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This is going to be a really pathetic whiney thread, but hey you cant say i didnt warn you...

I'm sick of being single. Yup this is actually coming from a girl who is intrinsicly single, who all my girl friends cry on after breaking up with their boy friends, i couldnt be more Brigdet Jones if i tried.
I've always put guys off because of too much work and all that but thats just a pathetic excuse. Having sat in the park all day watching all the couples go by, it would be nice just to have someone care for you in that way (i actually cant believe i just said that).

Its so hard to meet new guys though, i mean clubbing isn't the best place and i always see the same guys when i'm out who im now just friends with. Being a teenager i find it so hard to meet guys because your kind of constricted to your social circle. Im not activly looking for a guy but at this rate i'm never going to meet a decent guy, there either chauvanists, weird, or just trying to pull. Sorry if this sounds arrogant and big headed but i know i'm not ugly, i got chatted up buy such a gorgous guy today in the park who ended up walking me home, and he was really sweet and just genuinly wanted to converse with me, which was nice...problem was he was 29. I just find that guys my age (17) just dont have that maturity, or courage to actually talk to a girl, rather than chat her up or try and pull. God and i'm hardley mature myself but come on guys....

feeling lonely and dejected here...please tell me there are nice guys out there that are all hiding from me? I dont think i can go on pigging out on ben & jerrys watching rom coms for much longer :frown:

Reply 1

sheryl06

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there are nice guys out there.. but seriously having a boyfriend isn't everything and I'm sure you will get one, just give it time and don't go out there looking for one becaus eit seems to slow down the process :smile:

Reply 2

Flank Runner

Well, the only advice i can give you, is start doing things/joining clubs your interested in, basically go places to meet new guys and if its in a club then you at least have one thing i n common to talk about, but there are plenty of nice guys out there, and i agree there are some absolute morons out there, you just got to keep looking and keep being yourself and you'll meet the right guy eventually, best of look,
yours
chris

Reply 3

MI6 CSJ

Well basically you sound pretty hot! lol I would go out with you lol even from not meeting u!!

I think u would make a great gf and a great companion to anyone

xx

Reply 4

Wonderboy Blue

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I was talking to someone about this sort of thing last night. She's a very wise woman and even friends with one of my IDOLS :smile:

Anyway, I said all girls are turning out be psycho and have all these issues...she said yeah they're all like that, sometimes it gets better with age but most girls are a bit crazy. She also said I should take my time looking for a girl and not rush into anything. She didn't tell me where to meet girls (since I don't really like clubs and there are some rough birds round here) but I spose I could just talk to random girls in the street lol.

We're both shy, as is my aforementioned IDOL...except he's overcome it she says, but only in the last few years.

Meh, anyway...I wouldn't worry about it. First relationships (even second, third and fourth!) aren't usually all that great. Just take your time and do background checks on people!

EDIT: WHY DON'T YOU TRY ASKING OUT SOMEONE!!!!

Or does it not make sense to talk to someone you like?

Reply 5

~the_one~

OP

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Thanks for the replies (no sarcy ones yet).
I'm not actively looking for a guy its just when you see a cute couple or chat a guys eye on the train or something, and just wonder. I mean i see so many guys around and you just think one of these could be perfect but i just dont know it, and i'll never see them again (note: i dont walk around with this running through my head 24/7 only today really).

I've already joined pretty much all the stuff i'm interested in, i even triend to join a book club, but that fell though when it was all awfully middle aged women who read crap books anyway. I just wish i could just talk to anybody, anywhere. I really like meeting new people as it is (not just guys), and its fustrating that i cant just talk to people, for example when i see someone reading my favorite book...
Aww MI6 CSJ that posts made me feel better and much less dejected thanks for that, nice to know i sound hot.

Reply 6

Wonderboy Blue

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It's not hard to say 'hi' to someone and go from there.

If you don't put yourself out and don't want guys to put themselves out (to talk to you) then you will never have a boyfriend.

Maybe if you stopped thinking all guys were after one thing you'd get somewhere.

Reply 7

Wez

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~the_one~

I just wish i could just talk to anybody, anywhere. I really like meeting new people as it is (not just guys), and its fustrating that i cant just talk to people, for example when i see someone reading my favorite book....

