everyone i know and will ever know that I used to be an alcoholic. I haven't reached that level yet. And please refrain from calling me stupid: i'm not. I just like a drink.
Your half way there! You have admitted yo having a problem.

Why don't you go to an AA meeting there are loads of them and they are filled with people young and old, rich and poor but they all want to help each-other.

You don't have to drink every Day, call yourself an Alcoholic or be physically addicted to have a problem.

I am an Alcoholic now, I am not comfortable with the term but thats what it is. I drink most Days but sociably, however I can never stop, just like to you mentioned. Without fail, I get drunk even when I don't really want to and normally make a fool of myself. I have been hospitalised in the past. Drinking makes me depressed, so I drink more to try and block out that feeling. I am a happy person, I am not when I drink.

For most alcoholics, the thought of cutting down petrifies us, so its probably a good sign that you are willing to reduce your drinking. Mentally addicted people would rather all or nothing.

So, you may not be mentally addicted but you still have a problem and the AA welcomes anyone with a drinking problem, who wants to stop. I am starting meetings this week and I am 21, lots of friends, great boyfriend but I need to stop. I have been sober for 2 Days so far and its bloody hard!

Good luck
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