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I wonder if anyone is even going to look at this.... awww well.
Right. My situation -
I am in love with my best friend (male). I have told him I like him (not mentioned love) and he has reciprocated. Unfortunately, he has a girlfriend who is is apparently in love with and who he is uttery devoted to. Bummer.
However, despite this we have grown increasingly close. I have had him staying over at my house and we spent a lot of time snuggling in bed.... (nothing explicitly sexual happened... even though I was topless...). We slept together in my bed, curled up around eachother. We also tend to keep eachother up on MSN until stupid times in the morning (like, 0500...).
But no phone calls, no texting, no cyber sex... I did "get my rocks off" on webcam for him once though... he maintains he did nothing wrong by watching as he didnt *do* anything... hmmm.
Well, thats fine. I can mope about that and secretly hope they breakup.... BUT
I also have a much older, wiser love interest. 24, brilliant prospects, achademic, intelligent, witty, charming, attractive.... lovely in all respects. And I really do quite fancy him. And he is single... and he likes me too... so a relationship is (possibly) on the cards.
Now, what do I do? I love Man A but he isnt avaliable, and I fancy Man B who is. If I knew Man A would be with His Girlfriend for the rest of time, I would jump at Man B... but I have my reasons to suspect that their relationship is not as strong as he makes out... but I don't want to string Man B along, or lose him!
Help please.... *looks sheepish*
Right. My situation -
I am in love with my best friend (male). I have told him I like him (not mentioned love) and he has reciprocated. Unfortunately, he has a girlfriend who is is apparently in love with and who he is uttery devoted to. Bummer.
However, despite this we have grown increasingly close. I have had him staying over at my house and we spent a lot of time snuggling in bed.... (nothing explicitly sexual happened... even though I was topless...). We slept together in my bed, curled up around eachother. We also tend to keep eachother up on MSN until stupid times in the morning (like, 0500...).
But no phone calls, no texting, no cyber sex... I did "get my rocks off" on webcam for him once though... he maintains he did nothing wrong by watching as he didnt *do* anything... hmmm.
Well, thats fine. I can mope about that and secretly hope they breakup.... BUT
I also have a much older, wiser love interest. 24, brilliant prospects, achademic, intelligent, witty, charming, attractive.... lovely in all respects. And I really do quite fancy him. And he is single... and he likes me too... so a relationship is (possibly) on the cards.
Now, what do I do? I love Man A but he isnt avaliable, and I fancy Man B who is. If I knew Man A would be with His Girlfriend for the rest of time, I would jump at Man B... but I have my reasons to suspect that their relationship is not as strong as he makes out... but I don't want to string Man B along, or lose him!
Help please.... *looks sheepish*
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Reply 2
Excuse me for being thicker than the offspring of a village idiot and a TV weathergirl but what is 'getting your rocks off'?
Reply 3
To have an orgasm. It's also part of the lyrics for Rocks by Primal Scream (what I remember the phrase for most)
OP, why don't you go with the available guy if he's so great, rather than break up a relationship? Also, does his gf know you were in the same bed?
Minnale, the guy is already in a relationship!
OP, why don't you go with the available guy if he's so great, rather than break up a relationship? Also, does his gf know you were in the same bed?
Minnale, the guy is already in a relationship!
Reply 5
defo go for plan B as you never know what might be on your friend's mind. he might be even using u....
anyways good luck
anyways good luck
Reply 6
I can't just step away from him because he is the one person who is keeping me sane atm.... Risk him giving into temptation or mess myself up? Hmmm.
I am not pushing my feelings onto him but I also refuse to be held accountable if he makes a mistake. I am not going to protect his relationship if he can't do it for himself.
And the avaliable guy I have only known for a few weeks... and he lives miles away. And if Best Friend (Man A) ever became single, I don't know how I would deal...
And no, Best Friend's girl doesn't even know who I am. We have never met and I doubt I have ever been mentioned to her.
Minnale - he is pretty damn awesome...! And such a gentleman. Total Nice Guy (I am amazed... I usualy go for the rebels)
I am not pushing my feelings onto him but I also refuse to be held accountable if he makes a mistake. I am not going to protect his relationship if he can't do it for himself.
And the avaliable guy I have only known for a few weeks... and he lives miles away. And if Best Friend (Man A) ever became single, I don't know how I would deal...
And no, Best Friend's girl doesn't even know who I am. We have never met and I doubt I have ever been mentioned to her.
Minnale - he is pretty damn awesome...! And such a gentleman. Total Nice Guy (I am amazed... I usualy go for the rebels)
Reply 7
Explain your situation to man A. If he wants to leave his gf for you, he will. If he doesn't, then there's always B.
Anonymous
But no phone calls, no texting, no cyber sex... I did "get my rocks off" on webcam for him once though... he maintains he did nothing wrong by watching as he didnt *do* anything... hmmm.
But no phone calls, no texting, no cyber sex... I did "get my rocks off" on webcam for him once though... he maintains he did nothing wrong by watching as he didnt *do* anything... hmmm.
so that was you doing the rounds via email through a youtube link then!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HDaqwZWrwdU
Reply 9
so that was you doing the rounds via email through a youtube link then!