Why not?

Try it and see what happens. :smile:

Reply 8

~the_one~

OP

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I do want guys to talk to me though. I'm sure you know theres chatting up and then theres chatting up. Obviously i'm not going to act cold around someone who comes to talk to me, i mean i go and talk to people all the time, and i love it when someone comes to talk to me and makes me laugh.
I think you're right the problem is with me, unless a guy acts a specific way i always think he is after one thing. Bar today i've never had a guy come up to me and ask what music i'm interested in or something like that i always get the, 'you're looking really fit today' which although may have good intentions makes me feel really insecure and i kind of go back into my shell. I'm screwed.

Why not?

Try it and see what happens.

Ahh you dont live in London do you, i'd probably get arrested for breach of the peace.

Reply 9

puppy

'Jane is a pretty typical teenager; angry, insecure, confused. I wish I could tell her that's all going to pass... but I don't want to lie to her'

- American Beauty

As a chronically single 21 year old I don't know what to suggest (nor do I want to lie to you). You'll have to wait longer than most- it's not the worst thing in the world, I'd rather that than go from short-term meaningless relationship to short-term meaningless relationship (kinda).

Reply 10

~the_one~

OP

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chronically single, got a nice ring to it...i'll join the club.

No, of course it's not the worst thing in the world, far from and it's really not something i think about alot, damn summer, everyone just looks fitter.

Reply 11

puppy

I only ever want someone when I see people together (as you describe) but when I sit alone in my room and actually think about having a boyfriend I really can't imagine it at the moment; who I'd actually go out with, spending lots of time with someone, making a commitment. I know it'd be the wrong thing to do.

Reply 12

goonerjack

Wez

Yes, that is a rubbish chat-up line. Next time someone says that to you, answer something like: “What, do you think I’m fugly the other 6 days of the week?”. :p:

fugly's such an awesome word :cool:

i know how you feel, you seem like a nice girl so don't be afraid to go up to randomers and start chatting about something, is fun! i think as brits we have a trait to see it as weird to just start chatting to someone if it's obvious there's a common interest - like the book you were talking about...

is funny whenever i go to spain i start chatting to most random people, have had pretty decent conversations with someone in burger king and on a broken down train - maybe i have less inhibitions because you know you'll never see them again anyway... but it's still true here - the situation can only go good really! if you start talking to someone and they walk away then you're no worse off than before, but if it sparks up a conversation then you've gained that - there's nothing to lose! so yeah go for it i reckon, see how many randomers you can chat to tomorrow lol

Reply 13

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

Best chat up line : Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?

Anyway, OP: Have you tried being less ugly/whiney?

Reply 14

Ron Stoppable

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~the_one~

This is going to be a really pathetic whiney thread, but hey you cant say i didnt warn you...

I'm sick of being single. Yup this is actually coming from a girl who is intrinsicly single, who all my girl friends cry on after breaking up with their boy friends, i couldnt be more Brigdet Jones if i tried.

I've always put guys off because of too much work and all that but thats just a pathetic excuse. Having sat in the park all day watching all the couples go by, it would be nice just to have someone care for you in that way (i actually cant believe i just said that).

Hey there ~the_one~,

You're in London! There's loads of places and even more people. So go to places where the kinda men you want will be.

For example:
Hot bodies - juice bars near gyms.
Intellectuals - cafes near academic institutions.
Hot minds - art/music exhibitions and recitals: read TimeOut.
People who love the green spots and sunshine - the royal parks.
Runners - the South Bank.

If you've exhausted those, and as long as you're not a total freakshow :smile:

, I might just let you tag along with exploring cool places in fun old Londinium.

Reply 15

~the_one~

OP

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I guess you're right, this summer is going to be spent accosting random guys. A random america guy started talking to me on the tube you should of seen the faces of the other people on the tube, pure horror. Anyway i didnt mind him speaking to me, so hopefully others wont recoil in horror when i do the same (fingers crossed).
I think the best bet is gallerys, get talking to so many people in the tate, TimeOut is my friend.
Cheers people...and remember if someone random comes to chat, be nice.

Reply 16

royal888

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you @ hyde park park?

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