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Scared of drunkeness...
This is probably really stupid for an 18 year old 
. But when I see people really plastered and quite obviously could be violent, I get really panicky. It comes from my home environment, living with my dad who is an alcoholic and when he's drunk I never know what he's going to do. Plus I'm terrified of my dad when he's drunk . Today he tried to wrestle a kitchen knife off my mum (she was making dinner) and my sister had to pull him off her. I left my revision in a room, and after dinner, he went in there and I wanted to get my revision out but I couldn't make myself go in there. In the end my sister went in and got it out and brought it in my room for me. Then I felt really pathetic. What's wrong with me?
. But when I see people really plastered and quite obviously could be violent, I get really panicky. It comes from my home environment, living with my dad who is an alcoholic and when he's drunk I never know what he's going to do. Plus I'm terrified of my dad when he's drunk . Today he tried to wrestle a kitchen knife off my mum (she was making dinner) and my sister had to pull him off her. I left my revision in a room, and after dinner, he went in there and I wanted to get my revision out but I couldn't make myself go in there. In the end my sister went in and got it out and brought it in my room for me. Then I felt really pathetic. What's wrong with me?
Those are two completely different problems.
As far as the being scared of people when they are drunk thing goes, i wouldnt worry about it too much. You just have to choose to be around people who you trust and know arent violent. I only get really drunk if theres at least a few close friends with me. And if im in a club or something and theres someone whos obviously pretty far gone and maybe dangerous i just stay out of their way. It shouldnt be that much of a problem, so dont worry about it
The thing with your dad is much more serious. You need to get some proper help (i.e not from people like us on TSR, a family friend, teacher or someone.) If I was in your situation id have a talk with your mum. She shouldnt stand for that kind of behaviour from your dad. If you all moved out for a while or something and gave him some time to sort himself out, that might be the most sensible thing. Give him an ultimatum maybe. I dunno, none of us here know enough about your situation to give you proper advice. All i can say is, you do have to do something about your dad or things could get alot worse
If you want a chat about anything just PM, okay?
hope things get sorted out
As far as the being scared of people when they are drunk thing goes, i wouldnt worry about it too much. You just have to choose to be around people who you trust and know arent violent. I only get really drunk if theres at least a few close friends with me. And if im in a club or something and theres someone whos obviously pretty far gone and maybe dangerous i just stay out of their way. It shouldnt be that much of a problem, so dont worry about it
The thing with your dad is much more serious. You need to get some proper help (i.e not from people like us on TSR, a family friend, teacher or someone.) If I was in your situation id have a talk with your mum. She shouldnt stand for that kind of behaviour from your dad. If you all moved out for a while or something and gave him some time to sort himself out, that might be the most sensible thing. Give him an ultimatum maybe. I dunno, none of us here know enough about your situation to give you proper advice. All i can say is, you do have to do something about your dad or things could get alot worse
If you want a chat about anything just PM, okay?
hope things get sorted out
Firstly, it's not your fault, so you've no need to think it's you with the problem.
I think you answered your own question. Not what's wrong with you as you put it, but why you panic when you see drunk people. I think whether they admit it or not, everyone's a little afraid of extremely drunk people, because they're so unpredictable, and not in control.
Getting your sister to fetch your revision is no big deal I don't think. You're afraid of your dad (unfortunate in itself), and you needed someone to help you out. There's nothing wrong with that In a situation such as this, I wouldn't recommend standing up to your dad unless you knew what he was doing, because he is so unpredictable.
Please don't feel that it makes you any less of a person, and know that it's your dad who has the problem.
PM me if you need to.
I think you answered your own question. Not what's wrong with you as you put it, but why you panic when you see drunk people. I think whether they admit it or not, everyone's a little afraid of extremely drunk people, because they're so unpredictable, and not in control.
Getting your sister to fetch your revision is no big deal I don't think. You're afraid of your dad (unfortunate in itself), and you needed someone to help you out. There's nothing wrong with that
In a situation such as this, I wouldn't recommend standing up to your dad unless you knew what he was doing, because he is so unpredictable.Please don't feel that it makes you any less of a person, and know that it's your dad who has the problem.
PM me if you need to.halfoflessthan50p
Those are two completely different problems.
As far as the being scared of people when they are drunk thing goes, i wouldnt worry about it too much. You just have to choose to be around people who you trust and know arent violent. I only get really drunk if theres at least a few close friends with me. And if im in a club or something and theres someone whos obviously pretty far gone and maybe dangerous i just stay out of their way. It shouldnt be that much of a problem, so dont worry about it
The thing with your dad is much more serious. You need to get some proper help (i.e not from people like us on TSR, a family friend, teacher or someone.) If I was in your situation id have a talk with your mum. She shouldnt stand for that kind of behaviour from your dad. If you all moved out for a while or something and gave him some time to sort himself out, that might be the most sensible thing. Give him an ultimatum maybe. I dunno, none of us here know enough about your situation to give you proper advice. All i can say is, you do have to do something about your dad or things could get alot worse
If you want a chat about anything just PM, okay? hope things get sorted out
As far as the being scared of people when they are drunk thing goes, i wouldnt worry about it too much. You just have to choose to be around people who you trust and know arent violent. I only get really drunk if theres at least a few close friends with me. And if im in a club or something and theres someone whos obviously pretty far gone and maybe dangerous i just stay out of their way. It shouldnt be that much of a problem, so dont worry about it
The thing with your dad is much more serious. You need to get some proper help (i.e not from people like us on TSR, a family friend, teacher or someone.) If I was in your situation id have a talk with your mum. She shouldnt stand for that kind of behaviour from your dad. If you all moved out for a while or something and gave him some time to sort himself out, that might be the most sensible thing. Give him an ultimatum maybe. I dunno, none of us here know enough about your situation to give you proper advice. All i can say is, you do have to do something about your dad or things could get alot worse
If you want a chat about anything just PM, okay?
hope things get sorted out
Well put.Dealing with alcoholics is extremely difficult though, because unless your dad admits he has a problem, and has a reason for wanting to quit, he won't. The ultimatum thing might work, or it miht push him the other way, and drive him to drink more. Like half says, you should see a professional concerning your dad.
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Like half says, you should see a professional concerning your dad.
Yes but I always worry about whether I will be able to put what I feel in to words. My mum obviously knows about the alcohol problem and is in the process of filing for divorce. I can't even tell my mum when I'm feeling under pressure from the weight of everything i.e. family, exams etc etc and it feels like concrete blocks piled on top of me! If I can't talk about my dad with my mum, then how am I supposed to get it all out with a counsellor?
That's what counsellors are for. Maybe you can't tell your mum because you know she's under pressure already, and so you don't want to put extra strain on her? Also, some people find it easier talking to strangers, than they do to family (I know I do).
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