Can't stop thinking about death-will I not let myself be happy?

here's the thing, i think about death constantly, not so much in the ooo i hate my life i want to die way, not like that-but in the ooo no, no matter what happens i WILL die one day (obvious i know!) it's like no matter what i do it will come to an end. i find religion v hard to even talk about so i have no clue what i believe to be after death. but i just can't stop thinking about how one day my body will just give out, i know as a teenage i'm supposed to think i'm invincible or something but i really really don't. it scares the crap out of me too and once i start thinking about me dying and ppl around me i just start crying. i've tried things like the following: thinking well if there's nothing after i won't know any different so there's no use worrying about it; having faith that there's something after; accepting that i will die and that thinking about it is just wasted thought and so i should focus on living here and now.

plus when everything's going ok, i'm moving on, things r looking up, e1 around me is happy, it's like i'm crying inside-it's v hard to explain and i don't tell ppl because it just sounds meoldramatic and i don't like drawing attention to myself in real life. it's like it comes on more when i'm supposed to be happy-almost like i can't let myself be happy...if that makes any sense at all.

this has gone on for as long as i can remember and no matter what i do i can't stop it.

is any1 else got anything similar or any suggestions? thanks for letting me vent :smile:

Reply 1

Sunofnight

3

Anonymous

here's the thing, i think about death constantly, not so much in the ooo i hate my life i want to die way, not like that-but in the ooo no, no matter what happens i WILL die one day (obvious i know!) it's like no matter what i do it will come to an end. i find religion v hard to even talk about so i have no clue what i believe to be after death. but i just can't stop thinking about how one day my body will just give out, i know as a teenage i'm supposed to think i'm invincible or something but i really really don't. it scares the crap out of me too and once i start thinking about me dying and ppl around me i just start crying. i've tried things like the following: thinking well if there's nothing after i won't know any different so there's no use worrying about it; having faith that there's something after; accepting that i will die and that thinking about it is just wasted thought and so i should focus on living here and now.

plus when everything's going ok, i'm moving on, things r looking up, e1 around me is happy, it's like i'm crying inside-it's v hard to explain and i don't tell ppl because it just sounds meoldramatic and i don't like drawing attention to myself in real life. it's like it comes on more when i'm supposed to be happy-almost like i can't let myself be happy...if that makes any sense at all.

this has gone on for as long as i can remember and no matter what i do i can't stop it.

is any1 else got anything similar or any suggestions? thanks for letting me vent :smile:

Well put it this way you will never know that you are dead :smile:

Lots of old people say that they think like you when they are young but when they get old they have had enough in a way. You should probably see a councellor as it is affecting your life, they will help.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

i've had counselling...it's not really helpful =(

Reply 3

dh00001

16

well sitting thinking about it isn't going to make a difference. its going to happen, and who knows what lies beyond death, whatever it is you'll never know until your are (and even then you might not :confused:

lol) so why bother getting hung up on it.

Reply 4

unfinished sympathy

15

when i was younger i felt like that, i couldn't stop thinking about what could happen after we all died. How i could die, what i would do if my mum and dad died etc... I was about 7 years old, and i had just started watching tv that my mum and dad watched, in the end my dad assumed it was eastenders and coronation street that put these ideas into my head, so i wasn't allowed to watch them- and it went. all the feelings disappeared after a couple of nights. What i'm trying to say is that it might be something simple that happens to you on a daily basis that makes you feel this way, i hope it gets better for you- i understand that saying get over it won't help at all,so you have to change your life in someway for the better, perhaps like me that will help you.

Reply 5

Eien

16

I can relate to how you feel in many ways, I have many fearful feelings of death, not because of the actual dying in many ways, but the things I may miss out in life and how it would affect others. In terms of death, it is best to come to terms with it rather than blocking it out, as it will simply reappear as a similar feeling when you have time to reflect. At the same time, it is always best to involve yourself in other things to prevent yourself from constantly thinking about such extreme elements of human life. For me, I have come to terms with it by accepting it as a natural element of human life - with out it, the planet would overpopulate and suffer. Also, while I would wish for eternal life, such life could lead to phases unknown to humans of today, and most likely madness - when you are old, your outlook on life will change, and most likely be more wearied, and death will be an end that you will not even realise. There will always be times when you are afraid, don't worry about that, but if you can think about death in a less threatening and fearful context, then things should become easier.