ROFL. If I thought it was possible I might be worried... and even if it was, you can't see my face
I would explain the exact situation to Man A (well, I kinda have...) but I am afraid he might get slightly freaked out... I know that if he does get freaked out, he's not a guy I want to be with, but I am happy being deluded.
Reply 10
It may just be the wanting-what-you-can't-have complex. He's taken.
Wait until he's single and see how you feel a month into him being available.
Wait until he's single and see how you feel a month into him being available.
Anonymous
ROFL. If I thought it was possible I might be worried... and even if it was, you can't see my face
I would explain the exact situation to Man A (well, I kinda have...) but I am afraid he might get slightly freaked out... I know that if he does get freaked out, he's not a guy I want to be with, but I am happy being deluded.
I would explain the exact situation to Man A (well, I kinda have...) but I am afraid he might get slightly freaked out... I know that if he does get freaked out, he's not a guy I want to be with, but I am happy being deluded.
come off it, He snuggles with you in bed whilst your topless and enjoyed watching you get yourself off... : )
he obv thinks of you in that way, but maybe isnt confident enough to progress things further. get him drunk, try hinting with him about how you feel and then see what happens... You can always laugh it off if he starts to get freaked out and pretend you were joking.
why is everyone telling her to try to break his relationship up?
would you not feel one bit guilty trying to break up your best mate's relationship?
does he not feel bad doing all those things with you if he loves his gf?
if he was my bf i'd tell him where the **** to go
i sympathise for his gf. no wonder girls have problems with guys having female best mates.
leave him alone. if he wants to be with you he will decide to leave his gf on his own terms.
would you not feel one bit guilty trying to break up your best mate's relationship?
does he not feel bad doing all those things with you if he loves his gf?
if he was my bf i'd tell him where the **** to go
i sympathise for his gf. no wonder girls have problems with guys having female best mates.
leave him alone. if he wants to be with you he will decide to leave his gf on his own terms.
Reply 13
El Scotto
come off it, He snuggles with you in bed whilst your topless and enjoyed watching you get yourself off... : )
he obv thinks of you in that way, but maybe isnt confident enough to progress things further. get him drunk, try hinting with him about how you feel and then see what happens... You can always laugh it off if he starts to get freaked out and pretend you were joking.
come off it, He snuggles with you in bed whilst your topless and enjoyed watching you get yourself off... : )
he obv thinks of you in that way, but maybe isnt confident enough to progress things further. get him drunk, try hinting with him about how you feel and then see what happens... You can always laugh it off if he starts to get freaked out and pretend you were joking.
Do not get him drunk. I am in a very simmilar situation only my man a is going out with my cousin. When we both went to stay with our other frind at uni we both got drunk and well things happened. we didn't have sex or anything but we got pretty close and we had to force ourselves to stop. Now i hate myself for it even though my cousin/his girlfriend wasn't too upset about it and they are still together after he told her, but now im even more f**ked in the head about it then i was before! Its even worse now that ive had some expereinces with him & i know i cant have anymore!
Reply 14
I agree with zain88 ^
Man A sounds like a bit of a creep...to be all snuggly with you in bed, when you don't have a top on, enjoying the webcam action but still maintaining he loves his girlfriend? Something is up there. And I don't just mean his manstick.
Man A sounds like a bit of a creep...to be all snuggly with you in bed, when you don't have a top on, enjoying the webcam action but still maintaining he loves his girlfriend? Something is up there. And I don't just mean his manstick.
Reply 16
I think you shopuld live happily ever after. Sound advice, in my opinion.
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rr...no. Seducing him will not make the situation better and she'd come up looking bad in the process. I'd feel very sorry for his GF if that was the case, and with that in mind there is still that young man she just met.
Directed at the orginal poster:If you like him so much then accept the meaningfullness of his current relationship and not resort to acting like a scarlet woman, that's where friendships crumble. If it becomes to much to bare, try talking with him to straighten things out. It may be embarassing but it's better than nothing.
rr...no. Seducing him will not make the situation better and she'd come up looking bad in the process. I'd feel very sorry for his GF if that was the case, and with that in mind there is still that young man she just met. Directed at the orginal poster:If you like him so much then accept the meaningfullness of his current relationship and not resort to acting like a scarlet woman, that's where friendships crumble. If it becomes to much to bare, try talking with him to straighten things out. It may be embarassing but it's better than nothing.
Reply 18
Don't worry, I am not going to break them up. Not intentionaly. And I am not making any moves on him. But I will repeat what I said earlier - I am not going to pretend I dont like him in that way, or pretend that everything is platonic. If he is strong he will resist. If he is not, then maybe its for the best?
And no, I'm not getting him drunk. The fact he does not drink prohibits me...and I would not manipulate him like that. He is a friend first and foremost.
And no, I'm not getting him drunk. The fact he does not drink prohibits me...and I would not manipulate him like that. He is a friend first and foremost.
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