(Original post by OneDayDoctor)
Is anyone else tired of being told that they aren't real?!
People constantly post on the internet talking about real women who are size 12 and above. Does this mean that, at size 8, I don't exist or something? It seems so odd that people go out to promote themselves as being a certain size so should be accepted for who they are, yet at the same time they slate people smaller than them.
Why can't people realise that the size of clothing you wear is also dependent on your body shape and height? It's like it's ok to wear larger sizes (though not necessarily be fat, some people are just tall) but not smaller ones. It seems like telling someone they are overweight is signing your own death warrant, but it's perfectly ok to say someone is thin or skinny in a malicious way.
I'll try to find an example, but I see it all the time on facebook when people comment on images posted by fashion pages saying that the girl (usually a blogger who looks perfectly healthy) is too thin, looks ill and has no curves and no man will ever want her. It's such an awful thing to say. I'll look for an example but comments like that are usually taken down pretty quickly, however they appear a lot.
Any other people out there in TSR world who are fed up of being told they don't exist?
I've had the same problem all my life. I'm about 5 foot 7 and I'm a size 6 or 8, depending on the shop, and I'm pretty small and thin in every dimension. I have a small chest, but I'm fairly in-proportion overall. I eat as healthily as I can, and I eat quite a lot. I exercise a lot. I look after myself and my appearance, yet I'm often told indirectly I'm not a real woman. I've had people point out how skinny I am maliciously in the past. I've had people tell me I need to eat something. It's taken me until I'm 22, almost entirely because of the natural progression in confidence you get as you grow older, to accept that I'm not and will never be curvy but it doesn't mean I am not attractive, or I'm not a real woman. I actually believe a lot of the comments gave me quite a lot of other issues. Until very recently I had little sex drive, never felt as though I could be sexy and this had impacts on my relationships and I realised it's not actually something wrong with me, just the way people promote 'sexiness' as being large chested, curvy women.
People seem to think they have to over-compensate. In order to seem as though they accept people who are not ideal, hourglass shaped barbies, and in order to discourage eating disorders they think the only thing they can do is promote bigger body shapes. 'Real women have curves' is not true. Yeah yeah oestrogen causes us to have dimensions different to men, but that's different to being curvy in the eyes of the media. People try to promote equality, fairness and correctness but do it in the wrong way.
Bottom line- There is no 'real woman', I find it completely hypocritical that their efforts to get rid of conformity in the word's view of 'beautiful' was to replace it with a new, uniform image of beauty that is equally difficult to obtain for many women. A 'real woman' should be one who is confident, happy and healthy, one who looks after herself and is proud of the way she looks but also accepts there are other ways to look that are equally beautiful.. Ugh, I could go on all day.