How do you cope with the guilt of leaving your parents?Watch
I'm from Italy but I moved in London two years ago, and lately I've been worrying about something I never truly considered before, perhaps cause I'm going to start Uni this fall and my life is heading more and more far away every day from my country, as I really don't want to go back.
Long story short, as the thread's title suggest, I feel guilty for leaving my parents. They're still relatively young (55 and 64) and healthy, and I understand it's normal to leave the nest at some point; I don't know if it's the distance making it worse or what, but lately I'm really having a hard time dealing with it.
I'm wondering how Americans deal with it (as far as I understood they easily move several states away from their parents with no big fuss) for example.
Anyway, sorry for the long message; the question still stands: how do you deal with the guilt of being far away?
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Long answer: it's natural to feel like you want to go back. But this will pass. It will be saddening for your parents but to them it's the end of a chapter and they'll just have to turn over for the next page in life. Besides, there's no excuse not to stay in touch what with Skype and various IM apps available (unless....you don't have internets)
I am in the student room because I am now a student again, back at Sheffield university as a distance learner. I can visit when I come across for my study weekends. They would have seen more of me and their grandchildren if I had lived in the same town but hey life does not always work like that. If the human race had never wandered think of the way our globe would have looked!
I have my own children who are studying in UK and to be honest I felt it was my responsiblity as a parent to make sure that they did not feel guilty to leave me at home. I picked up my studies and I use their rooms while they are away . When they come home they know I am delighted, but they also know that I have a life beyond them. Maybe it was my own experience that shaped the way I planned for them leaving once I realised they were heading for university.
So even though your parents miss you I am sure that their life continues and you will find ways of keeping in touch - Skype, phones, the odd postcard if you go out for the day and occasional weekends will remind your parents that you are thinking about them and that you appreciate them. Good luck with your life choices.