Why do bad things always happen to the nicest people?

Is it just me or does it seem that the most horrid things happen to the loveliest of people.
I mean I found out today my old form tutor had died of cancer ( the most brilliant and kindest teacher I have ever had), and recently the nicest people I know have all had nasty stuff in their lives.

so much for karma!

Reply 1

Note

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Life is not meant to be fair. Infact, fair doesn't even exist. You are given what you have got and you deal with it however you want. The idea is to make the best of what you have got and be happy.

If you want to talk unfair think how sheltered our lives are in the Western world when there are people out there in developing countries having to drink water that is used as a toilet by people upstream or even women and kids being tortured, raped and murdered by unrestricted piligers.

Karma exists in the mind and it is not so much "hey! I'll do something nice and I will get it back." It's more "hey! I'll do something nice and it will be good at least for somebody and I will feel good about it."

Btw. Sorry to hear about your teacher.

Reply 2

Ting-Ting

Probably when bad things happen to bad people, we'd probbably point and say "aah he/she deserved it" but when bad things happen to good people, it has a harsher impact.

Reply 3

Big Fat Mel

That's clearly a poorly constructed argument. "Always" implies that bad people never get their come-uppance. Look at Mussolini, the Cuddly Face of Fascism. He got strung up. I am a nice person and nothing bad has EVER happened to me (or at least I just shrug everything off because I'm a REAL MAN).

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

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Big Fat Mel

That's clearly a poorly constructed argument. "Always" implies that bad people never get their come-uppance. Look at Mussolini, the Cuddly Face of Fascism. He got strung up. I am a nice person and nothing bad has EVER happened to me (or at least I just shrug everything off because I'm a REAL MAN).

Yes ok, bad stuff does not always happen to good people, it just seems like that to me at the moment. Hence I made a sweeping generalisation.

Reply 5

username39618

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Big Fat Mel

That's clearly a poorly constructed argument. "Always" implies that bad people never get their come-uppance. Look at Mussolini, the Cuddly Face of Fascism. He got strung up. I am a nice person and nothing bad has EVER happened to me (or at least I just shrug everything off because I'm a REAL MAN).

I'd completely agree, just the other day i told a certain 'Talya' to spell antibiotics correctly, and i get neg repped for it.....Shocking
If people feel inclined to +ve rep me for this insult to humanity, please, go right ahead

Reply 6

Eccentric Man

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It seems like there's no place for 'nice' people; being 'nice' caused me to never tell the girl l liked all thru college that i liked her. Sorry, but to get anywhered you must have a bastard in you.

Anyway, v sorry about your tutor :frown:

Reply 7

Segat1

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You have to know bad stuff to appreciate when stuff is good . Otherwise everything would be middling.

Reply 8

quintsy

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I agree, and the situation is slightly similar to yours. I just found out today that my teacher collapsed doing a half marathon at the weekend and had to be admitted to intensive care because he couldn't breathe unaided. I really hope he's ok, he's the greatest teacher I've ever had. :frown:

Reply 9

alej18

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Murphys law??

Maybe its because every action has an opposite, so if youre nice you are in fact causing harshness elsewhere, so karma comes round and boom. Try to be more nuetral.

Reply 10

NickiM

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I have a really good friend who has not had as nice a life as she deserves, she's always in hospital, had to give up dancing (which she had won national awards for) due to an accident, got bullied and life just never seems to be good to her!

Reply 11

puppy

This really is the stupidest thing I've ever read. Stuff just happens, there's no reason to it. No one is owed anything good or bad, you get what you get and that's an end to it. If you manage to deal with it, well done, if you don't, who cares?

Reply 12

Sunofnight

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Anonymous

Is it just me or does it seem that the most horrid things happen to the loveliest of people.
I mean I found out today my old form tutor had died of cancer ( the most brilliant and kindest teacher I have ever had), and recently the nicest people I know have all had nasty stuff in their lives.

so much for karma!

Aside from illness Id say that the bad people tend to be the pushy/selfish/sly ones so get what they want. They are the survivers.

Sorry about your teacher btw

Reply 13

Adhsur

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puppy

This really is the stupidest thing I've ever read. Stuff just happens, there's no reason to it. No one is owed anything good or bad, you get what you get and that's an end to it. If you manage to deal with it, well done, if you don't, who cares?

That's a bit of a bitter post. I don't think the threadstarter is trying to find out some metaphysical cosmic truth about the way things work: he or she was simply upset at what did happen and I think it's completely natural to feel down. Everyone goes through "life is unfair" thoughts, so the threadstarter has every right to as well, even if only to introduce the topic he wants to discuss.

Reply 14

Big Fat Mel

Makky_Legend

I'd completely agree, just the other day i told a certain 'Talya' to spell antibiotics correctly, and i get neg repped for it.....Shocking
If people feel inclined to +ve rep me for this insult to humanity, please, go right ahead

I think you are being completely unreasonable you, you crazy fool! Who are you to tell me what is right or wrong?!

Reply 15

puppy

Adhsur

That's a bit of a bitter post. I don't think the threadstarter is trying to find out some metaphysical cosmic truth about the way things work: he or she was simply upset at what did happen and I think it's completely natural to feel down. Everyone goes through "life is unfair" thoughts, so the threadstarter has every right to as well, even if only to introduce the topic he wants to discuss.

Well the title of the thread is 'why do bad things always happen to the nicest people'

I'm pointing out that that's complete rubbish.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

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puppy

This really is the stupidest thing I've ever read. Stuff just happens, there's no reason to it. No one is owed anything good or bad, you get what you get and that's an end to it. If you manage to deal with it, well done, if you don't, who cares?

Wow you cant have read very far then. I have read a lot more stupid things in my time, than questioning why lots of lovely people close to you have died recently.

Reply 17

Invocation

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bad things arn't limited to nice people. bad things happen to as many nice people as they do to bad people

Reply 18

Note

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I agree with puppy. But doesn't that just make our existance more meaningful if we decide it to be? Fairness is then up to us to create both within ourselves and for other people. Some things you just cant prevent like the cancer, but other things you can, like if you see someone being bullied.

Remember, that it is the fight that makes us who we are and we become better by it. I was due to die earlier this year but got through it, and whilst it may not have been the most comfortable of situations, I am glad for every moment of it.

Reply 19

Audacious

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Guys, sh*t happens...to both nice and nasty people...its the way of the world. My best friend died of leukeamia(sp?) 18months ago...that wasnt fair and i still find it hard to deal with now, but you just gotta put a brave face on and move on.

almost 6 years ago(when i was 12) a guy tried to rape me, and would have done had said friend not been there. As a 12 year old, i didnt think of karma or anything, it took a while, but i came round. I survived.

Life will NEVER EVER be fair of just or work out the way we want it to but we just gotta move on.

Im sorry you know nice people that naff stuff has happened too, but most people do...Puppy may have been slightly skewed in that this is the stupidest thing he has ever read, but they are right in the fact you have to make a concious effort to move on, to deal...not easy but true

Its hard when someone you love and respect dies, and you look to blame anyone you can, but at the end of the day, is blaming bad karma or luck gonna bring 'em back?

Why do bad things always happen to the nicest people?

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