A casual relationship?!?!

OK sorry if this thread drags on a bit!

Well me and my boyfriend of nearly 2 years have been on a break for 2 months,weve both been enjoying life and enjoying going out with our friends on nights out and just generally seeing them more,as we were stupid and never did this before whilst being together,

We spent the night together last night and ended up sleeping together,then today we was chatting on msn,and he asked me if i wanted a serious or casual relationship with him,he said he doesnt want us to go back as we were together 24.7 not going out with friends as all we did was argue and hes just started a new job with the shift of 4pm-10pm which would limit us seeing each other aswell..I do like the fact we can go out and see our mates and have each other,but before we split we had so many plans about getting a flat together etc its just by the terms casual relationship it doesnt sound to good and like he wants that now,I would also like to go out on nights out with him and be included with his friends aswell but i dont think he would want to do that,i dont know i guess i just needed to let this out.

From what he has said what do you think of it?or am i just being stupid?

alll coments appreciated

Reply 1

Kate.

15

Talk to him about it...ask how he defines casual.
It sounds like he wants a relationship with you, but just like he said, not one that's so serious. Maybe he felt like it was getting too serious - with the plans for a flat together and such - and it scared him? Maybe he just wants to see his friends more?
I'd probably get back with him and have a casual relationship, if it was me.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

yeah its just the word casual i dont know what he means by it,I cant explain what i mean,when he means casual he doesnt mean not as lovey dovey and stuff does he?

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Nooooo, stay of clear of this. Casual relationships or not relationships, and they do suck. He just wants a bit of free sex, basically he wants to have his cake and eat it.

Enjoy your single life.

Reply 4

Ron Stoppable

14

"casual" = FBs = little/no emotional connection

Reply 5

1013

1

You need to find out what his definition of casual. As for the friends thing, by my definition, you can be in a serious i.e committed relationship and still hvae time to see your friends. Of course it isnt healthy to live in eachothers pockets and not see your mates but it doesn't mean that you can't still be together exclusively and pull / date other people.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

well i feel lots better ive just had a chat with him,we talked about the casual meaning,he said he meant just so were not spending as much time with each other and we see our mates and stuff,and he does want a comitted relationship but too take things slower this time.

Reply 7

paddyboy

Anonymous

well i feel lots better ive just had a chat with him,we talked about the casual meaning,he said he meant just so were not spending as much time with each other and we see our mates and stuff,and he does want a comitted relationship but too take things slower this time.

good. I think maybe you both spent too much time together over the last two years, and need to have fun with your mates. I wish you both all the best.