the only thing putting me off is his culture/background....tips?

It's just easier to get with someone who definitely will not have cultural baggage. Why should the OP go for the guy in question? No way.

Wait a minute - so because you hear that this guy has indian/pakistani roots, that automatically means that he's a closet oppressive misogynist? There's judging a book by it's cover, and then there's judging a book by reading the synopsis of a different story altogether.

I love how all of you assume he contains cultural baggage, whilst knowing absolutely nothing about his character, or even his parents. Even OP says that they get along well together - I've had family member's girlfriends break off the relationship PURELY because of the country they were born in (never mind the fact that they've been in Britiain for 95% of their lifetimes, and have completely british values). It's a sickening practice, and the fact that all of you are actually encouragng it is actually quite worrying.

OP, you want to know what he's really like? How about communicating seriously with him?

Wait a minute - so because you hear that this guy has indian/pakistani roots, that automatically means that he's a closet oppressive misogynist? There's judging a book by it's cover, and then there's judging a book by reading the synopsis of a different story altogether.

I love how all of you assume he contains cultural baggage, whilst knowing absolutely nothing about his character, or even his parents. Even OP says that they get along well together - I've had family member's girlfriends break off the relationship PURELY because of the country they were born in (never mind the fact that they've been in Britiain for 95% of their lifetimes, and have completely british values). It's a sickening practice, and the fact that all of you are actually encouragng it is actually quite worrying.

OP, you want to know what he's really like? How about communicating seriously with him?

Really? Then what is the OP having doubts?

...What is this question asking? Or was that meant to say "why"?

In which case, Xenophobia/Ignorance, to think that the actions of a few is a representation of every single indian man on earth.

hi guys.

theres this really amazing guy that i met and he is half indian and half pakistani british and born and raised here in london.
We get along really well and he asked me out for dinner tomorrow but i replied flirtatiously 'i will let you know if your lucky or not '

ive had a bad experience when i visited India with some friends last summer. long story short we were mistreated and looked down upon and the men looked at us like we were a piece of meat.. it made me sick and it still traumatizes me till this day. i hated it.

And ive heard of all those awful stories in the media about the way in which men treat women in Pakistan too.

i must admit my past experiences does make me cold to some of the people from these places and im scared that whether or not its to the extreme extent i had experienced in India myself, that some of the things i saw and heard might present itself with this new guy that makes me happy!
what if he thinks like that or sometime in the future his family look at me the same way as those men in India or pakistan?
am i overthinking?
help...?

I'm a white girl dating an indian guy who was born and raised here, and I've never had any problems with his background. I also get on well with a lot of his indian friends. I don't know any of them that would ever treat a girl any different to a white guy. There are some culture differences; I'm not allowed to stay over, and I think his family find it quite strange that he's dating a white girl. But it has never been a problem and should not put you off!

Oh yeah, I meant why. Stupid typos.

Oh come on! It's hardly being xenophobic and I'm not being ignorant.

If the OP wasn't having doubts, then it would all be OK. But she is, and has the right to have doubts.

Why are you with an Indian guy when you could have a white guy?

How does she have the right?

If the guy had made any offhand misogynist comments, or had treated women badly in the past, then yes, she should be cautious. But she hasn't specified that at all.



.....Are you just trolling now?

Why are you with an Indian guy when you could have a white guy?

Why would a white guy be preferable to an Indian guy?!

Surely it should be about the person, not their heritage...

Why does someone have the right to have doubts about dating a woman?

More things in common? More attractive?

I see lots of girls lusting after the likes of Ryan Gosling, Ryan Reynolds, Ian Somerhauld etc etc

Seriously? It's far easier to get with someone without all that cultural baggage.

More things in common? More attractive?

I see lots of girls lusting after the likes of Ryan Gosling, Ryan Reynolds, Ian Somerhauld etc etc

Hang on, if he's grown up here then there's easily plenty for them to have in common, and differences make things more interesting - who wants to have EVERYTHING in common with their partner?

And why on earth should a white guy be more attractive than an Indian one?!!? That's on an individual basis. You can't just say white guys are hotter, that's totally ridiculous.

It's causing a problem, that's why the OP made a thread about it. You can't just deny it when that's the reason the OP made the thread in the first place.

Are you saying that if someone had problems in their relationship that they were concerned about, they should ignore it? No!

Actually I can, Google says differently.