I'm size 8 so not a real woman?

Is anyone else tired of being told that they aren't real?!

People constantly post on the internet talking about real women who are size 12 and above. Does this mean that, at size 8, I don't exist or something? It seems so odd that people go out to promote themselves as being a certain size so should be accepted for who they are, yet at the same time they slate people smaller than them.

Why can't people realise that the size of clothing you wear is also dependent on your body shape and height? It's like it's ok to wear larger sizes (though not necessarily be fat, some people are just tall) but not smaller ones. It seems like telling someone they are overweight is signing your own death warrant, but it's perfectly ok to say someone is thin or skinny in a malicious way.

I'll try to find an example, but I see it all the time on facebook when people comment on images posted by fashion pages saying that the girl (usually a blogger who looks perfectly healthy) is too thin, looks ill and has no curves and no man will ever want her. It's such an awful thing to say. I'll look for an example but comments like that are usually taken down pretty quickly, however they appear a lot.


Any other people out there in TSR world who are fed up of being told they don't exist?

Sorry, off-topic, but your signature - who dat GIRL???

Sorry, off-topic, but your signature - who dat GIRL???

Agreed, I'm a size 6-8 and threads about skinny women tend to have comments such as a woman isn't a real women unless she has huge curves. It really does not help my self esteem.

Sorry, off-topic, but your signature - who dat GIRL???

It's like the same threads get posted multiple times every week. Anyway I wouldn't take it seriously, you know it's silly and just a defense mechanism so why get butt-hurt over it?

I agree. I'm a size 8-10 usually, and I hate it. I feel caught in the middle, because I'm very hourglass and so not 'skinny' but I'm still small and so not welcome on the 'real women have curves' group. Not that I want to be. Why does it have to be one better than the other, why can't we accept all sizes can be beautiful.

All sizes can be beautiful, but every individual is unique so it's more a case by case basis.
Anyone who says "I don't find size X attractive" isn't someone to be listened to

...Unless they've done a comprehensive survey and analysis of all women deemed 'size X' in the world, and found none to their liking - though I feel this is highly unlikely and logistically impossible

Oh, sorry... I should have realised that this fairly unhealthy problem in society is just a defense mechanism and therefore completely and utterly harmless. Sticks and stones and all that! I'll go back to my ironing, then.


Childhood bullying is often a defense mechanism by the bullies, it doesn't make it ok. It's a very backward way of viewing things, and if this thread had been about people telling a large, curvy woman that she's not a real woman because she's skinny, I'm not sure it would have warranted this kind of response from many people.

Haha Uhh okay duly noted, and thanks for the passive aggressiveness.

It's always the women who failed at losing fat who bang on about this, too thick/weak willed to sort their own eating habits out so they just take a stab at someone else to make themselves feel better.

Nobody else cares.

Exactly! So I don't really understand why anyone would get upset about it?

It's always the women who failed at losing fat who bang on about this, too thick/weak willed to sort their own eating habits out so they just take a stab at someone else to make themselves feel better.

Nobody else cares.

That's true, to an extent, but I've also noted it from a lot of 'feminists' (as in, the over-enthusiastic 19 year old political 'activists' who angrily join their women's society at university and just hate life, rather than having any real idea of the ideals of feminism equality and women's rights), and from a lot of guys who think they're being 'nice guys' because of it, and probably do it to get laid. Either way, it's harmful to young, malleable minds and harmful to people who are particularly fragile, no matter what age.