Reply 6

icedout

1

Get a religion.

Reply 7

random_bloke

1

i sometimes think like you do.

i am not religious at all.....and i think that those who lack religion like me lack the comfort of belief in an afterlife.

i have concluded that the world is well beyond our comprehension and given the thousands of combinations of genes and the events and circumstances that led to our birth we are very lucky to alive at all.

so enjoy the ride...you will never know you're dead....make the most of the years you have and don't worry about the inevitable...it changes nothing and wrecks your brain.

Reply 8

Sunofnight

3

Anonymous

i've had counselling...it's not really helpful =(

You have had counselling about this? Well don't give up see someone else different counsellers will probably have different views. How long as this being going on? I was going to suggest it might be a phase, anyway you seem to be thinking way too negatively I mean we don't know whats after death there could be eternal life or anything, seriously. Look at all the religious people they have faith for a reason. Why don't you make a promise to yourself that you will have fun and not worry about death until you are a certain age(maybe 40?) When you reach this age you will still be young and have plenty of time to get over this - if you haven't by then.

Reply 9

Jason_K

1

Dude, I feel like this too, but I have found just by praying once a day, I feel more reassured that once I do die I will be in a better place. Its not so much that I will die, its more will it be painful and lack of understanding of what will happen after.

Reply 10

random_bloke

1

you must make your own way though this.

you will have alot of people say.....well i found religion and now i don't fear death, and if that it the path you chose then that is absolutely fine....but don't think that religion is the only way (it may be the easy way) but athiests and agnostics don't neccersarily fear death...what is there to fear?

One thing to considor is that it is perfectly fine not to know nor care. you may not neccersarily need an answer...and ineed if you search you may not find the answer.

Reply 11

Abdominal

Why does everybody think they are going to die?

They can make mice fluorescent, ethics aside, anyone fancy immortality and an overpopulated earth?

Reply 12

insparato

15

Hmm teenagers and pensioners are the people who think about death most. When you are a teen you have hormones running around all over the place especially if you are a female. I try not to think about it much, just except that you will die and make life worth it, do something worthwhile have a rich and full life, live each day to the full instaed of feeling depressed about dying.

Reply 13

Kolya

17

Go out and live your life. You will not regret it :smile:

"Cowards die many times before their deaths; The valiant never taste of death but once."

Reply 14

NJA

20

Hi, it's good that you are questioning life - why not get an answer, I wanted one.

The answer I eventually got was when I called upon God to prove himself directly by giving me what *he* says I need - His Spirit within - a daily 2-way relationship, not "religion".

Reply 15

iz_a_bell

10

I don't understand why alot of people are so worried about dying. it's a natural cycle. everyone's going to die at some point. just face the fact and try live your life without worrying about it because there's no point worrying about it since you can't change it!

Reply 16

Anthonyjm71

9

iz_a_bell

I don't understand why alot of people are so worried about dying. it's a natural cycle. everyone's going to die at some point. just face the fact and try live your life without worrying about it because there's no point worrying about it since you can't change it!

True , thats why we all , need to make the most out of life!!

Reply 17

pumpkin7

13

i know it's not a nice thought to think you have a limited number of years on this earth, but you have to put that thought at the back of your mind and think about the fun you have during those years. think about what will happen in those years; learn to drive, buy your first house, get married, have kids, go on exciting holidays bungee jumping etc.
it is a fact that we all will die, but it most probably won't be for many, many years, so, enjoy yourself while you are young, and look forward to the challenges that face you.

Reply 18

matt@internet

12

This probably won't help much but, Life and Death, you come from nothing and you go back to nothing, so what have you lost. Nothing. Makes me feel better about death.

Reply 19

pumpkin7

13

matt@internet

This probably won't help much but, Life and Death, you come from nothing and you go back to nothing, so what have you lost. Nothing. Makes me feel better about death.

kudos on the monty python type quote.

Can't stop thinking about death-will I not let myself be happy?

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